{"id":3643,"date":"2020-12-18T17:20:31","date_gmt":"2020-12-18T16:20:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/?p=3643"},"modified":"2022-08-15T14:55:48","modified_gmt":"2022-08-15T13:55:48","slug":"the-narcissistic-family-the-scapegoat-child","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/the-narcissistic-family-the-scapegoat-child\/","title":{"rendered":"The Family Scapegoat: When The Scapegoat Fights Back"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>In families with one or more narcissistic members, the dynamics are <a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/narcissistic-family-dynamics\/\">inherently dysfunctional<\/a>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Children often grow up feeling confused, insecure, and afraid. They may not know who to trust, and they usually blame themselves for the problems occurring at home.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Many times, a narcissist will use scapegoats to project their anger. <strong>Family Scapegoats<\/strong> allow them to displace all the blame onto something else. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Rather than own personal accountability over their actions, the narcissist can continue to live how they normally live without any real consequences. Let\u2019s get into what you should know.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group wplogout-table-of-contents\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-flow wp-block-group-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wplogout-toc-heading\"><strong>Table of Contents:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wplogout-toc-contents\"><li><a href=\"#What-Are-Family-Scapegoat-Children?\" class=\"rank-math-link\">What are Scapegoat children?<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#What-Happens-to-The-Scapegoat-Child?\" class=\"rank-math-link\">What happens to Scapegoat children?<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#Can-a-Scapegoat-Become-a-Narcissist?\" class=\"rank-math-link\">Do Scapegoats become Narcissists?<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#When-The-Scapegoat-Leaves\" class=\"rank-math-link\">What Happens When they Leave the family?<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#Scapegoat-Child-Goes-No-Contact\" class=\"rank-math-link\">Scapegoat goes No Contact<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#How-Do-You-Survive-Being-The-Scapegoat-Child?\" class=\"rank-math-link\">Surviving being the Scapegoat<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#abuse-and-recovery\" class=\"rank-math-link\">Abuse and Recovery<\/a><\/li><\/ul>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"has-text-align-center has-black-color has-luminous-vivid-amber-background-color has-text-color has-background wp-block-heading\" id=\"What-Are-Family-Scapegoat-Children?\">What Are Family Scapegoat Children?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Family<a class=\"rank-math-link\" href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/why-do-narcissists-have-a-golden-child-and-scapegoat-child\/\"> scapegoating<\/a> refers to the group dynamic where everyone blames one person for the dysfunctional family. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Instead of looking at all the potential factors in a particular situation, the family can quickly assume one person has caused the distress.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sometimes, these family scapegoats are fixed and permanent. That means the scapegoat may remain in that role indefinitely.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group has-very-light-gray-to-cyan-bluish-gray-gradient-background has-background has-medium-font-size\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-flow wp-block-group-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center has-background\" style=\"background-color:#ebd213\"><strong>Concepts We Talk About<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul id=\"block-1b5d62fb-cebf-4edb-a0c9-f24b77e34b5d\"><li><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/narcissistic-family-dynamics\/\">Narcissistic Family Dynamics<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/the-narcissistic-family-the-scapegoat-child\/\">Scapegoat Child<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/golden-child-syndrome\/\">Golden Child Syndrome<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/do-narcissists-love-their-children\/\">Do Narcissists Love Their Children?<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/why-do-narcissists-have-a-golden-child-and-scapegoat-child\/\">Why Do narcissists Have a Golden- and Scapegoat Child?<\/a><\/li><\/ul>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>The parent may choose any child to fulfill this role, but common family scapegoats include:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li>Children with chronic sicknesses or handicaps<\/li><li>Children with emotional sensitivities.&nbsp;<\/li><li>Children born as a result of an unplanned pregnancy.<\/li><li>Children who struggle in school or in sports.<\/li><li>Children who naturally rebel against the family\u2019s structure.<\/li><li>Stepchildren, fostered children, or adopted children.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Any of these traits can provide the narcissistic mother or father with leverage to <a aria-label=\"scapegoat their child (opens in a new tab)\" class=\"rank-math-link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.huffpost.com\/entry\/the-strength-of-the-scapegoat-in-the-narcissist-family_b_58b27448e4b0658fc20f9678#:~:text=The%20scapegoat%20is%20the%20one,direct%20opposition%20to%20the%20narcissist.&amp;text=Children%20of%20narcissists%20are%20trained,family%20line%20at%20all%20costs.\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">scapegoat their child<\/a>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The narcissist can point to their behavior and blame them for the family\u2019s problems.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Family scapegoating can start as early as infancy. For example, a Narcissistic parent may blame a newborn for keeping them up all night. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Or, they may complain to a friend about the difficulty of the baby. This pattern may continue for many, many years.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Reading Suggestion:<\/strong> <mark><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/is-it-selfish-to-move-away-from-family\/\">Is It Selfish To Move Away From Family?<\/a><\/strong><\/mark><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sometimes, scapegoated children start out as golden children. They may receive all the praise and affection- until they don\u2019t. