Let\u2019s guide you through each one, right now!<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you can own your reality, you can repel all gaslighters!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sometimes, we don\u2019t give ourselves enough credit – and credit should be where credit is due – we own our truth.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Narcissists are perfect at ensuring their version of reality is a stamp that they can apply on everyone who will fall for it. It leaves those under the narcissistic spell uncertain, confused and unable to fully understand what\u2019s really going on – especially as narcissists are great convincers. <\/p>\n\n\n\n People believe them, which stems from not valuing your opinion highly enough.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If your reality is ever questioned, step back and see this as an opportunity for resistance!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Stop falling for charming people. Life isn\u2019t a Disney film, is it? We often see the charming person coming in to save everybody, but we never see what happens after <\/em>\u2018The End.\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s time to see an opportunity to resist narcissists by unseeing the value in charm\u2014because that value isn\u2019t real. <\/p>\n\n\n\n What is the charm covering? Tread carefully\u2014when someone appears seductive, it\u2019s because they want you to respond with a hypnotizing smile.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Pay attention.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Walk away – run if you can!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Being smart or educated means nothing other than knowing many things about one or several subjects. Reading books and gathering a dozen degrees or PhDs doesn\u2019t automatically give you \u2018nice person\u2019 rights. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Many people mistake the educational background of a person for being positive and endearing traits, but there are plenty of narcissists who will throw what they know in front of them like some kind of smoke screen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cSee all my knowledge, aren\u2019t I fantastic?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n No, you aren\u2019t. You\u2019re clever, but that doesn\u2019t make you Mother Theresa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Don\u2019t buy it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Narcissists have two faces. They can be incredibly luring in public, wanting to be everyone\u2019s best friend, but in private, they become a completely different person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If you start to look closer, and pay real attention to how they treat people in different scenarios – you\u2019ll see the real person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Maybe look at how they treat servers in a restaurant, or how they view or treat those who might make an error in their presence. What about somebody who jokes about them in front of them, or who might call them out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Narcissists talk about people behind their backs and if they can do it with somebody else, they can do it with you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Watch out – become resistant. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Narcissists easily become frustrated when things don\u2019t go their way. They don\u2019t have the emotional regulation that non-narcissists have, or the ability to be resilient when things aren\u2019t perfect or \u2018just so.\u2019 <\/p>\n\n\n\n What makes it easier for you <\/em>to become resistant to the narcissist, is to just watch and see exactly how they act in those circumstances. <\/p>\n\n\n\n What are they like when they\u2019re disappointed?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Any facade will transition to rage, and you will see red flags everywhere. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Don\u2019t be their excuses, and don\u2019t bow down to them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n What is money other than something acquired, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Wealth can sometimes evoke a sense of, \u201cI\u2019m much better than you; look at all the wonderful things I have and can afford.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Similar to the charm, it\u2019s easy to ooh and aah at all the shiny thighs the narcissist owns, but what are they doing?<\/p>\n\n\n\n They\u2019re diverting you from their toxic character and saying, \u201cHey, isn\u2019t all what I own marvelous?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Resistance means to shrug and be indifferent. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Nobody likes a show-off.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I want you to read these words and pay close attention to them, and any time you need reminding of them, just think of this moment:<\/p>\n\n\n\n No is a complete sentence. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n It does not <\/em>need justification, and it does not need to be attached to a \u2018maybe\u2019 or a \u2018but\u2019. <\/p>\n\n\n\n No is a way of letting somebody know you have no room to swerve or adapt. You own your choices, and if you can reiterate that to yourself often, you will become resistant to any narcissist because they will learn quickly that they cannot manipulate you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Resistance will not be futile!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Dump them. Dump them now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n They all need to go. Why? Because the narcissist is just a fraction of your problem – and the enablers are the rest. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Enablers carry with them an extension of the narcissist\u2019s toxicity, just in a different, more indirect way. They will continue to get under your skin, always vouching for the narcissist and attempting to further gaslight you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n As you disengage from the narcissist, do the same with the enablers, and I understand it isn\u2019t easy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n This can look like withdrawing from friends or family who still insist the narcissist is a good person, and I\u2019m not suggesting you isolate yourself totally, but if you can at the very least – see them as little as often.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s all the same, bad energy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n How many chances can you give to a person before they understand their power over yours? With a narcissist – just one! <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Mistakes happen, but at least be on your guard. If somebody is dismissive of you, if they try to alter your reality or make you feel small in front of everybody else – watch<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Second chances are like saying, \u201cSure, you can walk all over me; I don\u2019t mind!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Of course you mind – because you matter.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Good people are good for the soul. They are the blooming flowers and foliage in nature, whereas the narcissist is more like Japanese Knotweed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n They spread their toxicity around so quickly that it can feel almost impossible to get rid of it – but getting rid is always possible. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Learning the craft of who good people are, how they warm your heart, and give you the emotional maturity and support you need is everything you need to build your life with grace, instead of allowing the pain and frustration of a narcissist in again.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Wouldn\u2019t it be magical to believe in a place where narcissists don\u2019t get under our skin? Well – no magic is necessary here! Narcissists make us want to be resistant to them because we are growing more and more sick and tired of their lies, manipulation and gaslighting. 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<\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n#1 Gaslight-o-meter<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#2 Detach From \u2018Charm\u2019<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#3 Education Isn\u2019t Everything<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#4 Observe Their Treatment of People<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#5 Check Their Moods <\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#6 Wealth Doesn\u2019t Equate to Kindness<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#7 Boundaries – Learn to Say No<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#8 Say Goodbye to Enablers<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#9 Second Chances – NO!<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#10 Find a Good, Empathic Circle to Be In<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n