Narcissists just seem to annoyingly have it all, don’t they?
You might think to yourself, “How do they get away with so much?”
Well, honestly, it’s because they’re experts at playing the game they wrote.
It can all change though, dear reader. And indeed – it does.
Where the narcissist ends up is going to shock you, and make you realize just how one moment can alter everything.
Narcissists: The Perfect Life
It’s the perfect painted picture, isn’t it? Narcissists want to be perfect, and they try very hard to ensure that image is kept up, no matter what.
They will make out like nothing is their fault. They want to be hard workers, so people know just how seriously they take their responsibilities.
They love to honor themselves by providing the best material goods you can think of. They want that nice car, big house, fancy clothes, and the latest phone.
On paper, they have it all. They project the perfect life to the world, so that world sees them as perfect.
What Do You Think?
Of course, we know they aren’t perfect – far from it, in fact!
There’s a part of some people who are really familiar with narcissists who know the trajectory ahead.
Before I get to that point though, I want you to think of one narcissist that you know. They might be a family member, a friend, somebody you work with, or even your spouse.
Once you have them locked firmly in your mind, I want you to think about how they are right now.
Are they more impossible than usual? Maybe they have a past of always getting what they want, and just being extremely lucky.
They have good health. They have great contacts. They live in a nice house that you wish you owned.
They don’t seem to rattle many cages, and they’re well respected both personally and professionally.
It’s all unfair, isn’t it? Especially when you know who they really are.
Without You..
This is the worst part – the part you know and are familiar with…
…Narcissists are nothing without you. They build their entire egotistical empire on making you feel the worst you’ve ever felt, and that’s what causes them to exceed even their own expectations.
But as soon as you throw a spanner in the works – as soon as the dynamics shift in any way, the narcissist’s mask and character begin to crumble.
They realize they cannot function without knowing they can openly abuse you at any moment.
They want it to continue for as long as possible, but they know it can’t because you’ve gone, you’ve left, or you’ve figured out who they are.
You’ve discovered the truth.
And That Is Why They Need You
They can’t play their game unless you sign up for it, and when you walk away, the game is officially over.
You have to remember this, friends, because it’s what is going to get you through your worst days with the narcissist:
They truly need you more than you need them.
You’ve been programmed to believe you need them and cannot survive without them, but that simply isn’t the case.
The reality is – they’re only able to do what they do because they have an open door to it.
When you shut that door, everything changes.
The Downfall
The downfall is almost immediate, but not necessarily obvious to all to start with.
You’ll notice a withdrawal. The narcissist is temporarily at a loss. Yes, they can move onto their next victim, but what if they have run out of people to manipulate?
What if there is no charm left in their charm bucket?
It’s easy to notice a narcissist look lost when they don’t know how to operate the people around them to their advantage.
They’ve used up all their options, and now it’s time to watch the demise.
…Even The Deterioration!
I have had conversations in the past with people I’ve met or know about their narcissistic parent.
When they were younger, the parent thrived knowing they could power play their children and spouse. Work was busy and they were always trying to produce ways to make everybody around them feel small.
As they aged, so did their character.
It became harder to manipulate children who were suddenly adults of their own, with more power to hold a thought, opinion, or goal they wanted to achieve.
They feel lost, and try to claw control wherever they can. Often that can look like lashing out, or trying to triangulate wherever possible.
They play on their age, with phrases like:
I used to be so much fitter than I am now.
I’m getting older. Nobody understands or sees me.
I’m poorly. Nobody helps me.
I wish I could turn the clock back.
It’s really as if they’re playing their own sad violin song, isn’t it? You almost want to roll your eyes because you know they’re playing on their age.
Aging is actually a privilege not everybody gets to experience, and that’s something worth remembering.
The problem with narcissists is how they use their age like it’s some kind of mental incapacitation.
They’re still very able to be narcissists.
They just fool less people.
Going Nowhere: Fast
The narcissist is declining!
It’s fast-moving – and I have to say that if you think it’s enjoyable – you wouldn’t be the first person with that opinion.
Finally – the day comes where not everything goes their way.
People get fed up with them blowing hot and cold.
There’s a shift in how they feel they deserve to be treated.
They understand the correlation between feeling negative and being around the narcissist.
They start to want to achieve goals for themselves and understand the narcissist is the one who holds them back.
Life starts wanting to be lived, and all the while those people are growing into theirs, the narcissist’s is shrinking.
Narcissistic abuse is only possible when you consciously or subconsciously give yourself up to the narcissist.
If you start to put yourself first, the narcissist has no choice.
And no – they don’t like it – but guess what…
…It’s not up to them.
There’s Never a Happy Ending
When it comes to narcissists, they never have a happy ending. They are infamous for becoming more and more impossible in older age.
Their stubbornness becomes almost petulant.
They crave being able to control the people they once did.
Their grudges are bigger than ever.
They understand that they are not the person they once were.
Narcissists end up miserable, sad and lonely. They always were, but as they age, these emotions become more prominent.
They never start caring, nor do they regret how they have acted.
It would be your mistake to assume they ever will, or do.
