{"id":19921,"date":"2024-02-23T15:47:02","date_gmt":"2024-02-23T14:47:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/?p=19921"},"modified":"2024-02-24T15:29:20","modified_gmt":"2024-02-24T14:29:20","slug":"25-things-narcissists-say-when-they-cheat-on-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/25-things-narcissists-say-when-they-cheat-on-you\/","title":{"rendered":"25 Things Narcissists Say When They Cheat on You"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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If you are dating a Narcissist, you are probably familiar that they are almost always cheaters. They cheat because they can and don’t understand the fact you should make a fuzz about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It does not matter if you catch your Narcissist butt naked in bed with another woman; they will deny everything or, if that’s not working, blame YOU for it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We asked our Facebook group about some of the things Narcissists say when they cheat on you, and here are their answers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#1 “You accuse me, I’m gonna do it.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

When a narcissist says, <\/p>\n\n\n\n

‘If you accuse me, I’m gonna do it,’ <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

they’re essentially using your suspicions as a justification for their infidelity. It’s a manipulative tactic, attempting to shift the blame onto you. They’re suggesting you’re driving them to cheat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don’t take the bait. It’s not your fault. Infidelity is a choice they make, not a reaction to your concerns.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#2 “It’s all in your head. She’s just a friend.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Another common phrase narcissists use to deflect accusations of infidelity is, <\/p>\n\n\n\n

‘It’s all in your head. She’s just a friend.’ <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

They make you doubt your instincts, turning the blame on you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You’re led to believe you’re imagining things, overreacting. But trust your gut; it’s often right. Don’t let them manipulate your perception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#3 “Ask my mom. She’s just a long-time friend.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Asserting, ‘Ask my mom. She’s just a long-time friend’ is yet another deflection tactic narcissists employ to cover up their infidelity. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

They’re exploiting your trust in their mother’s word to mask their deceit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#4 “I don’t even know why we are fighting.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Just as they use deflection tactics to hide their cheating, narcissists often employ a strategy of confusion, exemplified by the statement, <\/p>\n\n\n\n

‘I don’t even know why we’re fighting.’<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This phrase is intended to make you question your perceptions and feelings, leaving you unsure and off-balance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s a way for them to avoid responsibility and shift the blame onto you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#5 “See what you made me do!”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

In a twisted display of blame-shifting, a narcissist may resort to the phrase, <\/p>\n\n\n\n

‘See what you made me do!’ <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

They’re insisting you forced their hand into infidelity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s a manipulative tactic to make you feel guilty, questioning your actions instead of theirs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don’t fall into this trap. Their choices are their own, not something you’ve driven them to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#6 “I can’t help if someone is attracted to me.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Shifting the blame isn’t the only tactic in their playbook; they might also downplay their actions with phrases like <\/p>\n\n\n\n

‘I can’t help if someone is attracted to me.’<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This statement diverts attention from their infidelity and places the responsibility on the third party. It’s a classic narcissist move – dodging accountability by making it seem like they’re just irresistible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#7 “I just work with her.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Another common phrase you might hear from a cheating narcissist is, <\/p>\n\n\n\n

‘I just work with her.’ <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This statement aims to normalize and justify their excessive time spent with the other person. They’re downplaying their relationship, ensuring you perceive it as innocent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yet, the frequency of their ‘working late’ or ‘work trips’ may indicate an intimate connection they’re trying to hide.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#8 “It’s not what you think. She is just a friend.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Despite the seemingly innocent nature of their ‘work relationship’, a deeper layer to their deceit emerges when they assure you, <\/p>\n\n\n\n

‘It’s not what you think. She’s just a friend.’<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is a classic diversion tactic, readily deployed to throw you off their scent. It’s a blatant exploitation of your trust, designed to mask their infidelity while perpetuating your self-doubt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#9 . “I have known her for years.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

When they drop the line, <\/p>\n\n\n\n

‘I have known her for years,’ <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

it’s often another smokescreen used to downplay their disloyalty and make their actions seem less suspicious. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Narcissists use this phrase to imply a spiritual history, trying to make you feel irrational for doubting them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#10 “You don’t have to worry. She’s not my type.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Building on the idea of manipulative phrases, consider the seemingly reassuring statement, <\/p>\n\n\n\n

‘You don’t have to worry. She’s not my type.’ <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is often a diversion, a way to deflect suspicion. Remember, actions speak louder than words.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If they spend an unusual amount of time with this person, your gut feeling might be right, regardless of whether she’s their ‘type’ or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#11 “Believe what you want.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Another common phrase narcissists use when they’re cheating is <\/p>\n\n\n\n

‘Believe what you want,’ <\/p>\n\n\n\n

which reeks of dismissiveness and a lack of empathy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s their way of avoiding guilt and responsibility. This phrase allows them to deny your suspicions and make you feel like you overreact.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s a sign they’re not invested in your feelings or the relationship’s health.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#12 “You are seeing things.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

In a bid to further gaslight you, a narcissist might tell you <\/p>\n\n\n\n

‘You are seeing things,’ <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

effectively blaming your suspicions on your misperceptions rather than their infidelity. They’re twisting reality, making you question your sanity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is a classic manipulation tactic to deflect blame and keep you off balance, ensuring they maintain control and avoid taking responsibility for their betrayal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#13 “It was a mistake.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Often, a narcissist will label their act of infidelity as a ‘mistake,’ attempting to minimize the severity of their actions and shrug off accountability. They’ll insist it was a one-time slip, not a repeated choice. But don’t be fooled.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This ‘mistake’ narrative is a tactic to deflect blame and keep you off balance, undermining your trust and self-worth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#14 “Let me explain. It’s not what you think.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

