\u201cI Still Love You\u201d<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nTelling a narcissist you love them, even though you want to break up with them forms an emotional tie that they won\u2019t want to let go of.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Narcissists need to be needed, they want to be loved so badly that they will do anything to keep it in their lives. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Knowing you still love them weakens your grip on them, and they won\u2019t hesitate to take advantage of your feelings. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Even if you do <\/em>still love them – they don\u2019t need to know and you <\/em>will get over it in time. <\/p>\n\n\n\nMove on silently. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cCan We Keep in Touch?\u201d<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nBig no-no!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Keeping in touch with a narcissist looks to them as if you can\u2019t live without them, and that you need to have them in your life still<\/em>. <\/p>\n\n\n\nYou know that isn\u2019t true, so why make it look so when what you really want is to forget they even existed and start healing from the toxic relationship you have just stepped out of?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Keeping in touch gives them all the moves to re-enter your life and try to continue to pull you back in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Don\u2019t do it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cI Miss You\u201d<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nAh yes, old habits die hard, right? Missing someone you\u2019ve spent a long time with is normal, but you have to ask yourself: Are you missing them, <\/em>or are you missing the routine you\u2019ve had?<\/p>\n\n\n\nNow you\u2019re apart, the whole world is at your feet, which can seem scary. There\u2019s no way you can miss the abuse, the criticism, the belittling comments or the control. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Telling them you miss them makes them think you miss all of those things, which you should be keen to avoid. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cI Don\u2019t Know What I Will Do Without You\u201d<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nYes you do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Even if you don\u2019t, pretend you do. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Breaking up with a narcissist needs to come from a place of empowerment. You\u2019re choosing to end a relationship based on what you need and the things you value. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Telling them you won\u2019t know what to do without them is basically telling them you have no identity and that without them, you mean nothing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You mean everything. <\/em>You\u2019ve just been made to feel worthless, and that\u2019s why you feel so empty. <\/p>\n\n\n\nRevealing your weakness to them is exactly what they\u2019re hoping for.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Don\u2019t give it to them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Anything With Emotion!<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nOh, narcissists adore <\/em>emotion. They don\u2019t have any themselves\u2026. but love it all the same. <\/p>\n\n\n\nNarcissists want to see you cry. They love to see you squirm and be uncomfortable or unsure of yourself, so they can swoop in and be the ones who steer you to the emotion they wish you to experience. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Vulnerable people are preyed upon, and the narcissist is constantly trying to find ways to hunt you down. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
They find you through your emotions, but if you break up with them, showing nothing but facts (eg. I want to break up with you), they have nowhere to go and no supply to take from you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cIt\u2019s My Fault\u201d<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nOne thing a narcissist will be looking at from you is you blaming yourself for the demise of your relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cIt was all my fault.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n\u201cIt\u2019s not you, it\u2019s me.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n\u201cI blame myself.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n\u201cYou did nothing wrong.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\nReally?! <\/p>\n\n\n\n
I don\u2019t believe this to be true. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Blaming yourself is exactly <\/em>the kind of fuel the narcissist wants to go around telling everybody <\/em>what you said word for word. <\/p>\n\n\n\nIf they have evidence that you blame yourself, they are immediately off the hook, and they will relish in telling the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It wasn\u2019t your fault. <\/p>\n\n\n\n