{"id":20447,"date":"2024-03-25T09:33:04","date_gmt":"2024-03-25T08:33:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/?p=20447"},"modified":"2024-03-25T09:33:05","modified_gmt":"2024-03-25T08:33:05","slug":"10-alarming-reasons-why-you-shouldnt-trust-a-narcissist","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/10-alarming-reasons-why-you-shouldnt-trust-a-narcissist\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Alarming Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Trust a Narcissist!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

When you trust someone, you believe them when they say they will keep your promises and be sincere with your secrets. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When it comes to narcissists – you can scrap all of that. They don\u2019t keep your secrets, nor are they even remotely sincere. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

They tend to trap people because they put on a cloak and mask to disguise their covert tactics while painting on an understanding smile for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t fall for it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The reasons why you shouldn\u2019t trust a narcissist don\u2019t begin and end with that cloak and mask – in fact – that\u2019s just the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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#1 They Lack Maturity<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

You can\u2019t expect anyone to seal trust if they lack the emotional maturity necessary to establish and maintain that kind of relationship with you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Their immaturity means they cannot connect with anyone on a deep level because they don\u2019t know how to. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Every way they operate tends to sit on the shallowest surface, so expecting them to listen to your problems and help you through your struggles with trusting information is a huge no-no.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#2 They <\/strong>Cannot <\/em><\/strong>Keep Secrets<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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Would you trust a three-year-old with your deepest, darkest secrets? Well, they\u2019d probably do a better job than the narcissist in your life, that\u2019s for sure. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Too many people fail to see the narcissists for who they really are until they\u2019ve been hurt or disregarded by them – only then are lessons learned. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have information the narcissist can use against you, or gain attention by telling others – they won\u2019t hesitate <\/em>to put your name out there and tell anybody who will listen. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Keep your secrets locked to your heart!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#3 They Will Drop You<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t for a single second think you have a long-lasting friend in a narcissist (unless of course, you spend your life doing everything they say and putting up with their criticism and ridicule). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A narcissist will drop you <\/em>the second somebody else comes along with a better and stronger source of supply. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Supply to the narcissist means getting compliments, having things done for them, always being at their beck and call, and never putting themselves before their egotistical friend.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If they find someone better, you will be yesterday\u2019s news, which leaves you nothing but high and dry.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#4 Lies<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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If you haven\u2019t had a call from a friend or family member yet asking you a question that came right out of left field, then you just wait. Narcissists will elongate the truth or plain lie to others about you, and it will build nothing but a false view of you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is bothersome to those on the receiving end, and you\u2019ll want to stand up for yourself and justify the wrongdoing, but it\u2019ll get you nowhere. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Narcissists are incredibly convincing people, and you stand little chance of changing people\u2019s opinion of you once they\u2019ve had the lies passed to them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#5 Stress Will Overtake Everything<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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Stress is a consequence of trusting a narcissist. Stress is also entering our lives more and more, and we should be doing everything we can to lessen it, but this is impossible when looking at ways in which a narcissist dismantles your hope of them being loyal to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Giving them the chance to prove themselves as a good, trusting person is going to end in tears of stress for you, and that can overtake everything else going on in your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#6 Thrown Back in Your Face<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

The presence of trust can disappear the moment the narcissist throws your secrets back in your face. They do this to guilt or shame you or remind you that you harbor secrets you don\u2019t want other people to know. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will also expect something in return for keeping your trust, so if you let them down, they won\u2019t hesitate to remind you of everything they\u2019ve done for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nothing is unconditional in the narcissist\u2019s mind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#7 Your Struggles Will Be Laid Bare<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

When you look for trust in a narcissist, they will enjoy the idea of being in control of something you\u2019ve asked of them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

They enjoy – almost gloat – because they know they\u2019ve reached a point with you where you feel they are a good enough person to enlist into your trusted circle, and that\u2019s the biggest mistake you can make. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have certain struggles that are the catalyst for this trust – they will be laid bare before you, reminding you of your flaws. Narcissists love doing this because it makes them feel better knowing that you aren\u2019t perfect either. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

#8 Empty Promises<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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\u201cTrust me!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHey, what\u2019s wrong, you can trust me.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI promise, I won\u2019t tell anybody.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Where have we all heard this before? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes – from the empty heart of a narcissist, who promises you can trust them and they will help or support you through whatever it is you need.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Words are not matched with actions to them because all they want is for you to hand power to them. Expecting them to be trusted is a power they love, but that doesn\u2019t mean they value the content of the trust. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

#9 They Will Hold You Back<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Applying trust into a narcissist will <\/em>hold you back. Asking and expecting things from them will permit them to do what they want with it in their own <\/em>time. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Have you asked them to help you with moving? They might turn up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Did you ask if they would be there for you if you\u2019re unwell? They\u2019ll be unwell too – in fact – they might even be worse than you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019ll be prevented from growing if you let a narcissist get too close to you, especially if that comes with expecting their trust.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#10 You\u2019ll Be Distracted<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

You put your heart and soul into trusting the narcissist, and they blab on you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

They speak of you to almost anybody who will listen because it means they have a bit of an audience. As they talk about you, they will distract you to ensure you don\u2019t find out. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Maybe they\u2019ll do something nice for you. Perhaps you are spoiled with a surprise. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

They\u2019re coating you with their love bombing so you don\u2019t notice them being the ones to break your trust – this keeps you hooked on believing they are a good person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What keeps them going is that these tricks actually work. But<\/em> if you can spot ways in which the narcissist in your life is suddenly being nice and kind to you, it could be because they\u2019re pulling you away from their gossiping so you never see them as the problem. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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