#1 \u201cYou are wasting your time in that drama class, you need to study something a bit more academic if you are going to get anywhere in life.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n Narcissistic mothers want to control<\/a> every aspect of their children’s lives. Not because they want what\u2019s best for the child, but because they want to take the credit for any success that the child might have. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Wanting to become an actor\/actress is a very ambitious goal. Most people don\u2019t make it, and for those who do, it can take an exceptionally long time. <\/p>\n\n\n Therefore, narcissistic parents are less likely to encourage their children to move in this direction. But with an academic subject, their chances of success are higher. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The thought process behind this statement is, \u201cYou might not become a millionaire working as an accountant, but at least you won\u2019t be waiting tables in Los Angeles embarrassing me by begging for acting gigs!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Want to read more about this topic? I have written many articles about Narcissists in the Family<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Reading Suggestion:<\/strong> Maintaining Low Contact With Your Narcissistic Mother<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n #2 \u201cNow that you know how to behave, I feel comfortable referring to you as my favorite child again.\u201d <\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n With a statement like this, she is reminding her child that her love<\/a> is conditional. <\/p>\n\n\n\n In this way, he\/she will do everything they can to remain the favorite, even though their efforts will fail. <\/p>\n\n\n #3 \u201cYour school dance is next week isn\u2019t it? Well, I\u2019ve been invited to a real dance at a nightclub with my work colleagues.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n Narcissistic mothers compete<\/a> with their children, as random as this statement might appear, it\u2019s loaded with underlying messages. <\/p>\n\n\n\n What she\u2019s really saying is, \u201cDon\u2019t get too big for your boots honey, because you\u2019ll never reach my level.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n #4 \u201cDid you see how well Mary\u2019s son performed at practice today?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n Such statements are made to shame their children into doing better. Narcissistic mothers are notorious for placing crippling expectations on their children. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Reading Suggestion:<\/strong> Effects of Narcissistic Mothers on their Daughters<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n They expect them to be the best at everything, and if they\u2019re not, they make them feel stupid. One way of doing this is by playing the comparison game. <\/p>\n\n\n\n In other words, \u201cDid you see how excellent Mary\u2019s son was today? Well, that\u2019s the standard I\u2019m expecting from you next time.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n #5<\/strong> \u201cThere is nowhere else for you to go, you are going to need me for the rest of your life.\u201d <\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n All parents know that their children will eventually grow up and leave home. But cutting the apron strings is not an option for the children with a narcissistic mother. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Her manipulative tactics are used to break her children down so much that they will always feel dependent<\/a> on their mother. <\/p>\n\n\n\n What she\u2019s really saying here is: \u201cYes, you can move out, buy your own house, get married and have your own children if you please, but I\u2019m your mother, and I will always take first place in your life\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n #6 \u201cI won\u2019t be able to make it, I\u2019ve got a hairdresser’s appointment and I can\u2019t cancel it.\u201d <\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n Narcissistic mothers are often absent from their son\/daughter’s milestone life events. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Not because they genuinely can\u2019t make it, but because they are sending a clear message to their children that they are not important. <\/p>\n\n\n\n This is something a narcissistic mother will say to her child to excuse herself from a momentous event such as a graduation ceremony. <\/p>\n\n\n\n But in the same breath, she will tell her husband to lie to the people who matter so she doesn\u2019t look bad. <\/p>\n\n\n #7 \u201cOur mother and daughter bond is all we need, it\u2019s me and you against the world\u201d. <\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n You\u2019ve got a new boyfriend that you haven\u2019t told your mother about, but your behavior has changed so she knows. <\/p>\n\n\n\n You spend a lot of time on the phone, you make more of an effort with your appearance, and you go out more. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Reading Suggestion:<\/strong> Can a Narcissist Change?<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n There is an unspoken rule with narcissistic mothers that their children are not allowed to have relationships because they will lose their source of supply. <\/p>\n\n\n\n With a statement like this, your mother is indirectly trying to tell you that you don\u2019t need a boyfriend because you\u2019ve got her. <\/p>\n\n\n #8 \u201cMy friends are always telling me you\u2019re a spoiled little brat, but I defend you.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n A narcissistic mother will label her children as spoiled if they dare to express their own opinion. You are not allowed to have independent<\/a> thoughts, feelings, or ideas. