If you think you are going to have a balanced time with a narcissist – you can think again. They will monopolize every minute and neglect how you feel. They want you to be silent so they can be heard, and here\u2019s why.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Does it matter if you were in the middle of something? Nope!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Narcissists hate hearing the word \u2018no,\u2019 so if you are at home and they don\u2019t live with you, they will show up at your door unannounced and make out as if they were passing by. <\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s the familiar pattern of you being pushed into a corner every chance they get to obtain control and make it about them, so if they show up, you will find it more likely to say, \u2018Sorry, I\u2019m busy.\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n They don\u2019t care if they weren\u2019t invited, because their ego doesn\u2019t need one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This only really applies to important things, and it continues the theme of you finding it tricky to say no to them (usually because they\u2019re so overpowering).<\/p>\n\n\n\n When you loan out your possessions, they will come to collect and outstay their welcome. If that wasn\u2019t enough, they will \u2018forget\u2019 to return the item for as long as possible, knowing they are getting under your skin. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Narcissists don\u2019t care, and they won\u2019t hesitate to tell you how busy they are when you remind them to return your things, expecting you <\/em>to apologize for inconveniencing them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n In a classically similar move, a narcissist will leave things at your house to test your honesty and use it as an excuse to come back again. They know they bother you; they know that their being at your house means you can\u2019t get on and do what you want, but none of that will bother them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It exerts its presence in the most overt ways and will keep you on your toes, wondering when you will hear their knock at your door. It’s impossible to keep the peace when you are constantly expecting chaos, isn\u2019t it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n The root of all narcissism is entitlement, so if you live with one and have friends over, they will automatically feel as entitled to be around them as you are. Their space is yours, their friends are theirs to impress, and their time and presence completely monopolize the moment. <\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s possible for a narcissist to shake up the atmosphere, potentially awkward for you all. <\/p>\n\n\n\n That\u2019s because they are pulling the strings with certain conversations, comments, or even actions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n They aren\u2019t interested in your need or want for time with your friends, as they lack the boundary or notion to be aware of how sacred these things can be. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Isolation is a fun game for the narcissist to play. If you try to do something about the awkwardness of having friends over – they will make it hard for you to go visit them. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Reasons being?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cI don\u2019t feel well. Will you stay and help me?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cI\u2019ve got a delivery coming, and I need you to stay in.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cI\u2019ve been thinking about (insert terrible thing that happened 10 years ago here). Can you stay and talk with me about it?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n What if you were to say no? There would be all hell to pay, and at the very least, the guilt trip would make you feel obliged to cancel your plans with friends to be with them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If we are talking about very<\/em><\/strong> dark ways a narcissist can take your time – they will go straight ahead and hide your car keys, so you can\u2019t go out even if you wanted to. Arguments also count here, making you feel too depleted to want to go out. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Despite what they try to convince both you and others, narcissists don\u2019t have much going on. They love to pretend they are busy and in demand, but these are empty ways to fill time because they can\u2019t stand to do anything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When they see you with your friends, they want admiration, love, support, and all things that inflate their egos. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If you are in the company of friends, they will try to bother you constantly. This leaves it draining for you, and over time, you will eventually learn to choose not to see them because history repeats itself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n This is another tactic to drain your time and make it all about them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Narcissists will feel you pulling away from them, and they won\u2019t like it. As a result, they can sometimes use surprises as a ploy to pull you back in and give them the time they feel they deserve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Their effort in doing this will make it so hard for you to decline their offer, and if you do, expect fireworks because that is where the narcissist’s true colors will appear.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cAfter everything I did for you!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cYou\u2019re so ungrateful!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cWhy do you always have to ruin every nice thing I try to do?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Where does that leave you; the kinder party? In the pits of guilt, wanting to say or do anything to improve it, and giving into their offer of spending more time with you amidst their latest surprise. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Narcissists don\u2019t care about your feelings, so if they invite themselves to where you\u2019re going, they don\u2019t want to miss out on something that may benefit them. They can be so overpowering that saying no makes you feel uncomfortable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Likely there will be a \u201cOh, I\u2019ll come!\u201d – a straight-up insistence that they must accompany you. If they ask, you might say no, and no is the narcissist’s worst <\/em>word to hear.<\/p>\n\n\n\n As you know, a narcissist will not hesitate in guilt tripping you if you say no, and will also bask in applying pressure to you until you say yes and give them what they want. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If there were a book called Conversations with a Narcissist – <\/em>it would be the shortest and most misleading book you\u2019d ever buy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Why, I hear you ask?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Because conversations with <\/em>narcissists do not exist!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Narcissists talk at <\/em>you. 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<\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n#1 They Cold Call You<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#2 They Want to Borrow From You<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#3 \u201cOops\u2026 Did I Leave Something at Your House?\u201d<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
<\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n#4 They Lurk<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#5 They Pull You From Your Friends<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#6 They Don\u2019t Let You Breathe Around Your Friends<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#7 \u201cSurprise!\u201d<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
<\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n#8 \u201cCan I Come Too?\u201d<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#9 \u201cMe, Me, Me\u201d<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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