Not Giving Them Attention<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nSo, what happens when you flip the script?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You decide one day to be the one who gives the narcissist the silent treatment. You are the one who says to yourself, \u201cYou know what? Enough is enough. I\u2019m done trying to please you. You don\u2019t deserve my voice any more.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The power of silence is severely overrated, so when it comes to narcissists, silence can act as a powerful weapon. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s your best option for clawing back that control, and taking it away from these energy vampires. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Getting to the point where you resort to the silent treatment will likely come from a place of desperation. You\u2019ve tried everything to reason with them. You\u2019ve attempted and after attempt to quell conflict. You\u2019ve asked a thousand times if they\u2019re okay when they refuse to engage with you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
What do you do now?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You deprive them of any attention. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\nBy this, I don\u2019t mean to join them at what they are at their level<\/em>. <\/p>\n\n\n\nYour silent treatment has to come from a place of clarity. A place of empowerment and sincerity. You aren\u2019t looking to treat them with the same disdain they show you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
You have simply had enough of their drama. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Your Silence: What it Does to the Narcissist in 6 Ways<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nIt Takes Away Their Control<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\nNarcissistic people thrive when they are pulling the strings. If you are in a place of fear or anxiety, they are at their happiest. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Those intense feelings are provoked when we feel out of control or want to regain control in a situation. If a narcissist is taking from you, they are leaving you with nothing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Giving the silent treatment to the narcissist is a way of channeling the energy once stolen from you, and claiming it back. It\u2019s a powerfully self-satisfying tool to use when you want what\u2019s owed. Without that control, they almost malfunction. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\nNarcissists laugh and smile to themselves when they have succeeded in confusing you, or punishing you with their silence. When it\u2019s returned to them, that control immediately vanishes. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Invokes Rage<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\nWith anything the narcissist is no longer able to control, the rage will soon follow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
How dare you ignore me!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\nWho do you think you are?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\nYou\u2019re a terrible person!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\nAll the words that act as wood kindling to stoke your fire will be thrown at you. They want you to respond. They want you to break your vow of silence. They want to see you break <\/em>under their pressure. <\/p>\n\n\n\nUnderneath it all, they\u2019re looking for you to come back and resume normal dynamics, because without a victim mentality, they cannot act as the antagonist. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you\u2019re non-responsive, they cannot feed off you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
It Creates Helplessness<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\nWith no control, the narcissist soon becomes helpless – an emotion they are unable to sit in for long. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Helplessness and narcissism do not <\/em>go hand in hand, so this is where you should expect the narcissist to ramp up their game-playing. Still looking for you to bite their bait, they will try anything. <\/p>\n\n\n\nStarving Them of Compliments<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\nWhere you would have once gushed over their day or new jack\/hair\/job – you\u2019ve suddenly got nothing to say. It\u2019s not that you intended on being rude, it\u2019s that you prefer to disengage with the dysfunction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Now when they come to you in \u201cLook at me\u201d moments, you are choosing to look the other way and starve them of what they once may have gotten from you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Now <\/em>what do they do?<\/p>\n\n\n\nYour once Grade A narcissistic supply was finite all along – and without it they are going to crumble. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
The ways they\u2019ve exploited you have come round to haunt them, and the more consistently you hold the silence, the more you are ending this game\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Once and for all. <\/p>\n\n\n\n