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If they don\u2019t line up with her wishes, you are being defiant. So to get you to conform to her will, she\u2019ll involve other people and say they\u2019ve said things they haven\u2019t said. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Making it appear that your mother’s friends agree with her is like having reinforcers. They become the invisible bullies that assist in coercing you into submission. <\/p>\n\n\n #9 \u201cDon\u2019t try to manipulate me with your tears\u201d. <\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n Saying something like this is how narcissistic mothers control the emotions of their children. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Accusing you of being manipulative because you\u2019re crying is her way of saying that your feelings are irrelevant. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Now you know not to cry in front of your mother because you\u2019ll be punished for having emotions. <\/p>\n\n\n Again, narcissistic mothers will say anything to control their children. The reality is that she really doesn\u2019t want to shout at you. What she wants is for you to act like an obedient little puppy at all times. <\/p>\n\n\n\n She has extremely unrealistic expectations, and in her world, you should be able to read her mind and pander to her every need without her having to say anything. <\/p>\n\n\n\n But since you\u2019re human and not a robot, it\u2019s an impossible feat. <\/p>\n\n\n Narcissistic mothers have one aim, and that\u2019s to manipulate and control their children. <\/p>\n\n\n\n They achieve this through what they say to them. Here are some reasons why narcissistic mothers say what they say:<\/p>\n\n\n\n A mother with narcissistic traits can be the best parent in the world as long as her children are obedient. She will shower them with love and attention as long as they are making her feel good. <\/p>\n\n\n\n But she has a Jekyll and Hyde relationship with her son\/daughter, and the moment the mother is not getting her needs met by the child, she turns into a monster. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Reading Suggestion:<\/strong> How to deal with a Narcissistic Mother?<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n The child quickly learns his or her role in the relationship, but they are left in a constant state of confusion because of the mixed signals of approval and punishment. <\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s easy to point the finger at a mother who treats her children in this way. However, the reality of the situation is that it\u2019s not her fault. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Yes, she is a fully grown adult and she should know the difference between right and wrong. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Unfortunately, she doesn\u2019t, and that\u2019s not because she chooses to, but because she was probably raised in a similar environment, and that\u2019s all she knows. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Oprah Winfrey once made a very profound statement when being interviewed about her mother who abandoned her. <\/p>\n\n\n\n She said, \u201cMy mother loved me the best way she knew how.\u201d <\/em>In other words, you can\u2019t give a person what you don\u2019t have. <\/p>\n\n\n\n For this reason, narcissistic mothers struggle with developing an emotional connection and expressing empathy towards their children.<\/p>\n\n\n\n One of the characteristics<\/a> of narcissistic personality disorder is that the individual needs constant praise. If they\u2019re not getting it, they feel depleted and unworthy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n One way for a narcissistic mother to get the kind of attention she craves is through her children\u2019s success. <\/p>\n\n\n\n For example, if the child receives recognition for outstanding athletic performance, she will say something like: <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cI worked double shifts Monday through Saturday to make sure he had the best equipment for his training. Every Sunday, I\u2019d wake up early, even though I was completely exhausted, to take him to his games and support him.\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n The conversation then switches to what a wonderful mother she is, and how lucky he is to have such a self-sacrificing loving mom. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Narcissistic mothers tell their children how they should behave, act, and what decisions they should make. <\/p>\n\n\n\n As a result, the children become lost in who they think they should be because they\u2019ve never had the chance to explore who they truly are. <\/p>\n\n\n\n They are afraid of their children becoming independent because she loses her source of supply. Therefore, to enforce compliance, and to ensure the child remains as the mother desires, she says things like, <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cWhy can\u2019t you do anything right?\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n After her son gets a \u2018B\u2019 instead of an \u2018A\u2019 in his maths class. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Being raised by a narcissistic mother is very distressing, and it will push your mental health to the limit. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If you\u2019re over the age of 18, and you\u2019ve saved enough money, I would suggest moving out as the first step. In this way, you can keep her at arm’s length without her causing too much disruption to your life. <\/p>\n\n\n\n May I add, even if you do move out, you will still have challenges because narcissists don\u2019t give up that easily. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Reading Suggestion:<\/strong> How are sons of Narcissistic Mothers affected later in life?<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n But they\u2019ll be nowhere near as bad as they were when you were living under the same roof as your mother. