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<\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n#1 Power and Control<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Spoiling others’ joy empowers them, giving them control over others’ emotions and experiences.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Narcissists’ need to spoil your happiness isn’t about you; it’s a twisted form of self-empowerment that gives them control over your emotions and experiences. <\/p>\n\n\n\n They’re masters of manipulation, using their cunning and charm to dictate the mood of any situation. They can steal the spotlight and assert dominance by casting a shadow over your joy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You might find them downplaying your achievements or belittling your joy. They’re not doing this because they’re unhappy for you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Instead, it’s their twisted way of maintaining control. They feed on your disappointment, using it to validate their power.<\/p>\n\n\n\n They crave constant attention and stepping on others’ happiness often shifts focus back on them.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Just as they use power and control to overshadow your joy, the constant need for attention also drives their behavior, making them step on others’ happiness to ensure the spotlight stays on them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Narcissists are attention addicts. They can’t stand it when someone else is in the limelight. They’ll do anything, including spoiling your joy, to divert the focus back on them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n They have an insatiable need to be seen, heard, and adored. They’re like emotional vampires, sucking the joy out of your moments to fuel their ego. <\/p>\n\n\n\n They can’t stand the thought of you basking in happiness, not because they hate you but because they need your attention.<\/p>\n\n\n\n They play a twisted game, and understanding this can help guard your joy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Their inability to empathize with others’ happiness often manifests as a desire to spoil it.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Lacking empathy, narcissists often find it challenging to share in your happiness, leading them to spoil it instead. <\/p>\n\n\n\n They can’t put themselves in your shoes to feel the joy you’re experiencing. This deficiency in empathy results in a deep-seated inability to understand or appreciate your feelings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Whether it’s your job promotion, wedding, or simply a good day, they can’t mirror your joy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Instead, they might belittle your achievements, make negative comments, or shift the attention away from you. Why? They can’t comprehend how you’re feeling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n They often can’t stand to see others enjoying success or happiness they don’t have, leading them to try and spoil it<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n While their lack of empathy can dampen your joy, their intense envy also fuels their need to spoil your happiness. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If you’re succeeding or feeling joyous, a narcissist can’t stand it. They do not simply want the spotlight; they can’t bear to see you in it. They feel that any happiness you experience should be theirs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n They might feel threatened by others’ happiness, thus trying to diminish it to boost their sense of self-worth.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Narcissists harbor deep-seated insecurity, which might cause them to feel threatened by your happiness, leading them to diminish it in an attempt to bolster their fragile self-worth. <\/p>\n\n\n\n When you’re joyful, it’s as if a spotlight shines on their own inadequacies. They can’t stand it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Instead of dealing with their insecurity, they’ll try to steal your joy. They might belittle your achievements, trivialize your feelings, or create drama to distract you from your happiness. It’s a way for them to feel better about themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n They draw satisfaction from feeling superior, which can involve bringing others down.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n They might attempt to bring you down in their pursuit of superiority, deriving satisfaction from your distress or failures. <\/p>\n\n\n\n You might notice them subtly undermining your accomplishments or highlighting your shortcomings. They revel in any control they can exert over you, using it to bolster their self-esteem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n They’ll use manipulation and guilt to keep you in a position where they can feel superior. When you’re down, they’re on top, and that’s exactly where they want to be.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This constant power play is exhausting, but it’s essential to recognize it for what it is: a desperate attempt to feel superior at your expense.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If they can spoil the happiness of others, it narrows the gap between their own unhappiness and the other person’s joy.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n If a narcissist can dim your joy, it often lessens the divide between their misery and your happiness. You see, a narcissist’s inner world is usually a bleak place filled with dissatisfaction and discontent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Unable to find joy within themselves, they seek to bridge this gap by stealing it from others. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If they can tarnish your happiness, it makes their unhappiness less glaring. It is about their need to feel less miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n They often take pleasure in eliciting emotional reactions from others, which they see as a form of control.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Often, you may notice a strange satisfaction in their eyes when they manage to provoke emotional reactions from you, viewing it as a twisted form of control. This gratification isn’t about genuine connection; it’s about power.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Narcissists thrive on the chaos they create, using your emotions as a playground. <\/p>\n\n\n\n They’ll push your buttons, knowing exactly what’ll hurt or anger you. It’s a mind game, and unfortunately, you’re the pawn. They’re not interested in your feelings except to use them as weapons.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Every reaction you give feeds their ego, reinforcing their sense of superiority. It’s a cruel cycle, but understanding their tactics can help you break free. They’re not seeking resolution; they’re hunting for reactions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n By spoiling others’ joy, they can divert attention from their own insecurities or failings.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Why do narcissists spoil others’ joy?<\/p>\n\n\n\n It’s a diversion tactic to avoid their insecurities and shortcomings. They feel threatened when you’re happy because it inadvertently spotlights their unhappiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n They’re experts at turning the attention back onto themselves, even if it’s through negative means. They’re so wrapped up in their self-made dramas that they can’t stand it when the focus is on someone else’s success or happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n They’ll do whatever they can to spoil your joy, because it diverges from their issues. The happier you are, the more visible their insecurities become.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Don’t let a narcissist steal your joy. Recognize their behaviors as attempts at control, attention-seeking, envy, or deflection from their issues. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Understand that their lack of empathy and desire to feel superior often drives them to spoil your happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Don’t feed their need to provoke reactions. Your celebrations are about you and your loved ones, not them. Stand strong, don’t let them bridge your happiness gap, and always reclaim your joy.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Ever experienced a moment of pure joy, only to have it squashed by a narcissist in your life? It’s like they revel in pouring rain on your happiness parade. You might find yourself scratching your head, wondering why someone would want to spoil such moments. 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#3 Lack of Empathy<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#4 Envy<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#5 Insecurity<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#6 Superiority<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#7 Bridging the Gap<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#8 Provoking Reactions<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#9 Deflection from their own Issues<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Final Words<\/h2>\n\n\n\n