{"id":19936,"date":"2024-02-23T09:24:15","date_gmt":"2024-02-23T08:24:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/?p=19936"},"modified":"2024-03-05T15:06:36","modified_gmt":"2024-03-05T14:06:36","slug":"15-things-narcissists-say-and-what-they-actually-mean","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/15-things-narcissists-say-and-what-they-actually-mean\/","title":{"rendered":"15 Things Narcissists Say and What They Actually Mean"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Narcissists have their way of saying things. They say one thing, but mean something different. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you have been with a Narcissist, you will notice them using the same sentences frequently; you’ll learn to understand what they actually mean by it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are 15 things they often say to their partners and what they actually mean by it. How many of these have you heard your partner say?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#1 “I’m sorry you feel that way.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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When a narcissist says, ‘I’m sorry you feel that way,’ they’re often dismissing your feelings instead of acknowledging their actions. It’s a tactic to deflect blame, maintaining their self-image while invalidating your emotions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They’re not genuinely sorry for causing hurt; they’re just sorry you’re upset. Remember, it’s not a sincere apology but a manipulative ploy. Don’t let it cloud your judgment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#2 “No one understands me like you do.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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‘No one understands me like you do’ is another common line narcissists use, a bait-and-switch tactic that makes you feel special yet serves to isolate you from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They’re subtly telling you that only you get them, which can make you feel uniquely bonded. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

But really, they’re manipulating you<\/a><\/strong> into a position of exclusive emotional support, effectively cutting you off from other relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#3 “You’re overreacting.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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‘You’re overreacting’ is a gaslighting tool<\/a><\/strong> narcissists often use to belittle your feelings and make you doubt your perception of reality. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

They’re not genuinely concerned about your emotional response when they say this. They’re deflecting blame, invalidating your emotions, and gaining control.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Their real meaning? ‘Your reactions inconvenience me. Stop challenging my behavior.’ It’s not about your overreaction but their inability to handle criticism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#4 “You’re so selfish.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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Continuing on this path of manipulation, a narcissist might accuse you of being selfish. This accusation isn’t about you, though. It’s a deflection to shift the spotlight from their selfishness. Their accusations are often confessions.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

They’re trying to make you feel guilty, to control you. But remember, you’re not selfish for having needs or boundaries or refusing to indulge their unreasonable demands.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#5 “You should feel lucky to be with me.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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‘You should feel lucky to be with me’ is another common phrase narcissists use to belittle and manipulate you, giving the impression that they’re doing you a favor by simply being in your life. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This tactic is designed to make you feel inferior and indebted to them, thus enabling their control over you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Please don’t fall for it. It’s not luck, it’s manipulation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#6 “I don’t remember saying that.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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Often, a narcissist will deny their past statements with a dismissive ‘I don’t remember saying that,’ as a way to gaslight you and undermine your perception of reality. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s their tactic to evade accountability, creating doubt in your mind about what happened.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They’re not forgetting; they’re rewriting history to suit their narrative. Stand firm in your recollection. They’re manipulating, not misremembering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

 #7 “Why can’t you ever do anything right?”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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Belittling your abilities, the narcissist might ask, ‘Why can’t you ever do anything right?’ to undermine your confidence. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This isn’t about your competence. Their tactic keeps you in self-doubt, feeling incapable and dependent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s a method to maintain control and superiority. Remember, you’re not the problem. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

They’re projecting their insecurities on you. Stand your ground, and don’t let their words define your worth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#8 “I never said\/did that.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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Shifting their narrative to suit their needs, narcissists may deny their actions or words by stating, ‘I never said\/did that.’ <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s a manipulative tactic, gaslighting you into doubting your memory. They evade responsibility. Don’t let them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trust your instincts and remember, you’re not crazy. Their denial doesn’t alter the truth. It’s their defense, not your defect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#9 “Everyone else agrees with me.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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In a bid to undermine your confidence, a narcissist might assert, ‘Everyone else agrees with me.’ This tactic is designed to make you doubt your judgement and position.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They’re saying, ‘Your perspective is invalid and unimportant.’ It’s a form of manipulation, pushing you to conform to their viewpoint instead of trusting your own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#10 “You have no idea what you’re talking about.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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When a narcissist tells you, ‘You have no idea what you’re talking about,’ they’re attempting to discredit your knowledge and experience. It’s a tactic to make themselves feel superior and undermine your confidence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They’re trying to control the narrative, creating doubt in your mind about your insights. Remember, it’s not about your competence but their need for dominance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#11 “Who else would put up with you?”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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Another common phrase narcissists use to belittle you is ‘Who else would put up with you?’ They imply that you’re so flawed that no one else could tolerate you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s a manipulation tactic meant to make you feel dependent and worthless. They want you to believe that you’re lucky they’re around.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You’re valuable and deserving of respect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#12 “I’m always right.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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Asserting their infallibility, narcissists often declare, ‘I’m always right,’ to assert dominance and dismiss your opinions. This isn’t about being correct. It’s a tool to belittle you, making you question your judgment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They’re not always right. They need you to believe they are. It’s manipulation to keep you in constant self-doubt and reliance on their ‘superior’ wisdom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#13 “You can’t live without me.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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‘You can’t live without me,’ have you ever heard a narcissist utter these words? It’s their way of asserting control and boosting their ego.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They’re trying to make you believe you’re dependent on them. In reality, it’s just a manipulative tactic, aimed at making you doubt your own strength and independence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They’re not expressing love, but rather their need for power.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#14 “It’s your fault.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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‘It’s your fault,’ is a common phrase thrown around by narcissists, designed to shift blame and responsibility onto you. They use this tactic to avoid owning up to their actions, making you feel guilty.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#15 “You’re just jealous\/paranoid.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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Ever heard a narcissist dismiss your concerns with a casual ‘you’re just jealous or paranoid’? This is their way of undermining your valid feelings and perceptions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Labeling you as jealous or paranoid means they’re deflecting blame and avoiding responsibility. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

In reality, they’re projecting their insecurities onto you, while maintaining their false sense of superiority.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Before You Go<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Navigating a relationship with a narcissist can be tricky, as their words often carry hidden meanings. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

By understanding what phrases like ‘You’re overreacting’ or ‘It’s your fault’ really mean, you’ll be better prepared to respond.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Remember, it’s not about you but their need for power and control. Don’t let their manipulation control your perception of yourself. Stand firm, and always trust your instincts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You’re worth more than their words may imply.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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