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Here are some tips on the best way to respond to a narc mother:<\/p>\n\n\n\n A boundary<\/a> is like an invisible line drawn between you and your family, friends and loved ones. <\/p>\n\n\n\n It says, \u201cYou can\u2019t come any further than this point.\u201d <\/em>However, as you are well aware, narcissists are very difficult to deal with, and establishing boundaries isn\u2019t going to be an easy task, but it\u2019s possible. <\/p>\n\n\n\n With mentally stable people, you can just tell them what your boundaries are and they\u2019ll respect them, you don\u2019t have this privilege with a narcissist. Instead, you\u2019ll need to show them. Here\u2019s how:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Everyone is entitled to accept or reject certain behavior from others. What\u2019s good for the goose is not going to be good for the gander, and it\u2019s up to you to make that choice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n For example, you can tolerate harmless banter, but sarcasm isn\u2019t for you. You may be okay with the passionate expressions of opinions, but bullying and name-calling are unacceptable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If you\u2019re having a conversation with your mother, and she resorts to the latter, say something like, <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cIf you keep calling me names, we\u2019ll have to have this conversation another time.\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n If she continues with her aggressive behavior, walk away, or hang up the phone. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The more information you give to narcissists, the easier it is for them to control you. One aspect of boundary setting is understanding that you have the right to decide what you share with others. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Regardless of the fact that she\u2019s your mother, you don\u2019t need to justify your actions, thoughts, or feelings to her. Quite frankly, it\u2019s none of her business. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If she comes at you with a negative remark, respond with something like: \u201cI respect your opinion, and I\u2019ll give it some thought.\u201d <\/em>Knowing full well that it went in one ear and out of the next. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If your mother demands an explanation, say, \u201cIt\u2019s personal, and I\u2019d rather not talk about it right now.\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Again, knowing full well that you\u2019re never going to talk about it, but it will deescalate the situation and get her to leave you alone. <\/p>\n\n\n\n You don\u2019t need anyone\u2019s permission to remove yourself from a toxic and unhealthy interaction. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If you\u2019re reading this, I\u2019m assuming you\u2019re no longer a child, which means your mother has no right to determine what\u2019s healthy for you, that\u2019s your choice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n When things start getting uncomfortable, look at your watch and saying, <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cSorry, I\u2019ve got to leave, I have a meeting at 4 pm. We\u2019ll finish this conversation another time.\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n You could also pretend as if you\u2019ve got to make an important phone call. The bottom line is whatever you need to do to get out of the situation, do it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If you\u2019re not sure how to play the sidestepping game, watch a few politicians in action. <\/p>\n\n\n\n During interviews, when they don\u2019t want to answer intrusive questions, they\u2019ll skillfully maneuver around them by answering a question they would have preferred the journalist asked that would help promote their agenda. <\/p>\n\n\n\n In other words, they change the subject. You can use the same strategy with your narcissistic mother by gracefully changing the subject. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Reading Suggestion:<\/strong> 21 Signs of a Narcissistic Mother<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n One of the most effective ways to do this is to get her to talk about herself because narcissists love it when the spotlight is on them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Now, this one is risky, because she might go on a verbal rampage. But since you\u2019ve probably heard it all before, you\u2019ve really got nothing to lose. Narcissists always test their victims to see what they can get away with. <\/p>\n\n\n\n They do this because they\u2019re desperate for approval and attention to mask their feelings of unworthiness and emptiness. <\/p>\n\n\n\n However, narcissists don\u2019t like strong-willed people who are not going to put up with their nonsense. One of the requirements for narcissistic supply is a weak-minded victim. <\/p>\n\n\n\n When you start naming your mother’s behavior, it will strike an uncomfortable chord within her which may trigger narcissistic rage (I\u2019ll get into this shortly, but eventually, when she realizes that she can no longer bully you, she\u2019ll look for someone else to pick on. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Calling her out might look like this, \u201cAre you trying to hurt my feelings, or belittle me?\u201d <\/em>Or, \u201cI\u2019ve noticed that when I start talking about what\u2019s going on with me, you shut me down and direct the conversation towards yourself.\u201d <\/em>Say it with confidence, and in such a matter-of-fact way that it shocks her into silence. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Setting boundaries involves knowing what consequences you\u2019re going to enforce if your boundaries are violated. