Nobody likes a cheater, but when that cheating hits so close to home, the pain from experiencing it feels so much more raw.
You ask yourself questions like:
What did I do wrong?
Why am I unlovable?
What can I do to make them not cheat again?
Answer to all: STOP IT.
Cheating is only made possible by the cheater’s loose belief that they can have their cake and eat it too. It is not an act based on how you treat them.
It is a conscious choice – and an unacceptable one at that.
Narcissists like to further cause problems by allowing complete garbage to fall out of their mouth the moment they’re found out.
And I’ve got the most commonly used 25 right here.
Narcissists and Cheating: The Ego Feeder
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Narcissists will share themselves freely. They flirt outrageously. They pick up on any attention thrown their way to feed their insecure real self.
Yet they will masquerade as somebody who naturally attracts everybody.
And it nearly always leads to cheating.
Get Ready For The Pure Insanity!
#1 “If You’re Going to Accuse, I Will Fulfill”
Accusing them of cheating might present more like fear that they will, but narcissists don’t see it that way.
They see your insecurity as an attack on them – so they can go out and provide your fears with a toxic, realistic twist of reality.
#2 “You’re Imagining All Of This”
Oh, that old chestnut again! Seriously! You’d think the narcissist would have a new line by now.
If you suspect cheating, there’s a good reason, especially when it comes to narcissists.
#3 “Why Don’t You Speak To My Mom? She Will Tell You”
Oh, great. I’m sure Mom will have so much to say to protect and defend her precious child.
There’s a large chance if this is being thrown at you that the narcissist is also the Golden Child, so not a bad word will dare to be spoken.
Advice – don’t speak to Mom!
#4 “Why Are We Even Falling Out?”
Why?
Because you’re being unfair, unkind, and treating me like shit!
Any narcissist who acts to confuse you by being confused themselves needs to leave immediately. Your life could be so much better!
#5 “Look! You Made Me Do This!”
Nope. No. Forget it. Leave it out.
Nobody has the power to make anybody do anything.
And besides, why is the narcissist suddenly telling you that you have so much power, when usually they tell you the complete opposite?!
…Because it suits them!
#6 “I Can’t Help Being Attractive”
Not only do they admit they cheat, but they do so in such a way that actually inflates their ego further!
Let’s be honest – if you cheat – it’s not because of your warm, magnetic, sincere character, is it…
#7 “She’s a Coworker. Nothing More”
Woah there! We know that’s not true, now is it? Once a radar goes up on a female coworker, there’s usually little reason for it to go down.
And don’t get me wrong – men and women work together all the time – but you spot those red flags, and when they’re waving right at you, you just know.
#8 “It’s Not What You Think”
It’s exactly what you think. You’re reasonable, and you wouldn’t just accuse somebody if there wasn’t good reason.
Which is exactly why you’re here, with that heavy feeling in your gut that the person you thought loved you, is cheating.
#9 “We Go Way Back!”
Um, okay…
So what?
I know men and women who I met years ago, yet somehow I manage to remain friends with them.
Having a past or history with somebody doesn’t mean automatic permission to cheat.
#10 “Fine. Believe What You Want”
Yes, you will. And they won’t even fight it because they don’t care enough.
Tells you everything, really.
#11 “You’re Imagining This”
Stop gaslighting me!
If you’re seeing and hearing and understanding a shift in dynamic, or if you even have proof, never ever be talked out of your reality.
#12 “Just Allow Me To Explain”
Okay great, I look forward to it.
Whatever explanation they have, it won’t be a good enough reason for cheating.
There is no reason good enough in existence.
#13 “This Is Your Insecurity”
Insecurities can sometimes lead to assumptions, but narcissists make it very easy to assume the worst due to how badly they treat you, and how little they seem to care.
Don’t let the fat that you may be insecure deter you from digging deeper for the truth.
#14 “I Was Hacked!”
No you weren’t.
You cheated.
Stop blaming spammers and fraudsters.
The end.
#15 “Don’t Even Worry”
Don’t worry?
You cheated, and you don’t want me to worry?
As long as you’re okay, I should be, too?
Big nope!
#16 “You Made Me Cheat”
Did you really? Did you set it up? Did you pass one another’s number? Did you lead them to bed?
No. It was all their choice.
This answer is incredibly childish – and false.
#17 “I Didn’t Even Do Anything Wrong!”
Talk about setting the bar low.
Of course they did.
Cheating is wrong. You can’t set any authentic moral around the idea that it isn’t.
#18 “I Need My Freedom Some Way”
A statement from an entitled narcissist, to their victim.
Every time.
Why do they feel like the trapped ones, when all they do is get their own way and make all the rules?
Don’t listen to this one bit.
#19 “You’re Too Controlling!”
This is projection in its finest form!
You’re not the controlling one – they are. But to make themselves look better about cheating, they paint you as the villain.
#20 “I Was Bored. It Meant Nothing”
Spare me the details now – it’s too late.
If you are that bored, just leave.
Never allow this kind of attitude. Cheating might mean nothing to you, but it broke your heart.
#21 “It Was Just Once”
Oh, that makes it okay.
One time is enough to know that their willpower is low, their temptation is high, and their care for their spouse has gone right out the window.
Once is enough for most people, as any ounce of trust goes out the window.
#22 “If You Trusted Me, I Wouldn’t Need To Look Elsewhere!”
Why any narcissist feels they can just look elsewhere because their spouse doesn’t trust them is beyond me!
Again, you’re seeing a person so insecure with themselves that they need to seek somebody oblivious, with total blinkers on.
Don’t question me, don’t suspect me.
#23 “Wow. You’re So Paranoid”
You’re paranoid because you have something to be paranoid about!
Don’t let this other gaslighting phrase get in the way of you searching for, and seeking the truth.
#24 “So, I’m The Bad Guy”
Yes you are! My God. What about you cheating makes you think I could possibly be the bad person?!
Give me a break!
Narcissists, like the rest of us, have a choice. We have so many choices every single day.
Make. Good. Ones!
That’s all there is to it.
#25 “Don’t Tell Me You’ve Never Cheated”
You probably don’t need to tell the narcissist this because you’ve likely never cheated!
They will try to rope you into telling them something bad about you that you’ve done to make themselves feel better.
If I’m going down, then you’re coming with me!
You can stuff your immorality where the sun doesn’t shine!
