But you can also stand up for yourself, set boundaries, and refuse their gaslighting strategies. Let\u2019s dive into how to piss off a narcissist<\/em><\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Did you see the way he performed last night? He was incredible!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n She\u2019s such a good wife. He\u2019s lucky to have her.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n They did a great job decorating their home. I love it.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n How to make a Narcissist feel bad?<\/a> <\/strong>The feeling like someone else is better than them. Very few things make them feel more miserable than that insecurity<\/a>.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n Their egos cannot comprehend that other people deserve recognition and attention in the same ways they do. Instead of feeling happy for someone else\u2019s success, they tend to experience confusion, jealousy, and even contempt. <\/p>\n\n\n\n When they hear you praising someone else, they will usually respond by:<\/p>\n\n\n\n In other words, a narcissist doesn\u2019t really know how to be happy for someone else. Instead, they will search to find a narrative that suits their <\/em>personal success story.<\/p>\n\n\n Narcissists assume they know the best way to live life<\/a>. For instance, if they love golfing, you\u2019re an idiot if you don\u2019t enjoy the game. If they enjoy a particular restaurant, you lack good taste if you prefer somewhere else.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Pursuing your own interests can easily piss off a narcissist, especially when your preferences clash with theirs. Some major conflicts of interest can include:<\/p>\n\n\n\n To retaliate, they may tease or criticize you for your choices. Or, they may try to sabotage you altogether. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Their efforts to belittle you often come from a place of insecurity and fear. Deep down, narcissists feel afraid of losing power and worry about losing you to someone or something else. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Many narcissists are obsessed with earning and flaunting money<\/a>. Big houses, fancy cars, designer clothes- they want it all, and they want to show it off to everyone in the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Many times, they substitute love for money. They also may inflate their worth by trying to prove their love by how much stuff <\/em>they give you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Reading Suggestion:<\/strong> 11 Typical Examples of Narcissist text Messages<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n If you don\u2019t show much interest, they may feel oscillate between feeling embarrassed, confused, and irritated. What do you mean you don\u2019t want this? What\u2019s wrong with you? Anyone would kill to be in your shoes! You don\u2019t even realize how lucky you are. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s no secret that narcissists tend to be extremely selfish<\/a>. Their large egos leave little room for caring about other people. Subsequently, they perceive others as either pawns or challenges- not as entire people with complex thoughts and feelings. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If you choose to be generous or compassionate towards someone else, they will likely feel angry. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Reading Suggestions:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n They may demean you with mean comments like, why are you being such a martyr? <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Or they might try to stop you altogether with expressions like we don\u2019t have the money for you to just donate to charity right now. You need to focus your attention on our family.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s a misconception that narcissists only want weak-minded people in their lives. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Many narcissists do enjoy the company of intelligent and thoughtful people. There\u2019s just one caveat. They still need to be the best. And if they\u2019re not the best, they need to be close to it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n How to piss off a Narcissist? <\/strong>By becoming better than them. If you start succeeding, it becomes extremely threatening<\/a>. They don\u2019t quite know how to cope with this new reality. Instead of celebrating and feeling happy for you, they may respond by:<\/p>\n\n\n\n You deserve every ounce of your success. Choosing to embrace (and even revel!) in it will continue to enrage them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Narcissists see the world in a strict black-or-white sphere. These extremes allow them to either love or hate other people- there is no in-between. <\/p>\n\n\n\n As a result, narcissists use scapegoats<\/a> to project blame and frustration onto other people. <\/p>\n\n\n\n These scapegoats are singled out for their real or perceived flaws. They become the victim of emotional (and sometimes physical) abuse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But it\u2019s not just the narcissist who wants to blame the scapegoat. They want other people to rally against them as well. They want the entire world to see how messed up the scapegoat really is. <\/p>\n\n\n\n When you defy this narrative and stand up for the scapegoat, you shatter part of their master plan. <\/p>\n\n\n\n You create friction within the dynamic, and that enrages <\/em>the narcissist. They aren\u2019t interested in seeing your perspective, but they also don\u2019t like knowing that you aren\u2019t on their team.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Reading Suggestion:<\/strong> I Don’t Want To Be a Narcissist Anymore<\/a><\/mark><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Stoicism refers to withstanding pain or discomfort without exhibiting an outward emotional response. In other words, it\u2019s taking things as they come without complaining or reacting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Let\u2019s be real. Narcissists love to create drama<\/a>– they live for stirring the pot and causing problems. <\/p>\n\n\n\n They expect <\/em>you to react and even retaliate. Even though you think that your emotions might irritate them, the opposite holds true. Having no <\/em>emotional response tends to be the most threatening response of all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n That\u2019s because narcissists need to know they control the room. In a way, your anger or sadness shows they have power over you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n It shows they can contort your emotions. So when you don\u2019t give them that pleasure, they are forced to examine their hollow selves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Have you ever noticed how often narcissists have issues in the workplace?