What a cruel world we live in when we have to read about the 16 things narcissists hate the most.
I don’t want to add to the cruelty, I just think it’s unjust that a person can carry so much hate around with them every day.
We are all trying to be happy, and live lives that are filled with compassion, and kindness and…
…Oh hold on. I think I just saw a narcissist throw up…
Hate? The Narcissist…?!
I know, right? Narcissists are usually such loving, happy, bright people. They’ve always got so much love in their hearts to gi-
Okay. I can’t. I tried. I just cannot rewrite the narcissist’s character.
They are what they are: full of hate and loathing for both you and themselves.
There is not a soul on this planet who can erase the detrimental effects narcissists have on their victims, but you can take control with knowledge.
So… what do they hate the most?
#1 Being Criticized
Listen, they’re not going to like it at all if you were to take them down a peg or two with a witty or critical comment.
It’s their job to make you feel shitty, not the other way around.
If you dish out what you perhaps receive on a daily basis, you’re going to be in for a world of misery as they take revenge on you.
What the narcissist hates the most here is how you are brave enough to contest, or throw this kind of comment your way.
I mean – how dare you?
#2 When They’re Ignored
Ignoring a narcissist is like starving them. Without your reactions, responses and emotions, they’re not going to have anything to fuel themselves with.
And it is quite literally that.
A car without gas has nowhere to go.
Ignoring them gives them nothing, and for them, that’s the worst way to live.
#3 Lack of Control
Control is the narcissist’s middle name. It’s where they thrive, and how they pursue the dynamics they’ve drawn out in their head.
There’s a place for you in their life, and it’s right where they want you to be.
If you deviate from that spot and dare to take a little control back, they will hate it, and hate you more for it, too.
#4 Expose Time!
Exposing a narcissist?
This is real stop the press material. The whole world they took their entire lives to build will crumble around them.
And it doesn’t matter who doesn’t believe you, because there are always going to be those who do.
And that’s really all you need in order to expose them properly – and the very reason they hate the idea of it.
#5 People Who Think Independently
What do you mean you have your own thoughts and opinions?!
This cannot be acceptable!
You’re supposed to believe every word that comes out of the narcissist’s mouth, and you’re supposed to apologize for daring to have your own frame of mind.
This is another form of control, but specifically one they hate because your strong mind denotes a strong character.
#6 Confrontation
While they may act all loud and proud, narcissists actually hate the thought of being confronted, or confronting somebody.
Anything that draws attention to them, or that may have the potential to highlight their flaws and lies is a big no-no.
Instead, they want to simmer under the radar, and point that attention to the innocent – like you.
#7 The Truth in Their Face
What am I supposed to do with this?
Well, for starters, it’d be nice if the truth would be an opportunity for an honest, open discussion between two adults.
No such chance!
In essence, narcissists hate the truth because it’s always something they want to avoid.
What a nice person you are.
How insecure they are.
How much they hate themselves.
How you don’t deserve to be treated this way.
These are all truths.
#8 Standing Up For Yourself
When the day comes where you decide enough is enough, and you stand up for what you believe in – yourself – everything changes.
The narcissist will hate that they have lost control of being about to, well, control you.
Now you’re pulling the strings a little more, they will be unable to steal your happiness and convert it to misery.
#9 When They Can’t Manipulate
You clock onto their antics, and you no longer are the person who is swayed one way or another. You understand your truth, and you remain steadfast in it.
It’s a glorious day for you, but the narcissist? Not so much.
They live for manipulation. Now they can’t, they hate it.
This does not mean you go back to old habits.
#10 Your Support System
If you’ve got people around you that you love, the narcissist will see every single one of them as your allies; those who will defend you in any conflict.
The less people fighting in your corner, the more chance they have to make you look like the narcissist if the shit ever hits the fan.
#11 Caught in The Web of Deceit
Catching a narcissist red handed! I can’t think of a better position to be in. Of course, they will want to and try to worm their way out, but they hate having to do so. It’s more work for them!
#12 Feeling Small
All narcissists wish they were a little bit taller in character, so they constantly pretend to be.
In reality, their personality is small, coated in a thick layer of pretence.
If they’re made to feel what they actually are, it’s a truth they will be unable to run away from.
Ouch!
#13 Success That Isn’t Theirs
Wow, congratulations on getting your college degree!
You must be so proud!
Let’s go for celebratory drinks!
Well, you can count on the narcissist to at the very least stir up a lot of trouble for attention if you succeed in anything.
They will do anything to hold you back or put you down because they aren’t getting any attention.
You can’t possibly be better than them!
#14 Boundaries
If you want to draw an invisible line of protection around you, the narcissist will hate you for it.
Honestly, it’s something they dread. Their entitlement runs so high, all they want is to constantly overstep.
If you start refusing to let them, they are going to be seething on the inside.
#15 Not Getting Preferential Treatment
Move aside, I need to get to the front of the line!
Don’t you know who I am!?
No. Actually, nobody knows who you are because you aren’t more important than any of them – does that help at all?
Narcissists think the sun shines out of their behinds, and anybody who questions that is going to have a miserable time of it.
Automatic entitlement is a dangerous thing to insist on, and it reveals a lot about a person’s character.
#16 Empathy
Empathy is a trait seen as a weakness by the narcissist on the outside. On the inside, they struggle to understand how people can genuinely care so much.
It’s so beyond anything they can comprehend because they can’t feel a thing.
Care equals concern, and concern can stretch into the community and help heal and make a difference.
Narcissists don’t want you to do any of that. It means people will value you, and think highly of you, then all that attention and emotion should be added to their already too-large ego.
