{"id":21406,"date":"2024-06-17T11:08:41","date_gmt":"2024-06-17T10:08:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/?p=21406"},"modified":"2024-06-17T11:08:57","modified_gmt":"2024-06-17T10:08:57","slug":"why-do-narcissists-smear-your-name","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/why-do-narcissists-smear-your-name\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Do Narcissists Smear Your Name?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

If you are familiar with the term \u2018smear campaign,\u2019 then I hope it\u2019s not because you\u2019ve been a victim of one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like anything smeared, smear campaigns can get messy for those whose name is at the center of it. Narcissists conjure up all ways to do this, and they regret nothing<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In fact, the more they see you suffer, the more they smear your name because they know it\u2019s working!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Before you jump toward the narcissist and demand to know why you\u2019re being subjected to this festival of lies, read on. I have everything you need to know about why <\/em>they\u2019re doing it\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2026And <\/em>how you can <\/em>recover from it!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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When Everything Was Rosy<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

Remember way back when?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Life was rosy, the narcissist and yourself got on. They thought you were the best thing to ever happen to them. You thought they were the <\/em>most wonderful person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Life was amazing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You saw a side to the narcissist that you were convinced was real. The way they made you feel important. All the ways you felt connected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It didn\u2019t last though, did it? Something happened that shifted those dynamics of perfection.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Narcissists and Losing Control: How They Cope<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Smear campaigns will always <\/em>start when narcissists begin to lose control. You start slipping through their fingers like grains of sand. The more they try to keep a hold of you, the quicker you fall out of their grasp.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the narcissist is losing you to your own strength and sanity, they\u2019re going to want to turn those into weakness and mental instability.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens next is frightening, as they gather together a plan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This plan isn\u2019t like anything you\u2019ve ever seen before. No matter how prepared you are for a smear campaign, it will always leave you stressed out, frustrated and unfairly framed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suddenly, the control you had over the narcissist is being clawed back by them in other ways. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What Exactly <\/strong>is <\/em><\/strong>a Smear Campaign?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

To put it bluntly, a smear campaign is any intentional effort to undermine your:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. Reputation<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. Credibility<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  3. Character<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    It will be premeditated, and adjusted to the individual to really tap into their vulnerabilities. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Spreading rumors about you really sit at the center of any smear campaign. It all starts with the narcissist telling people lies that are to your detriment. They can even go a step further and say things like, \u201cWell, they will tell you it\u2019s a lie, but that\u2019s because they\u2019re embarrassed or ashamed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Imagine the horror in your gut as you realize you\u2019ve got to battle to protest your innocence and when you do people just think you\u2019re crazy?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Recruiting Flying Monkeys<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    The term flying monkeys came from the movie, The Wizard of Oz. In it, the Wicked Witch had all these (literal) flying monkeys to do her dirty work for her. They sided with her, even though she was rotten from the inside out. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    In real life, narcissists use \u2018flying monkeys\u2019 too. These will be people known to you both, who are easily led astray by lies and gossip. The narcissist will control and contrive stories they will believe about you. The result will be:<\/p>\n\n\n\n