Last Updated on July 4, 2022 by Alexander Burgemeester
Why do you want to make a narcissist addicted to you? Is it because you know you can never have a normal relationship with them? Or maybe you want to get revenge on your narcissistic ex-boyfriend?
Whatever the reason, it’s essential to understand that you’re playing a dangerous game. Listen! Narcissists don’t play fair, and unless you’ve got no spine, you’re in for a rough ride. Are you strong enough?
Can you handle the emotional turmoil and the insults that will be a part of this challenge? Because that’s what you’re going to get. When the narcissist realizes he’s losing, he’ll have a tantrum, spit his dummy out of the pram and do everything in his power to get you to concede to his demands.
How to make a narcissist addicted to you? Narcissists are relentless. And they won’t stop until they get what they want. But if you are serious about making a narcissist addicted to you, you’ll learn exactly what you need to do right here.
Can a Narcissist be Addicted to You?
Yes, they can, but it won’t be long, so don’t get too excited. If you didn’t know, a narcissistic personality disorder is classed as a mental illness.
One of the Narcissistic traits is that they need a constant source of narcissistic supply. Narcissistic supply is the admiration, attention, and praise they need at all times.
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Deep down, they are insecure, and they hate themselves. To mask this, they create a false self, who they present to the world. To manage their feelings of self-loathing, they must be around people who will tell them how great they are.
If they don’t get it, they’ll move on to the next. So, if you want to play this game, there will be a time limit.
I can’t tell you how long, but once they realize that you’re not going to be their source of supply, they’ll walk.
How to Make a Narcissist Dependent on You?
By being mean and nasty! Unless you’re a mean and nasty person by nature, you’ll really need to ditch your nice girl personna and get into character for this one.
In her book, ‘Why Men Love Bitches’, author Sherry Argov states even though women have been socialized to be needy nurturers, desperate to be in a relationship, most men don’t want this type of woman.
While Argov was researching the content for her book, she found that men secretly desire strong women. They run a mile as soon as they detect a hint of desperation.
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Narcissists are no different; they hate needy women (or men) but not for the same reason as the average man. An impoverished woman won’t satisfy a narcissist’s cravings the way a strong woman will because she’s too easy to break down.
She’s predictable, he knows how to push her buttons, and it won’t take long to destroy her self-esteem because she had very little to begin with.
A strong woman on the other hand is a lot more exciting to a narcissist. They need to be more strategic, and invent new ways to get her hooked. So if you put on the tough girl act, he won’t be dependent on you because he’s crazy about you and wants to be with you desperately.
Instead, he’ll be dependent on you because he’s become obsessed with the day when he finally gets to destroy your self-esteem.
8 Ways to Make a Narcissist Addicted to You
The good thing about narcissists is that they’re predictable, and if you understand how they work, it’s straightforward to manipulate them. So here are eight ways to make a narcissist addicted to you:
#1 Look Good at All Times
Whether you’re just stepping out of the house to put the garbage out or to take your mom to the dentist, make sure you look good at all times.
Narcissists are fanatical with appearance, if they’re in a room full of people, they’ll target the best-looking person. The one who every man or woman is drooling over.
So, to start, to get the narcissist’s attention, looking good at all times is essential, because you never know where you might bump into him.
When a narcissist finds someone attractive, they’ll do whatever it takes to get them.
#2 Act Like the Narcissist Doesn’t Exist
Narcissists thrive on attention, but not any attention, they want it from their potential victim. The chase is thrilling to the narcissist, and the harder they have to work to get someone, the more satisfied they are when they finally break them down.
Another reason why ignoring them will make a narcissist obsessed with you is because they hate to lose. Life is one big game to them, and they’re in it to win it.
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So when you walk into a room and your narcissist is there, walk past him, act as if you haven’t seen him and go and mingle with other people. He’ll spend the rest of the evening chasing you around like a lost puppy.
Let the phone ring out at least three times before answering it when they call. The narcissist will call you all night if they have to.
