Narcissistic fathers often emotionally damage their children. They disregard boundaries, manipulate their children by withholding affection (until the children \u201cperform\u201d), and neglect to meet the needs of their children because they are interested only in meeting their own needs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Their image and perfection is essential to narcissists; they often demand perfection from their children. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
The children thus feel intense pressure to be perfect and try to ramp up their talents, looks, intellect or personality to please their father. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
It has a high personal cost to them if they succeed in fulfilling their father’s wishes – and it can cost them just as much if they fail. It\u2019s a no-win situation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There is profound unhappiness among the members of a family ruled by a tyrannical narcissistic father. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
In many of these families, the mother simply echoes the father as she feels uncertain of herself (due to his emotional abuse) and is afraid to take her husband on. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Often this destructive pattern is the result of the mother\u2019s own childhood.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Not aware of the dynamics of narcissism, she went from a cruel, tyrannical father to a brutal, domineering husband. Repetition of psychological patterns, such as is seen with abuse and narcissism, is common. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
The mother chooses a spouse similar to her abusive parent and raises a family in an abusive environment like the one she was raised in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
They frequently report that they can never feel satiated when it comes to getting what they need from their fathers. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
They never got enough time with their father and would have to compete with siblings for that rare time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
As a young child, a father might comment on how beautiful his daughter was. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
But as she grew older, he would rarely miss an opportunity to comment on her weight and attitude. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
The daughters often carry these concerns into adulthood, even if they were otherwise successful. With a father like this, nothing is ever good enough.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Reading Suggestions:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Their relationship with men in the future is clouded by feelings of vulnerability and worries that they\u2019ll be dumped for someone else. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Anxiously avoiding commitment or taking on the narcissistic role are both natural ways for the daughters to keep relationships \u201csafe\u201d. <\/p>\n\n\n\n It’s self protective but doesn\u2019t lead to healthy relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n They describe feeling that they can never measure up. Their fathers were so competitive they even compete with their sons. They either compete or pay no attention to their sons.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The sons often simply accept defeat \u2013 how can they possibly win against a grown man? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Sometimes they take another tact and work hard to beat their father at his own game- just to get his attention and some semblance of fatherly pride. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Yet they never feel good enough even when they do succeed; they still feel empty and second rate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Both girls and boys need to be loved by their fathers in order to feel validated as individuals. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Narcissists are incapable of loving anyone other than themselves. Some of their children become narcissists themselves. <\/p>\n\n\n\n That way they get their father\u2019s attention (imitation is the highest form of flattery) and they learn from an expert how to manipulate and use people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Having a tyrannical father is a nightmare for every member of the family except the \u201cchosen child\u201d (or children) whom he picks to reflect his perfect image. The chosen child is groomed to become his little clone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n They have been chosen for their looks, intellect, special talents, or some other characteristic that the narcissistic father regards as valuable to him. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Other children in the family are bypassed because they have not measured up to his expectations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n They can be very bright, kind, considerate, or sensitive\u2013none of this matters to the narcissistic father. <\/p>\n\n\n\n He doesn\u2019t care about the quality of his other children\u2019s character or personality. <\/p>\n\n\n\n These children suffer; they spend their whole childhoods doing their best, trying to get their father\u2019s love and attention yet they always come up empty-handed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n There is also usually the \u201cscapegoat<\/strong>\u201d child. Narcissistic fathers are often mean and cruel to these children and let them know- on a regular basis- that they are deficient, unmotivated, always wrong and too soft. <\/p>\n\n\n\n They are worthless to him and are blamed for everything that goes wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n (From Children of the Self Absorbed: A Grownup\u2019s Guide to Getting over Narcissistic Parents by Nina Brown)<\/p>\n\n\n\n Reading Suggestions:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Reading Suggestions:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n The tyrannical narcissistic father is a cruel, lying, arrogant bully. <\/p>\n\n\n\n He is a tyrant that is totally entrenched in his grandiose world and insistent that everyone follow his commands.<\/p>\n\n\n\n He is emotionally abusive and can cause significant emotional damage to all family members. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Unfortunately, his behaviors cause the relationships within a family to be toxic and can cause lifelong wounds.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Are You Interested in The Following Topics?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n Narcissistic fathers often emotionally damage their children. 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Sons of narcissistic fathers<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
How Does The Narcissistic Father Treat His Children?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
34 Signs of a Narcissistic Father<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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