‘Let me explain. It’s not what you think,’ <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

is another manipulative phrase narcissists may use when they’re caught cheating. They’re trying to control the narrative, downplay their actions, and deflect blame.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Instead of acknowledging their betrayal, they muddy the waters with excuses, hoping you’ll doubt your own perceptions. Don’t fall for it. Trust your instincts and stand your ground.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#15 “Someone was hacking into my FB messenger. I was just trying to find out who it was.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

‘Someone was hacking into my FB messenger. I was just trying to find out who it was,’ <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

comes across as a classic deflection technique used by narcissists when they’re caught cheating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They’re shifting the blame, trying to make you feel guilty for accusing them. They’ll play the victim, making the situation about them, not their infidelity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Beware – it’s a manipulation tactic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#16 “You’re just insecure.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

While ‘someone was hacking into my FB messenger’ is a common deflection, another tactic narcissists use when accused of cheating is to dismiss your concerns by saying, <\/p>\n\n\n\n

‘You’re just insecure.’<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is a classic gaslighting move, designed to make you question your instincts and feelings. They’re trying to shift the blame onto you, making their infidelity seem like a product of your insecurities.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#17 “You don’t have to worry about her.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

In the midst of your suspicions, the Narcissist might dismiss your concerns with a casual, <\/p>\n\n\n\n

‘You don’t have to worry about her.’ <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is a classic deflection tactic, designed to make you feel irrational for suspecting something.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They attempt to control the narrative, establish dominance, and undermine your gut feelings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Always trust your intuition and don’t let them manipulate your emotions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#18 “You made me cheat.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Shifting blame is another tactic narcissists often use, especially with accusations like <\/p>\n\n\n\n

‘You made me cheat.’ <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

They’ll portray their infidelity as your fault, claiming you drove them to it. It’s a manipulative strategy designed to make you question your actions and feel guilty, taking the spotlight off their misconduct.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#19 “I didn’t do anything wrong.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Despite their unfaithfulness, a narcissist might insist, <\/p>\n\n\n\n

‘I didn’t do anything wrong,’ <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

in an attempt to absolve themselves of guilt or responsibility. They’re not acknowledging their actions or considering your feelings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Instead, they’re denying their culpability and manipulating the situation. It’s a selfish, thoughtless act that further evidences their lack of empathy and disregard for your pain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#20 “You’re too controlling, I need my freedom.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Following the denial of their infidelity, the Narcissist may try to turn the tables on you by asserting, <\/p>\n\n\n\n

‘You’re too controlling, I need my freedom.’ <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

They blame you for their actions, making you feel guilty for stifling them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s a classic manipulative move, aiming to distract you from their betrayal and undermine your confidence in your judgment. Stay strong, and don’t fall for it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#21 “I was just bored and needed some excitement.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

In a bid to justify their infidelity, a narcissist might claim, <\/p>\n\n\n\n

‘I was just bored and needed some excitement.’ <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is their attempt to blame monotony rather than their actions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They’re implying it’s your fault for not being interesting enough. Don’t buy into this, it’s a manipulation tactic they use to deflect responsibility for their betrayal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#22 “You’re blowing this out of proportion. It was a one-time thing.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

When a narcissist says, <\/p>\n\n\n\n

‘You’re blowing this out of proportion. It was a one-time thing,’ <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

they’re attempting to minimize their actions and your feelings about their infidelity. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

They’re shifting blame onto you, making it seem like you overreact. Remember, it’s not about the frequency of their cheating but the betrayal of trust.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your feelings are valid; don’t let them convince you otherwise.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#23 “If you trusted me more, I wouldn’t have looked elsewhere.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Shifting gears slightly, another tactic narcissists often employ is to declare, <\/p>\n\n\n\n

‘If you trusted me more, I wouldn’t have looked elsewhere.’ <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

They’re trying to make you feel guilty as if their infidelity is your fault. Please don’t fall for it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s manipulative and cruel, shifting blame from their actions onto your supposed lack of trust. They’re simply trying to evade accountability.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#24 “You’re just paranoid. Nothing is going on.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Contrary to what you may believe, the phrase <\/p>\n\n\n\n

‘You’re just paranoid, nothing is going on’ <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

is another classic line narcissists use to dismiss your suspicions about their infidelity. They’ll try to make you doubt your instincts and paint you as irrational.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This tactic, known as gaslighting, aims to deflect blame and keep you second-guessing while they continue their deceitful behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#25 “You’re trying to make me the bad guy here.”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Despite your valid concerns, a narcissist might accuse you of ‘trying to make them the bad guy,’ effectively turning the blame around on you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They’ll deflect responsibility for their actions by painting you as the perpetrator. It’s a classic manipulation tactic, designed to make you question your own perspective while they continue to cheat without remorse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Before You Go<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Cheating is a painful experience, and it’s even more so when the cheater is a narcissist. They’ll spin the situation, blaming you or trivializing their actions. Remember, their words are a manipulation tactic, not a reflection of your worth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trust your instincts, prioritize your well-being, and seek support. You deserve honesty, respect, and a partner who values your trust. Don’t let a narcissist’s excuses for cheating cloud your judgment or shake your self-worth.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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