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It may take just one event for the narcissistic father or mother to dethrone their golden child into a scapegoat.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Some common offenders include:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li>The child suddenly starting to struggle in school.<\/li><li>The child dating someone that the parent doesn\u2019t like.<\/li><li>The child getting into trouble with the law.<\/li><li>The child becoming \u201ctoo successful\u201d (which results in the narcissist\u2019s jealousy).<\/li><li>The parent having another baby who becomes the golden child.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Sometimes, the narcissist will rotate the scapegoated child based on their mood and daily events. This rotation often happens when multiple children are living in the same home.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group has-light-green-cyan-background-color has-background\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-flow wp-block-group-is-layout-flow\">\n<p><strong>Reading Suggestions:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li><a aria-label=\"How do narcissists Treat their children? (opens in a new tab)\" class=\"rank-math-link\" href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/do-narcissists-love-their-children\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">How do narcissists Treat their children?<\/a><\/li><li><a aria-label=\"Golden Child and Scapegoat Child Relationship (opens in a new tab)\" class=\"rank-math-link\" href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/why-do-narcissists-have-a-golden-child-and-scapegoat-child\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Golden Child and Scapegoat Child Relationship<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/how-to-protect-a-child-from-a-narcissistic-father\/\">How to Protect a Child from a Narcissistic father?<\/a><\/li><\/ul>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>The rotation can make things especially confusing for children- they never know if it will be a good day or a bad one. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Additionally, they never know if what they get away with today could land them in serious trouble tomorrow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The rotation can also cause massive rifts between siblings. They become highly competitive with one another to gain the narcissist\u2019s approval. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Rather than bond and connect, they aim to tear each other down. The prize-winning the narcissist\u2019s attention- becomes their top priority.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/the-scapegoat-child.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/the-scapegoat-child.jpg\" alt=\"Family scapegoat child: The Narcissistic Family\" class=\"wp-image-3695\" width=\"600\" height=\"600\" srcset=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/the-scapegoat-child.jpg 800w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/the-scapegoat-child-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/the-scapegoat-child-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/the-scapegoat-child-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/the-scapegoat-child-600x600.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 600px) 100vw, 600px\" \/><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"has-text-align-center has-black-color has-luminous-vivid-amber-background-color has-text-color has-background wp-block-heading\" id=\"What-Happens-to-The-Scapegoat-Child?\">What Happens to The Scapegoat Child?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>During childhood and adolescence, many scapegoat children may struggle with the following issues:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li>Poor self-esteem.<\/li><li>Increased anxiety symptoms.<\/li><li>Depression.<\/li><li>Reckless behavior (substance use, self-harm, unprotected sex, shoplifting).<\/li><li>Poor academic performance.<\/li><li>Issues with other authoritative figures like teachers, neighbors, or the police.<\/li><li>Aggression and bullying other people.<\/li><li>Disordered eating.<\/li><li>Limited or no motivation in outside hobbies or interests.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>With family scapegoating, the behavior often reinforces itself. For instance, a child may receive a poor grade in school. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The narcissistic parent explodes and tells them how dumb they are. The child internalizes that they are dumb and that it\u2019s not worth even trying. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As a result, they continue to receive poor grades and \u201cproving\u201d the narcissist\u2019s claim to be true.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When they grow up, scapegoated children may experience the following:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Difficulty expressing their needs: <\/strong>From a young age, the scapegoat child learned to hold things inside. Anything they said could and would often be used against them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As a result, many scapegoat children have difficulty expressing their needs and feelings with others. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>On one end of the extreme, they may come across as cold and insensitive. Conversely, they might be seen as overly dramatic or irrational.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group has-light-green-cyan-background-color has-background\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-flow wp-block-group-is-layout-flow\">\n<p><strong>Reading Suggestions:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li>21 <a aria-label=\"parenting signs of a Narcissistic mother (opens in a new tab)\" class=\"rank-math-link\" href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/do-i-have-a-narcissistic-mother-21-signs-of-a-narcissistic-mother\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">parenting signs of a Narcissistic mother<\/a><\/li><li><a aria-label=\"When The Scapegoat Leaves the family (opens in a new tab)\" class=\"rank-math-link\" href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/the-narcissistic-family-the-scapegoat-child\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">When The Scapegoat Leaves the family<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/golden-child-syndrome\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">What is Golden Child Syndrome?<\/a><\/li><\/ul>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Excess people-pleasing: <\/strong>Many scapegoats grow up assuming that love is conditional. