own <\/em>in retaliation. They will put a spanner in the works if you are going somewhere. If you plan on seeing somebody, they will come between you and force conflict all the while remaining the \u2018innocent party.\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\nLetting a narcissist know what you\u2019re doing next is going to seem like an open invitation for them to ruin whatever you have set aside. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ending a relationship always signals the start of a new chapter, so if you want to take some time to work on yourself, see more friends, start new hobbies – they absolutely do not <\/em>need to know.<\/p>\n\n\n\nTell them you have no plan for what comes next – and stick to it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cThere\u2019s No Hope For Reconciliation\u201d<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nBlindsiding a narcissist by telling them you are leaving them is going to trigger every single insecurity they have inside them (and believe me, there are a lot<\/em>), and this will spark the narcissistic rage. <\/p>\n\n\n\nYou might see that include blaming you very publicly, spreading your name negatively in a smear campaign, telling your family and friends you <\/em>were the problem – the list goes on.<\/p>\n\n\n\nTelling them directly that there is no hope for reconciliation will still provide these damaging consequences, but you are putting a \u2018full-stop\u2019 at the end of your relationship. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
There is no <\/em>comma when it comes to narcissism. <\/p>\n\n\n\nYour mind is made up, there\u2019s no going back or trying again, and they have <\/em>to be told this clearly and concisely. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\u201cPlease Don\u2019t Contact Me\u201d<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nProving difficult for some – the \u2018no contact\u2019 that must occur after a break up with a narcissist needs to be spelled out by you for them to hear. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Will they listen? Probably not. Remember who you\u2019re dealing with here\u2014someone with zero boundaries and zero concern for your wishes. If I could mark them below zero, I would!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Because of this – you\u2019ll find they try to contact you after a break up for various times. Even when things become quiet and you think they\u2019ve moved on, they will appear via text or email, or maybe even as a friend request on social media. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Understanding what you <\/em>asked of them will help you continue your journey of moving on from them. Tell them firmly that you don\u2019t want to hear from them, and give them the same response.<\/p>\n\n\n\nLife only improves when you cut them out completely. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Be Clear – \u201cI Don\u2019t Want This Anymore\u201d <\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nIf a narcissist senses your uncertainty – they will play on it. If they see you umming and ahhing, they will give <\/em>you words. It won\u2019t matter to you what those words are, because the narcissist will cherry-pick them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\u201cYou don\u2019t mean it.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n\u201cYou\u2019re just confused.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n\u201cYou need some \u2018<\/em>you\u2019 time.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\nNo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You need to break free from this toxic experience – and you need to spell it out as clearly as you can for them that you do not want to be in the relationship anymore. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
They won\u2019t like it – but that\u2019s their problem to fight with – not yours. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Laying firm boundaries to protect yourself in a break up with a narcissist will be met with resistance, but if you already know <\/em>that, you can prepare for it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n