Alexander Burgemeester

I am standing in front of you with a huge red flag. I am waving it in your face, and I am yelling:  Never trust the narcissist with anything! Can you see me? Do you believe me, or are you going to give the narcissist you know the benefit of the doubt? I beg of … Read more

Boo-hoo for the narcissist. You left them. Does anybody want to pass them a tissue as they cry for the 29th time today? Before you assume they’re crying because they miss you, I want to correct you. They don’t miss you, they miss what you do for them. Without you, they’re alone. That is the … Read more

When presented with  the character of a narcissist, I could safely reel off a long list of destructive habits that come with them. From the way they go silent on you, to the guilt they place on you daily – they are toxic and terrible people. They’re abusers. But there’s one habit a narcissist has … Read more

Trusting the family of a narcissist can seem like a pretty normal thing to do. You meet them, they seem sweet, and over time, you feel like you can open up to them about different problems. You might even view them all as thoroughly decent people whom you have a connection with. I want to … Read more

We all know how toxic narcissists behave. By now, you are becoming experts in how their behavior affects everybody around them, namely you. Narcissists are brilliant at carrying out dark acts that ruin lives, all the while pointing the finger to you, and telling the world what a villain you are. The injustice is strong, … Read more

If a narcissist isn’t putting on a show, then what are they even doing? They thrive on having an audience watching them pretend to be good, righteous, and compassionate. They dwell on loneliness, so always make sure they appear the most helpful, especially during times of extreme stress or emergency. It’s their moment to prove … Read more

When a narcissist has a target in mind, that target usually comes with a set of character traits. They don’t just pick their next victim at random, it is instead, a well-thought out and executed process that they’ve perfected over the years. If you want to know why the narcissist picked you, then you first … Read more

Every narcissist thrives on wanting to be seen, heard, and respected. They command your attention, demanding you drop everything to be there for them, while in return, they give you nothing but a hard time. Years of abuse proves that the narcissist has been playing you from the start, but all that is set to … Read more

Do as I say, not as I do. Sounds familiar, doesn’t it? Narcissists want you to follow orders, not behavior, that’s why they are so contradictory. Their double standards are laughable, but when you’re stuck dealing with one, they can be difficult to deal with. So what kinds of double standards am I talking about? … Read more

Sometimes, we all need to tell ourselves some truths. If we haven’t got a good friend or relative rooting for us, it can be hard to know what the right thing to say or do is. That’s why it’s important to think about what you need to repeat to yourself when you want to go … Read more