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Therefore, they spend much time trying to keep other people happy. They assume that if they keep the peace, they will be liked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Difficulty forming secure relationships: <\/strong>Many scapegoats struggle with emotional and physical intimacy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They may find themselves attracted to other narcissists or abusers because it\u2019s familiar to them. If they end up in a healthy relationship, they may unconsciously sabotage the dynamics.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Substance use and other addictive behaviors: <\/strong>Scapegoats often try to escape their pain in various ways. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They may turn to certain vices like drugs or alcohol to numb their feelings. Likewise, because they\u2019ve often been told they\u2019re \u201cbad\u201d or \u201cuseless,\u201d they may assume they\u2019re doomed to addictive behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Problems with real-world launching: <\/strong>Scapegoats may struggle in many settings, including the workplace, school, and in social interactions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They might try to defy authority or argue when they disagree with something. Or, they may be so used to being perceived as a failure that they don\u2019t even try to succeed.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Impaired self-esteem: <\/strong>More than anything, almost all scapegoats struggle with a damaged sense of self. They may feel entirely worthless or burdensome to others. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This low self-esteem can act as a launchpad for poor decision-making and impulsive behavior.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"has-text-align-center has-black-color has-luminous-vivid-amber-background-color has-text-color has-background wp-block-heading\" id=\"Can-a-Scapegoat-Become-a-Narcissist?\">Can a Scapegoat Become a Narcissist?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Family Scapegoats <\/strong>can certainly <strong>become narcissistic<\/strong> as they get older. Many family scapegoats experience immense rage due to their status in the family. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They know their role is unfair, but they are powerless to this dynamic when they\u2019re young.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That said, abuse is highly generational. Many parents who abuse their children were abused when they were young. Additionally, abused children are at a greater risk of inflicting harm on their children.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Although one would think someone would never want to repeat abuse, this pattern is far more insidious. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sometimes, the child often grows up idolizing the narcissistic parent (even if they can\u2019t stand them), and they naturally start to orient their thinking in a way that matches theirs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Family Scapegoats often desperately want a sense of <a class=\"rank-math-link\" href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/the-narcissist-out-of-control\/\">power and control<\/a> over their lives. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>After all, they have spent so much time being belittled. On a subconscious level, they understand that narcissists gain attention and validation. They may believe those narcissistic methods are the only effective ones.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"has-text-align-center has-black-color has-luminous-vivid-amber-background-color has-text-color has-background wp-block-heading\" id=\"When-The-Scapegoat-Leaves\">What Happens When The Scapegoat Leaves the Narcissistic Family?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>What happens when the scapegoat fights back?<\/strong> Most of the time, tension increases after the <strong>family scapegoat leaves<\/strong>. With nobody to blame automatically, the narcissist scrambles to find an outlet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Many times, narcissists quickly find something or someone else to blame. If there is a golden child, they may start there. Suddenly, the golden child may take over the scapegoat\u2019s role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But usually the narcissist continues to blame, complain, and insult the scapegoat. They often talk about the scapegoat incessantly, even if they have been out of the home for years. Any present issue can be traced back to the scapegoat.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For example, if they lose their job, they may blame it on helping their family scapegoat child with their homework, which resulted in lost productivity. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They\u2019ll turn to the scapegoat for causing so much stress if they have marital problems. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Even getting a flat tire may trigger the narcissist to blame the scapegoat for not taking the car to the mechanic five years ago.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Keep in mind this blame isn\u2019t rational. To an outsider, it often sounds erratic, and that\u2019s because it can be. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Narcissism isn\u2019t based in logic. It\u2019s based on the narcissist\u2019s <em>logic, skewed by their<\/em> worldviews and ego. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Their narcissism allows them to justify and rationalize their decisions, even if it doesn\u2019t make sense to anyone else.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"has-text-align-center has-black-color has-luminous-vivid-amber-background-color has-text-color has-background wp-block-heading\" id=\"Scapegoat-Child-Goes-No-Contact\">What Happens When The Family Scapegoat Child Goes No Contact?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>At first, the reaction may seem paradoxical. The child often feels like the parent wants nothing to do with them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But once they go <a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/what-does-the-narcissist-feel-about-no-contact\/\">no contact<\/a>, the parent suddenly becomes <em>extremely <\/em>interested in their whereabouts. Many times, the parent begins <a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/narcissist-hoover-examples\/\">hoovering excessively<\/a> to gain entry back into their life.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The hoovering often involves some form of gaslighting. The narcissist may deny ever harming their child. