\u201cI Need You to Listen to Me\u201d<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nNarcissists. Don\u2019t. Listen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Beyond the fact that they don\u2019t <\/em>listen, they can\u2019t <\/em>listen. They don\u2019t know how to. But also just to clarify, they don\u2019t want to hear what you say. It\u2019s either going to be wrong or boring.<\/p>\n\n\n\nWhen a narcissist is physically told to listen to you, to them, you\u2019ve stepped way out of line. You can be considered crass, abrupt, or even petulant if you dare assert yourself this way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In truth – it will <\/em>shut the narcissist down, because they simply won\u2019t know what to do with themselves when you take charge this way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\u201cWe Will Talk When You\u2019ve Calmed Down\u201d<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nThe beauty here is, the longer the narcissist plays up and protests, the longer they will have to wait. Wanting to converse with you in this kind of heated moment usually means they have a lot <\/em>to say about you.<\/p>\n\n\n\nCutting them off in their tracks means they get nothing from you. No rise, no supply, nothing to fight against. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
And guess what? You\u2019re in control.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cNo\u201d<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n\u2018No\u2019 to a narcissist is one of the worst things they like to hear. You\u2019re cutting them from something they want. If it\u2019s you answering back, they won\u2019t get it. They’re left with nothing if it\u2019s wanting you to do something you don\u2019t want to do.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Narcissists are entitled – they expect everything they want handed to them on a plate. It\u2019s an almost automatic assumption that this will be granted, and when it isn\u2019t, they\u2019re left stumped.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Shutting a narcissist down with no means you get to end something on your terms, not theirs. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n\u201cWhat Exactly is it You Want Me to Know?\u201d<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nWatching a narcissist cuss and criticize you, or mock you for something can lead to a great deal of sadness and frustration. You caught them in a certain mood, and you\u2019re the one having to tolerate it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
What if you dug a little deeper to really find out what\u2019s going on? Stopping the narcissist from the game they\u2019re trying to play by asking them to cut to the chase will shock them. With shock usually comes the inability to know what to say or do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
They know you have them figured out. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cI Don\u2019t Deserve to be Spoken to This Way\u201d<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nKnowing your worth reminds the narcissist that they can\u2019t determine it. It\u2019s a power we all have, but rarely find the confidence and self-worth to exhibit. Narcissistic people sometimes run others down to the point where they can barely stand. If you were to speak in alignment with what you deserve – you\u2019ll certainly shut them down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I <\/em>would know that you aren\u2019t trying to sound better than the narcissist, but they <\/em>won\u2019t. They will assume you are trying to annoy them, but let\u2019s think logically. You\u2019re simply changing how you respond.<\/p>\n\n\n\nThe narcissist will be used to speaking to you how they want, regardless of how it makes you feel. This <\/em>way, you get to remind them that you won\u2019t put up with it any more. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\u201cI Have Said What I Want to Say, and I am Not Longer Willing to Discuss This.\u201d<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nNarcissists love <\/em>to go over and over the same thing, because they know how effective it is to run you down with repetitive behavior. The enjoyment they get from watching your frustration grow is second to none – but you can stop this, and shut them down.<\/p>\n\n\n\nRefusing to repeat what has already been said is good. It leaves room for new discussion that the narcissist may not be keen to have. That\u2019s the whole point!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s a real boundary to apply when you say you\u2019re unwilling to continue engaging. It tells the narcissist you think the conversation is a waste of time and completely rips them of all power.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n