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If a narcissist were a games console, they\u2019d<\/em> be the controller and you\u2019d<\/em> be the game. They would relish <\/em>in seeing you running about at their every command – and they do in every situation they land in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Narcissists don\u2019t play games (you) because they feel <\/em>like it. They do it because they have an innate need to control everything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you come along, you\u2019re just another pawn, and they will find a place for you until you no longer serve them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What is it about control that the narcissist loves?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Well, you came to the right place to find out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Narcissists Without Control.. .Watch Out<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

The moment a narcissist starts to lose control, their entire world <\/em>implodes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Everything they\u2019ve carved out and worked hard to manipulate will fall like a house of cards, and they will try to put it all back together again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Rage will surface.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Aggressiveness will soon follow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Outbursts are likely to happen. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If a narcissist isn\u2019t in control, it\u2019s because somebody else is<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will perceive you as a thief, and it will be a huge threat to their self-esteem (not that they will admit that to you!)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Powerlessness Equals Unlocked Insecurity<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I think it\u2019s safe to say that if a narcissist lacks control, they lack the security that goes with it<\/em>. It\u2019s a powerful thing, right? Knowing you hold all the ace cards. Knowing you can tell somebody what to do and they will do it. Manipulate somebody into thinking or feeling a certain way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is real <\/em>power. And it\u2019s a dangerous ability to have as power like this is only ever found in the wrong hands. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

That being said, when the power is taken away and the narcissist loses control, the insecurities that follow will be unavoidable for them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How has this happened?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The most likely answer to that is – people have woken up to the narcissist\u2019s ways. They don\u2019t want to put up with the drama anymore. They\u2019re done being treated as if they don\u2019t matter. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

All the narcissist feels underneath those surface layers of rage and the need for revenge, is insecurity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes. When everything else is taken away, all that’s left is a small, sad, unhappy and bitter person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Rage Behind Lacking Control<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

What does narcissistic rage look like to you? Have you seen it before?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Some classic examples of narcissistic rage include:<\/p>\n\n\n\n