{"id":767,"date":"2014-07-30T14:12:56","date_gmt":"2014-07-30T13:12:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/?p=767"},"modified":"2022-08-15T14:43:47","modified_gmt":"2022-08-15T13:43:47","slug":"my-sons-wife-is-a-narcissist-how-to-let-him-know","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/my-sons-wife-is-a-narcissist-how-to-let-him-know\/","title":{"rendered":"My Son&#8217;s Wife Is A Narcissist: How To Let Him Know?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><strong>Q:<\/strong> <em>I believe <a aria-label=\"my son's wife of 12 years is a Narcissistic (opens in a new tab)\" class=\"rank-math-link\" href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/how-to-cope-with-a-narcissistic-daughter-in-law\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">my son&#8217;s wife of 12 years is a Narcissist<\/a>. She has always claimed to be Bipolar- but<\/em> has not been medically treated. But I have always suspected she had to suffer from some kind of personality disorder. I have done a lot of research on Narcissism in the last couple of weeks,<em> and she has almost all of the symptoms. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>There are so many reasons she has given my Son to leave her&#8230;but he <a aria-label=\"keeps coming back (opens in a new tab)\" class=\"rank-math-link\" href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/the-narcissist-keeps-coming-back-and-contacting-me\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">keeps coming back<\/a>. He is a very kindhearted, smart and loving Man. At this moment she has put him in a life-changing situation for he and their 3 children. I won&#8217;t go into the details- but I fear for he and his children&#8217;s happiness. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>My son has opened up and shared some of his concerns with her and their marriage- but as soon as she sees he is getting close to his family she draws him away with <a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/narcissistic-liar\/\" target=\"_blank\" aria-label=\"Narcissistic lies (opens in a new tab)\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" class=\"rank-math-link\">Narcissistic lies<\/a> and manipulation.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group has-white-color has-light-green-cyan-background-color has-text-color has-background\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-flow wp-block-group-is-layout-flow\">\n<p><strong>Reading Suggestions:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li><strong><a aria-label=\"How to Deal with a Narcissistic Sister?\u2028 (opens in a new tab)\" href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/how-to-deal-with-a-narcissistic-sister-does-she-blame-you-for-her-bad-behavior\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" class=\"rank-math-link\">How to Deal with a Narcissistic Sister?<\/a><\/strong><\/li><li><strong><a aria-label=\"How to Deal with a Narcissistic Brother? (opens in a new tab)\" href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/narcissistic-brother\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" class=\"rank-math-link\">How to Deal with a Narcissistic Brother?<\/a><\/strong><\/li><li><strong><a aria-label=\"Signs of a Narcissistic Mother in Law (opens in a new tab)\" href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/traits-of-a-narcissistic-mother-in-law\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" class=\"rank-math-link\">Signs of a Narcissistic Mother in Law<\/a><\/strong><\/li><\/ul>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><em>The word Narcissistic has come up- but not with any serious response from him. My heart is breaking. My question is- Should I just come out and share my fears and give him information about Narcissism? <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>I feel it is my duty as his Mom to let him be aware that this might be what is wrong with her. I don&#8217;t want to drive him away- but if he goes along with her lasted plan I will possibly never see him again.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>A:<\/strong> If you are (and it sounds like you are) a kind, supportive mother with her son&#8217;s best interest at heart&#8211;you will see him again. Where did she come up with &#8220;I&#8217;m bipolar&#8221;? Has she been diagnosed in the past? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There are many similarities between different personality disorders such as <a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/the-difference-between-borderline-and-narcissistic-personalities\/\" target=\"_blank\" aria-label=\"Borderline (BPD) and Narcissist (NPD) (opens in a new tab)\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" class=\"rank-math-link\">Borderline (BPD) and Narcissist (NPD)<\/a> and either of these could have &#8220;co-morbid&#8221; bi-polar symptoms, that is, they exist together. She could easily be a narcissist with bi-polar symptoms or have a bi-polar disorder with narcissistic features. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Only a clinical mental health professional would be able to diagnose these disorders. 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And remind him he is a smart, kindhearted and loving man. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Chances are he does not hear too many of those compliments at home. 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