#3 Don’t Fall For His Charms
The narcissist will take you through three stages in a relationship.
The love bombing stage – where they’ll treat you like royalty until they know they got you hooked.
The devaluing stage – where they’ll start destroying your self-esteem, and finally, the discarding stage – where they’ll drop you like a hot potato.
If you want to make a narcissist obsessed with you, the key is to remain at the love-bombing stage. You can achieve this by acting unbothered by their chivalry. No matter what they buy for you, or where they take you, don’t act all gushy about it.
Say thank you and leave it at that. You’ve got to play the narcissist at his own game and keep your emotions to yourself.
The only way they can play you is if they know what cards you’re holding, so keep them close to your chest.
After a while, they’ll get frustrated and attempt to move onto the devaluing stage. They’ll test the waters to see how you react.
Expect them to start throwing random underhand digs at you. They’ll go for what they think you’re the most insecure about, like your weight, and might say something like, “Please don’t wear that white dress, it makes you look fat.”
When they make a comment like that, go toe to toe with them and spit back, “Yeah baby, I love having a bit of junk in my trunk!” They won’t know what to do with themselves after that.
#4 Play With Their Emotions
As mentioned, playing the narcissist at their own game is the only way to get him addicted to you.
Narcissists have mastered the art of playing with people’s emotions. It delights them to no end when they know they can play you like a puppet on a string. The narcissist thrives on knowing that they’re in control of their victim’s emotions.
Because they’re total control freaks, it gives them an immense feeling of satisfaction when they know they have the power to send their partner on an emotional roller coaster. By playing with the narcissist’s emotions, you’ll throw them off guard and completely overwhelm them, they won’t know what to do with themselves.
This involves being nice to them one minute and evil to them the next. You might want to start the day by serving them breakfast in bed, complimenting them all day, sending them random lovey-dovey text messages, give them great sex in the evening. And the following day, switch on them.
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When they call, give them an attitude, if you see them, point out all their flaws and act like a miserable cow. They won’t know what’s hit them, and they’ll be wracking their brains trying to work out what they did wrong.
#5 Become a Drama Queen
Narcissists are the biggest drama queens, they love being surrounded by negative energy, and will do everything they can to stir up conflict.
Since they like being around drama, it will have the narcissist eating out of the palm of your hand by bringing the drama. So you could do something like tell your narcissist that someone said something bad about them.
But when you tell them, don’t mention any names. Instead, say, “Listen, you need to be careful who you associate with because I’ve heard through the grapevine that some of your friends don’t have the nicest things to say about you.”
They are going to want to know what was said, and who said it, so they will keep bugging you until you give them the information. but there’s no information to give, so you’ll just keep dangling a carrot in their face.
#6 Give Them a Hint of What’s to Come
Okay, so I know I’ve told you not to fall into the love-bomb trap. Well, you’ll need to fall into it just for a split second.
So start acting as if you’re crazy about them so they think you’re hooked. Then, when they start abusing you, act upset and start giving off desperate vibes.
Then, through your fake tears, tell them how much their cruel and insensitive words hurt you because you love them so much. Keep this up for a week or so, and then return to normal.
They’ll get the shock of their life, and they literally won’t know what to do with themselves.
#7 Try and Fix Them
Narcissists have convinced themselves they’re perfect. They will never admit to being wrong, they don’t make mistakes and they’re always right.
This is how they see themselves, and this is how they expect other people to see them. You can make the narcissist very uncomfortable by refusing to acknowledge his perfection.
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Randomly tell them you’d like to take them to the hairdressers to get a haircut. Pinch their stomach and say, “I think you need to go harder at the gym you know, your rolls are starting to show.”
When they cook you dinner, say, “this doesn’t taste too great, I think you should buy a Jamie Oliver cookbook, my ex made us the best dinners from there.”
If you hear them arguing with someone, chime in and say something like, “why do you always feel the need to argue with people? Your behavior is absolutely ridiculous.”