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They might insist on how much they love and care about them. At times, they may even beg for forgiveness and make lofty promises to change.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Scapegoats give the narcissist a sense of control and power. Since they can focus all their attention on their child\u2019s problems, they never have to look inward. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They never have to consider the part they play in the dysfunctional dynamic. For a true narcissist, this deflection is paramount. They can continue behaving in their usual ways.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How Other Family Members React<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Without the scapegoat, things may feel \u201ctoo quiet.\u201d At this point, the narcissist has usually <a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/how-to-deal-with-the-narcissists-smear-campaign\/\">smeared the scapegoat child<\/a> mercilessly. They will take great lengths to spin the story to make them appear to be the victim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Family members often understand that the narcissist is \u201coff,\u201d but they rarely want to confront the behavior directly. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>After all, they don\u2019t want to step into the path of destruction. Most of the time, they would much rather keep their peace and stay quiet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The golden child may start acting up once the scapegoat goes no-contact. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They may resent their sibling&nbsp;has \u201cbroken free\u201d from the cycle of abuse. Golden children are under immense pressure to remain perfect- the scapegoat\u2019s absence only reinforces this pressure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Finally, it\u2019s not uncommon for parents to split up and divorce once the scapegoat child leaves the house. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Without the common chaos of \u201cdealing with the scapegoat,\u201d the narcissist\u2019s partner may decide that enough is enough.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In other words, a scapegoat going no-contact tends induce chaos. The family has become so used to pinpointing issues onto one person that they now feel completely off-guard.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"has-text-align-center has-black-color has-luminous-vivid-amber-background-color has-text-color has-background wp-block-heading\" id=\"How-Do-You-Survive-Being-The-Scapegoat-Child?\">How Do You Survive Being The Scapegoat Child?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>It may take you a long time to realize that you were scapegoated as a child. This is normal. Narcissists are experts in manipulating people to believe their truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Scapegoat sons and daughter of narcissistic mothers and fathers must learn how to reparent themselves. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>At first, this can sound like a tall order. It\u2019s painful to realize that you didn\u2019t receive all children&#8217;s essential needs for emotional support.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Reparenting yourself means recognizing your worth and honoring it as best you can. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You aren\u2019t a bad person. Even if you\u2019ve made poor decisions in the past, that doesn\u2019t mean you don\u2019t deserve love and forgiveness. It also doesn\u2019t mean you can\u2019t change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group has-light-green-cyan-background-color has-background\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-flow wp-block-group-is-layout-flow\">\n<p><strong>Reading Suggestions:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li>How to Survive in a <a aria-label=\"Narcissistic Family? (opens in a new tab)\" href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/narcissistic-family-dynamics\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" class=\"rank-math-link\">Narcissistic Family?<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/signs-narcissistic-grandmother\/\" target=\"_blank\" aria-label=\"12 Traits of a Narcissistic Grandmother (opens in a new tab)\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" class=\"rank-math-link\">12 Traits of a Narcissistic Grandmother<\/a><\/li><\/ul>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Many scapegoats benefit reaching out for professional support. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Therapy can help you understand your family dynamics and improve your confidence. It also offers you a safe place where you can explore your feelings without judgment or recourse. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you struggle with mental health issues or addiction, gaining the appropriate coping skills to manage these issues is important.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In addition to therapy, it\u2019s important to recognize your patterns of self-sabotoge. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Do you still internalize the narcissist\u2019s criticism towards you? Do you continue to live in a way that tries to defy and rebel against them?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Finally, boundaries are imperative. You deserve to respect your integrity.&nbsp; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you continue to allow the narcissist to define your identity, you\u2019ll continue to be scapegoated. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>At the same time, you\u2019ll continue to feel resentful and frustrated. This is a miserable cycle, but you have the power to make the first change.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"has-text-align-center has-black-color has-luminous-vivid-amber-background-color has-text-color has-background wp-block-heading\" id=\"abuse-and-recovery\">Surviving Scapegoat Abuse and Moving Through Scapegoat Recovery<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>There\u2019s no doubt that healing from narcissistic abuse can be heartbreaking and complicated. It\u2019s challenging to recognize the perils of your childhood truly. It\u2019s also challenging to decide how you want to proceed moving forward.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Regardless of your upbringing, things can get better. You can have ownership over what happens next.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Remember that you are now an adult, and this is your life. You can choose which people you want to have around you. You can embrace boundaries and respect your personal autonomy. 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