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Thinking about what consequences to enforce after the violation has occurred won\u2019t work. <\/p>\n\n\n\n You need to make up your mind about them beforehand so that when your mother ignores the boundary (which she will), you can enforce the consequence immediately. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If not, your mother will continue to think that she can walk all over you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Narcissists get their fix from negative energy; they love gaslighting, manipulating, insulting, humiliating, and criticizing others. Narcissists take advantage of people who are emotionally, and mentally vulnerable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The narcissist will break you down further when they see you\u2019ve got a fragile state of mind. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Since your mother created you physically and mentally, she\u2019s fully aware that you are weak, she loves the fact that she can control you and drive the conversation in the direction that she desires. <\/p>\n\n\n\n There is absolutely no point in trying to argue<\/a> with your narcissistic mother, here\u2019s why:<\/p>\n\n\n\n No matter how hard you try to get her to see things from your point of view, she never will. Not only does she lack empathy, which means she is incapable of understanding how you feel. <\/p>\n\n\n\n According to relationship consultant Carrie Wynn<\/a>, narcissists don\u2019t care about your point of view, and so they won\u2019t even bother trying to understand it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s in your own best interests not to engage in a heated discussion with a narcissist because you\u2019ll walk away feeling depleted, and emotionally exhausted. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Don\u2019t underestimate the power of a narcissist, they are masters at deception and hate to lose. Therefore, your mother will use every trick in the book to avoid communicating with you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n She will do things like dominating the conversation by talking in circles and saying things that don\u2019t make any sense. She will change the subject completely and use projection to make you feel guilty. <\/p>\n\n\n\n In most cases, you won\u2019t notice the conversation has changed until you realize you\u2019ve taken the bait and you\u2019re now discussing something that\u2019s completely unrelated. <\/p>\n\n\n\n This strategy is used to confuse and derail you so that you become so frustrated you end the argument by agreeing, and your narcissistic mother will feel like she\u2019s won. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Have you ever tried speaking to a brick wall? Probably not, but you\u2019d imagine that it was impossible considering the fact that it\u2019s a piece of material devoid of the ability to communicate. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Well, arguing with a narcissist can be like speaking to a brick wall when they decide to stonewall you. This tactic involves refusing to listen or cooperate with you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Your mother might walk out of the room, or hang the phone up, and then freeze you out for days. If you live in the same house as her, she\u2019ll literally act as if you\u2019re not there. <\/p>\n\n\n\n You\u2019ll knock on her door, she won\u2019t answer, you\u2019ll see her in the kitchen and ask if you can talk, and she\u2019ll act as if she hasn\u2019t heard a word you\u2019ve said. <\/p>\n\n\n\n You\u2019ll call her back to back, and she won\u2019t answer the phone. When your mother starts acting like this, just know you\u2019ve been stonewalled! <\/p>\n\n\n\n Most arguments are about trying to determine who is at fault. Two rational people having this type of debate can typically come to an amicable compromise, and admit the role they\u2019ve both played in the situation. <\/p>\n\n\n\n You won\u2019t get this from a narcissist<\/a> because they believe they\u2019re always in the right. If you even so much as attempt to insinuate that your mother is to blame, she\u2019ll play the deflection game, and narcissists are masters at this. <\/p>\n\n\n\n You may have caught her in the most blatant of lies, but she\u2019ll deny it until hell freezes over. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Narcissists do this to irritate you, confuse the situation, and cause overwhelm because when you feel like this, you\u2019ll eventually surrender. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Your mother will do everything in her power to intimidate and bully you. It is impossible to win an argument with a narcissist because they don\u2019t fight fair. <\/p>\n\n\n\n She\u2019ll pull out every weapon in her arsenal to shut you down. She\u2019ll call you names, bring up your past, and may even start a physical fight. Any form of self-defense from you will lead to emotional abuse in the form of accusations of being too sensitive. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Narcissists are the most illogical people you\u2019ll ever meet. Nothing they say or do makes any sense. To them it makes perfect sense, but to the outsider looking in, it\u2019s complete foolishness. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Case in point…you walk in on your mother stealing from your purse. You actually see her taking the money out of your bag and putting it into her pocket. <\/p>\n\n\n\n She will argue tooth and nail that you were seeing things, and that she was just moving your bag because it was in her way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Why are you going to waste your time arguing with someone who is determined to convince you that you\u2019re the crazy one because you\u2019re seeing something that didn\u2019t happen? <\/p>\n\n\n\n You will get to the point where you desperately want to change your mother. Not only do you want her to be happy, but you want the same loving, caring, mother your friends seem to have been blessed with. <\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s very noble of you to want to change your mother, but the reality is that there is a possibility that she\u2019ll never change. <\/p>\n\n\n\n According to psychologist Mark Ettensohn<\/a>, as with all personality disorders, the journey to healing is a difficult one. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Your mother will need therapy with a qualified mental health professional to help her understand how her upbringing and life experiences have contributed to her disorder. <\/p>\n\n\n\n In terms of the empathy deficit, studies<\/a> have found that narcissists do have the ability to see and feel things from another person\u2019s perspective, but it will take time. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Additionally, the narcissist’s greatest barrier to healing is their own narcissism. <\/p>\n\n\n\n As the old adage goes, \u201cAdmittance is the first step to cure.\u201d <\/em>Unfortunately, it is very rare for a narcissist to look within, evaluate their life, and come to the conclusion that they need help. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Finally, even if they do make it into a therapist’s office, it will be a mammoth task to keep them there because of their strong desire for instant gratification. Your mother will find it difficult to put in the work required to change. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Don\u2019t ever make the mistake of recommending therapy to your mother, this will infuriate her, and trigger narcissistic rage. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Narcissistic rage happens when they feel that their self-worth or self-esteem has been injured. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Despite their show of confidence, narcissistic people are terribly insecure, and they live carefully constructed lives to ensure that their true selves are never revealed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n By telling your mother you think she needs therapy, you are basically saying that you can see through her act, and that is her worst fear. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Even though you\u2019re trying to help her, her reaction to this will be narcissistic rage. This rage could manifest as yelling and screaming, or passive-aggressive avoidance and selective silence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Instead of expending all your energy trying to heal or fix her, send good thoughts her way, pray that she\u2019ll one day get sick and tired of carrying the burden of narcissism. <\/p>\n\n\n\n But don\u2019t attempt to remove that burden from her yourself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n As difficult as it is being raised by a narcissistic mother, you can\u2019t allow it to define you. Your mother may never know the meaning of true love because she\u2019s never experienced it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n So instead of expecting her to give it to you, give it to yourself. The voice that will have the most impact in your life is yours, so shut out hers, and tune into the power of your inner consciousness. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Get into the habit of speaking kindly to yourself daily. Regardless of what you\u2019ve heard all your life, you are worthy, magnificent, and you were born for a purpose. 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#10 \u201cThe only reason why I shout at you like this is because you don\u2019t know how to behave. <\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n![\"things](\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/things-narcissistic-mothers-say-Quote-8-1024x1024.jpg\")
<\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\nWhy Narcissistic Mothers Say What They Say: Manipulation and Control<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#1 As a Form of Emotional Blackmail<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
#2 A Lack of Emotional Connection and Empathy<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
#3 To Take Credit For Their Children\u2019s Success<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
#4 To Control Their Life Choices<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
What do You Say to a Narcissistic Mother? How do You Respond<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#1 Set Boundaries<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
1.1 What Are You Willing to Tolerate?<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n
1.2 Don\u2019t Explain, Defend, or Justify Yourself<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n
1.3 Walk Away From The Situation<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n
1.4 Play the Sidestepping Game<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n
1.5 Call Her Out<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n
1.6 Enforce the Consequences<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n
#2 Don\u2019t Argue Back – Ever!<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
2.1 She Lacks Empathy<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n
2.2 Narcissists Are Difficult to Communicate With<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n2.3 She Will Stonewall You<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n
2.4 Narcissists Don\u2019t Take Responsibility For Their Actions<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n
2.5 Narcissists Are Bullies<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n
2.6 You Are Fighting an Illogical Argument<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n#3 Don\u2019t Try to Heal or Fix Her<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
3.1 Therapy<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n
3.2 Their Own Narcissism<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n
3.3 Narcissistic Rage<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n
Final Thought<\/h2>\n\n\n\n