These attacks on their self-esteem will make them feel awful, you’ll touch a very raw nerve, and they’ll start feeling unworthy of your love.
#8 Tell Them Yhey Can’t Live Without You
Narcissists love telling their victims that they’re nothing without them. It’s one of the strategies they use to hook their partners. Play the same game, but take it to another level.
Pay attention to all the areas they don’t function very well, it might be ironing, or tidying up. The next step is to spend about a week doing these things for them, making them dependent on you.
When you don’t come round to do his cleaning and ironing, they’ll call and ask why you’re not coming over.
It’s at this point that you tell them how useless they are and that they can’t function unless you’re at their beck and call. They’ll hate you for catching him out, but love you for having the audacity to say it.
How to Keep a Narcissist Hooked?
You won’t keep a narcissist hooked forever, but you can get them hooked. How long they’ll remain that way, I can’t tell you. Nevertheless, you’ll need to keep them on their toes at all times, and never let your guard down.
When the narcissist realizes that you’re nothing like their other victims, it will make the narcissist obsessed with you and want to know why. They will have sleepless nights trying to work out why they can’t break you.
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The path to victory is to keep them wondering, keep them intrigued, and wanting to know why you’re not like the others.
You’ll have them chasing their own tail going around and round in circles because they’ll never break you, andthey’ll never work out why.
So, there you have it, everything you need to know about making a narcissist obsessed or addicted to you.
Remember, this will take a lot of time and energy, as I’m sure you’re aware, narcissists are a different breed.
However, if you play the game right, you’ll have the narcissist on a leash in no time. But if that is a good thing….?
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5 thoughts on “How To Make a Narcissist Addicted To You?”
I did that in the beginning and she was chasing me leaving disturbing messeges saying i guess were done and claim she blocked me then would come back she liked me more this way when i let my guard down and gave her the control she takes me for granted now and comes and goes and leaves me in mystery it is torture!!
Is there any way to treat a narcissist as a human being that have a mental dissorder? Because in every article that I read, it seems to have a tendency of only “get away” and that, in a way, makes me think that there´s no solution for that mental illness, and that makes me feel as we are leaving a possibility for a relieve of their disorder, and leave them alone, wich is probably the fact that create their behaivor at first …
The problem is that most Narcissists don’t see their personality as a problem and rather as a strength. They almost never look for therapy because they are Narcissists but rather for secondary problems like depression or difficulties in relationships
yes I agree with you completelz…but i guess out of the pain thez can cause can reallz come the urge to protect yourself at anz cost. just have been discarded bz my 3rd one. never thought i would have another. my first boyfriend was quite full on although diagnosed with borderline. i spent 4 years with him, starting with 18. later i had a better, healthy relationship. not 4ever though and stumbled on and into a mild case who became the father of my eldest daughter. finally after deciding this would not be fullfilling in any way i found the love of my life and had two more children. ge died of cancer 5 years ago and left a deep pai and a void. guess what: my broken picker kicked in again and i am just out of a short term experiencce with a covert narcisist. the others had been extroverted, it took me some time to figure the subtle mind games out and
yes it was and still is draining
but gave me some of the most profound insight and self improvement in years. he is such a beautifull person with great ethics and an altruistic almost selfless mindset, very gentle and never loud not even out of tone
i still love him and if he is truly affectionate and YES he can be he is innocent and almost childlike
nevertheless tipical behaviour sets in and kicks you out of balance
but then there is that conundrum: if true love is supposed to be selfless how can i disregard him and still claim to love him? achieving the balance between selflove and still give him the attention he requires (nowadays as a friend and sometimes demanding flatmate) is a thin line. who can be really that selfless in a relationship? that is not what partners are supposed to be doing. and life can get tough and one might wish for a supportive companion and there are certain things they might feel to overwhelmed with them selves to be able to offer.
If this is something I want to do…does this mean I’m a narcissist? I relate to both “narcissist” and “empath”,…I think, I’m not really sure. I can say I felt motivated while reading your article and confess to giving it a considerable amount of consideration.