<\/a> It\u2019s because they don\u2019t play very well with others, and they certainly don\u2019t know how to follow the rules.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Narcissists tend to detest authoritative figures, whether it\u2019s their boss, law enforcement, politicians, or even their parents. They don\u2019t like someone calling the shots unless that someone is them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Reading Suggestions:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Moreover, they expect you to agree with their ideology. They will spend a great deal of time trying to prove to you why the other person is incompetent, unfair, or otherwise idiotic. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The best way to piss them off? Keep following the rules. Respect the authority figures appropriately. Consider thanking <\/em>the authority for their hard work and good efforts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If you do this, you can watch the narcissist unravel. It will happen very quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Narcissists aren\u2019t stupid. They understand the concept of boundaries, and they recognize that everyone has personal limits. <\/p>\n\n\n\n But they also believe that they are entitled to what they want. Therefore, even though they logically comprehend boundaries, they see themselves as exempt from the rule. <\/p>\n\n\n\n To them, boundaries are simply a suggestion or even a challenge. They will do what they can to try to convince you that your boundaries are silly or inappropriate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The solution to this insanity? Implement your firm boundaries. Every single time. No ifs, ands, or buts. No one-time exceptions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The more you stand firm with your limits, the less power they have over you and your actions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n And yes, this will piss them off endlessly. You will see the rage in real-time by the way they call you stupid or crazy or mean. You will see it in the way they try to smear you to others or gaslight your reality<\/a> altogether. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Just like narcissists dislike authority figures, they also tend to resent healthcare professionals. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Narcissists don\u2019t want anyone poking and prodding about their lives. They want to act in their usual ways without any real accountability for their appalling behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you choose to pursue therapy, the narcissist will feel threatened. They will undoubtedly worry about what you talk about in your sessions. They may fear the therapist<\/a> siding with you or discrediting them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n More than that, narcissists don\u2019t like thinking that someone or something may empower you to think differently. <\/p>\n\n\n\n They want you complacent and complicit with their behavior. They know that therapists may try to explore alternative ways of coping with your emotions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This anger comes out in several different forms, including:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Narcissists want to know the people in your life. Mostly, it\u2019s because they want to vet them. Are they someone who will align with the narcissist\u2019s values? Or, are they someone who may pose a serious threat?<\/p>\n\n\n\n When you hang out with new people, it activates their insecurity, jealousy, and confusion. They can\u2019t exactly understand why they wouldn\u2019t be enough for you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n They may respond in several, dysfunctional ways, including:<\/p>\n\n\n\n A narcissist believes that you\u2019re fortunate to have them in your life. You should be thanking them for their wonderful existence! <\/p>\n\n\n\n If you choose to cut ties with them, prepare for the tumultuous rollercoaster of shock, rage, and terror. <\/p>\n\n\n\n —-><\/strong> Read Our Guide To The Narcissist in Relationships<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n They are so used to the status quo of them dictating everyone\u2019s behavior that they don\u2019t know how to cope when someone stops playing by their rules.<\/p>\n\n\n\n To retaliate, they will usually try many different tricks to manipulate you back into their lives. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Reading Suggestion:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n These all represent different scenarios where a narcissist may attempt to gaslight you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Because they are crafted to tug at your emotions, they often work. So when you take the opposite approach and continue to take the high road, it\u2019s absolutely infuriating. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Did you try any of these things? 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3. Disregarding Material Goods<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
How to Piss off a Narcissist #4. Helping Someone Else<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#5 Succeeding (And Outperforming Them)<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#6 Validating and Loving The Scapegoat<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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#8 Respecting Authority<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#9 Consistently Maintaining Your Boundaries<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#10 Going To Therapy<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#11 Spending Time With New Friends<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#12 Ending Your Relationship Entirely<\/h2>\n\n\n\n