One of the most toxic people you will meet in family court is the narcissist. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
When it comes to a divorce case, the narcissist will often be pitted against a person with very low self-esteem. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Narcissists are usually the cause of that low self-esteem as they have eroded their partner’s self-image through a variety of means throughout the marriage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In court, the narcissist will present as confident, calm and certain while his victim often appears stressed, frustrated, and not at all confident. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
The victim may be willing to give up almost everything just to regain her own life back. She may not feel that she is a fit mother for her children, as the narcissist has made sure that she feels unfit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dealing with someone who suffers from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) in the family court system is a daunting task. It is not going to be easy, but you can make a conscious decision to be a survivor rather than continue being a victim. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Knowledge is power and being educated, and prepared, can mean the difference between winning and being victimized again.. The trick to beating a narcissist in court is twofold in nature.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
FIRST: Catch them in a lie when they are on the stand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But, you must have absolute, incontrovertible proof of the lie, proof that is admissible in court by rules of evidence or by unassailable testimony. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
When confronted with the impeaching evidence, narcissists will react with fury, more lying (which will be visible to everyone except them) and will actively discredit themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
SECOND: Your counsel should structure the cross-examination of the narcissist so as to allow the narcissist to magnify his or her grandiose self. Sometimes it is enough just to let the narcissist be himself or herself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Narcissists are often vindictive and they often stalk and harass. There are two ways of coping with vindictive narcissists:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
1. Frighten Them<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Narcissists live in a state of constant rage, repressed aggression, envy and hatred. <\/p>\n\n\n\n They are paranoid, suspicious, and scared. Frightening the narcissist is a powerful behavior modification tool. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If sufficiently scared – the narcissist will disengage, give up everything he was fighting for and sometimes even make amends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Reading Suggestion:<\/strong> How to get child custody from a Narcissist?<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n For this to be effective, you have to identify the vulnerabilities of the narcissist and strike repeated, escalating blows at him until he is deterred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Example:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n If a narcissist is hiding a personal fact- use this to threaten him. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Drop cryptic hints that there are mysterious witnesses and recently revealed evidence. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The narcissist has a very vivid imagination; let his imagination do the rest. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The narcissist may have been involved in tax evasion, malpractice, child abuse, or infidelity – there are many possibilities, all of which offer a rich vein of attack. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If done cleverly, non-emotionally, escalating, the narcissist will disengage and disappear. <\/p>\n\n\n\n You don’t have to do much except utter a vague reference, make an ominous allusion, and suggest a possible turn of events. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The narcissist\u2019s imagination and paranoia will do the rest for you.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n All these activities have to be pursued legally, preferably through the good services of law offices and in broad daylight. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If done in the wrong way – they might constitute extortion or blackmail, harassment and a host of other criminal offences.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 2. Lure Them<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n The other way to neutralize a vindictive narcissist is to offer him continued Narcissistic Supply until the war is over and won by you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dazzled by the lure of Narcissistic Supply – the narcissist immediately becomes tamed, forgets his vindictiveness and triumphantly takes over his “property” and “territory”. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Under the influence of narcissistic supply, the narcissist is unable to tell that he is being manipulated. <\/p>\n\n\n\n You can make a narcissist do almost anything by offering, withholding, or threatening to withhold Narcissistic Supply (adulation, admiration, attention, sex, awe, subservience, etc.).<\/p>\n\n\n\n What happens when a narcissist loses in court? To summarize, the best way to handle a narcissist in court is to play it cool and let them hang themselves with their own rope. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Narcissists will make outrageous claims and big demands. Let them swear and bluster\u2026 the worse their behavior is, the better it is for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Play it cool, show the court and the judge how rational and healthy you are, and how demanding and bullying the narcissist is. Most judges are excellent surveyors of human nature and can see narcissists for who they are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Remember, though, when all is said and done, family law courts are usually not interested in the emotional aspects of your divorce. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Most states are \u201cno fault\u201d divorce states; despite the fact that judges are people and have emotions, typically they are interested in numbers and custody issues. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Judges are experienced at ignoring all the drama, but if you can get a narcissist to lie under oath, they will lose their credibility with the judge.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Reading Suggestions:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n http:\/\/www.drirene.com\/14_nar.htm<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n http:\/\/narcissisticex.com\/dealing-with-a-narcissist-in-court\/<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n8 Tips to Beat a Narcissist in Court<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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