The 20 Biggest Fears Of Narcissists
They don’t look like they fear anything, do they?
Narcissists really do walk around acting as if they are perfect. If you were to ask them what they’re scared of, they’d laugh in your face and tell you to move out of their way.
Well, I’m here to tell you the truth.
Narcissists are petrified of more than you have ever known…
…Until now.
Here, I unlock the 20 biggest fears of narcissists, so you don’t need to embarrass them by asking them what they’re scared of ever again.
When The Narcissist Can’t Sleep At Night
Tick, tock, tick, tock,
3am?!
What’s keeping the narcissist up at night?
It’s likely to be thinking about their fears, as believe it or not, they cross their minds from time to time.
Those fears remain buried under the guise of the charmer – the person everybody sees when they initially speak to the narcissist.
Well, I’ve got my shovel, and I am about to dig each fear up.
#1 It’s Expose Time!
Imagine the look of terror on the narcissist’s face when you expose them. It’ll be brief, sure. If you blink, you miss it.
Because soon enough – that fear will convert into rage – an emotion you’re probably much more familiar with when you think about the narcissist in your life.
Before that rage, that fear will be evident. The idea of you telling everybody the true character of the narcissist fills them with an impalpable dread.
It all starts to crumble.
They’ve nowhere to hide, and they cannot fool everybody anymore. At least some people will believe you, and that’s all you’d need to expose them fully.
So yes – it keeps the narcissist up at night to think you could do such a thing, knowing as soon you do so, their power diminishes.
#2 Control: Officially Lost
Get ready for the narcissist’s foundation to shake, rattle and roll.
Losing control is last on their list of ideals, but it’s a stark possibility when the victim turns to victor.
Seeing through the narcissism to a person who, underneath it all, is just a small-minded, afraid nobody, makes them more worried than you could imagine.
If that control goes – what do they have?!
#3 The Truth is Feared
What is the truth?
We all know, don’t we?
We’re dealing with a person, or several people if you’re really unlucky, who aren’t who they say they are.
There is a truth behind the lies, and behind that is the ongoing fear from the narcissist that their lies will be exposed.
Believe me when I say that the narcissist will do what it takes to silence their victims, but that doesn’t mean the truth will never prevail.
#4 The Ordinary
Ordinary means what to you? For me, it’s just an average day, with nothing standing out. No one big moment.
Narcissists hate not standing out. They always want to be the center of attention, and if they’re seen as normal, or ordinary, that will be the biggest threat – and fear – to their grandiose personality.
#5 Being Alone
Imagine having nobody to manipulate. When they need to suck the life out of another – there’s not a soul available.
Narcissists need people around not just to do this with, but also, those people are needed to influence.
The absence of others is the absence of validation and supply, and without a push from others for attention, the narcissist won’t fully know how to function.
They fear being alone for that very reason.
#6 Bye Bye, Attention
Invisibility is the true enemy of the narcissist. They need to be the honey, while the bees buzz around them constantly.
Without that noise, there is silence.
And in silence, there will be zero attention.
#7 Others… Happy… Really?
No single soul on the planet has the right to be happy (according to the narcissist). If you’re so happy, what could you possibly be so happy about?
How dare you!
Your smile is enough to have it wiped right off your face, and the narcissist is going to love doing so.
Passing judgment. Criticizing you. Bringing you down. Triggering you. Disappointing you. Giving you the silent treatment and yelling at you. Whatever it takes. Why?
Simple! They fear that your happiness will create this brand new version of you that will tolerate the narcissist just that little bit less.
#8 How Victims Self-Love
Listen, if you’re loving yourself, then you are loving the narcissist less. It’s great for you – and that’s exactly why it isn’t good for them.
The fear that comes from you loving yourself is that you will decide you’re too good for them – and leave.
#9 Financial Independence
You’ve got your money sorted, you earn a large buck or two, and there’s nothing they can do about it.
Seeing you take care of your finances so well, there’s little to no chance of them taking it all away from you – leaving you dependent on them.
Big fear!
#10 “So What?”
Ah, so you’re indifferent, are you?
That’s a big ache in the gut for the narcissist, who thrives on your reactions. If you don’t have any ones to give, consider yourself immune to the narcissist…
…New narcissist fear unlocked!
#11 Brave Enough To Be Accountable
Accountability is a huge fear of the narcissist, who usually ensures that what they’re doing will never be found out.
They don’t want to own up to any wrongdoing – so you can safely tick this as a huge fear of theirs.
#12 Losing to Legality
If you want to really send shivers down the narcissist’s spine – threaten them with legal action.
It’s the epitome of doing wrong for all to see as well – which only adds to their nightmare!
#13 New Victims: Gone
Just when they thought they had a good victim in you – you up and leave.
Their plans turn to dust, and they become vulnerable all over again, with no supply!
#14 Strong? Good!
Your strength kills narcissists. It acts as such a strong repellent that you would be hard pushed to see any narcissist stick around.
They’re scared of you! What narcissist wants to admit that they’re scared of somebody?!
#15 Being Alone
You can forgive babies for not wanting to be alone – but grown adults? This isn’t about normal loneliness that can really affect people – this is the fear of having no life to suck out of anybody.
#16 Mirror Mirror On The Wall
Don’t look into it if you’re a narcissist, because we all know – including you – that you are not the fairest of them all!
The biggest fear of a narcissist is doing so, and seeing that ugliness stare back at them.
#17 “No Thanks, Bye”
Rejection.
Ouch.
A narcissist experienced enough of this as a child, and it is a huge trigger for them; a reminder that they aren’t good enough for somebody.
#18 Criticism
What do you mean they aren’t perfect?
You cannot tell a narcissist that they have faults! That’s their job to make you feel shitty – not the other way around!
#19 Partners In The Know
Knowing who the narcissist really is means the power shifts from them, to you.
What does that mean for you? Well, you’re likely to be a person who wants to do bad with their power, but it does mean you no longer get played by them.
They fear this – they fear you having an education in narcissism. You have the power to expose and all them out.
A powerless narcissist is not a happy narcissist.
#20 Getting Over: Moving On
If you’ve gotten over a narcissist and moved on – you’ve done what they thought you’d never do.
Always expecting you to be around to use and abuse, you’ve finally made your way out of it.
While that’s a moment for real pride, it’s a moment of fear for them.
What do they do now?
