{"id":18561,"date":"2023-08-11T13:04:01","date_gmt":"2023-08-11T12:04:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/?p=18561"},"modified":"2023-08-11T13:04:03","modified_gmt":"2023-08-11T12:04:03","slug":"make-a-narcissist-feel-bad-for-hurting-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/make-a-narcissist-feel-bad-for-hurting-you\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Ways to Make a Narcissist Feel Bad for Hurting You"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div class=\"wp-block-ultimate-post-table-of-content ultp-block-4a436d\"><div class=\"ultp-block-wrapper\"><div class=\"ultp-block-toc\"><div class=\"ultp-toc-header\"><div class=\"ultp-toc-heading\">Quick Links<\/div><div class=\"ultp-collapsible-toggle ultp-toggle-collapsed ultp-collapsible-right\"><a class=\"ultp-collapsible-text ultp-collapsible-open\" href=\"javascript:;\">[Open]<\/a><a class=\"ultp-collapsible-text ultp-collapsible-hide\" href=\"javascript:;\">[Close]<\/a><\/div><\/div><div class=\"ultp-block-toc-style1 ultp-block-toc-body\" style=\"display:none;\"><ul class=\"ultp-toc-lists\"><li><a href=\"#_Ways_to_Make_a_Narcissist_Feel_Bad_for_Hurting_You\">5 Ways to Make a Narcissist Feel Bad for Hurting You<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#Alternative_Strategies_for_Coping_with_a_Malicious_Narcissist\">Alternative Strategies for Coping with a Malicious Narcissist<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>As a rule, narcissists only care about themselves, so they will never feel bad for hurting you as long as they get what they need from the situation.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When a narcissist hurts you, it makes them feel better than you. It proves to them that <a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/the-narcissist-out-of-control\/\" data-type=\"link\" data-id=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/the-narcissist-out-of-control\/\">they\u2019re in control of the situation<\/a>, and your emotions, which feeds their need for power.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you want to make a narcissist feel bad about hurting you, you need to employ some ingenious techniques, like using reverse psychology or playing to their inflated ego.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>While some of these tactics might work in certain situations, be warned &#8211; it can be very dangerous to try to manipulate a narcissist, and if they catch you out, they\u2019ll make you pay!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/5-Ways-to-Make-a-Narcissist-Feel-Bad-for-Hurting-You-1.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/5-Ways-to-Make-a-Narcissist-Feel-Bad-for-Hurting-You-1-1024x1024.jpg\" alt=\"5 Ways to Make a Narcissist Feel Bad for Hurting You \" class=\"wp-image-18593\" srcset=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/5-Ways-to-Make-a-Narcissist-Feel-Bad-for-Hurting-You-1-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/5-Ways-to-Make-a-Narcissist-Feel-Bad-for-Hurting-You-1-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/5-Ways-to-Make-a-Narcissist-Feel-Bad-for-Hurting-You-1-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/5-Ways-to-Make-a-Narcissist-Feel-Bad-for-Hurting-You-1-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/5-Ways-to-Make-a-Narcissist-Feel-Bad-for-Hurting-You-1-600x600.jpg 600w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/5-Ways-to-Make-a-Narcissist-Feel-Bad-for-Hurting-You-1.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-base-3-color has-accent-background-color has-text-color has-background has-medium-font-size\">I want to explore some of the tactics you can use to make a narcissist feel bad for hurting you, what reaction you might expect, and what alternative methods you can use to cope with a narcissist&#8217;s hurtful behavior.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group alignwide has-background\" style=\"background-color:#fefbcf\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"_Ways_to_Make_a_Narcissist_Feel_Bad_for_Hurting_You\">5 Ways to Make a Narcissist Feel Bad for Hurting You<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Repeatedly telling the narcissist how badly they\u2019ve hurt you won\u2019t have any effect. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They won\u2019t listen, and they don\u2019t care. Instead, you need to approach the situation differently, using their narcissistic traits to your advantage.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"_Play_to_their_Egonbsp;\">#1 Play to their Ego&nbsp;<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/play-to-their-ego.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"768\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/play-to-their-ego-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"play to their ego\" class=\"wp-image-18612\" srcset=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/play-to-their-ego-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/play-to-their-ego-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/play-to-their-ego-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/play-to-their-ego.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>In this scenario, you feed the narcissist\u2019s ego to make them comfortable enough that they reveal some vulnerability.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Open the conversation by saying, <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cYou know, I was just thinking about our disagreement the other day and realized how much I value our relationship. The thought of hurting someone as important as you hit me hard.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cI want to avoid situations like that in the future and find a way for us to navigate our disagreements better.&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>&#8220;Your opinion matters to me, and I value your insights. What do you think we could do differently next time to avoid any misunderstandings?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In this scenario, you first feed their <a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/narcissistic-supply\/\">narcissistic supply<\/a> by highlighting their importance to you and seeking their guidance. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Once you\u2019ve got them feeling comfortable, needed, and powerful, you can express vulnerability and concern to create an opportunity for them to share their thoughts and insights.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Although the narcissist\u2019s unlikely to feel bad for hurting you, approaching the topic in this manner at least creates the opportunity for them to self-reflect and engage with you on a deeper level.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>While this may not lead to deep vulnerability on their part, it creates a more open dialogue and lays the groundwork for discussing sensitive topics.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Furthermore, narcissists love feeling important and special, so if you can make them feel that way, they\u2019re more likely to respond positively to your requests or needs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"_Blame_Yourselfnbsp;\">#2 Blame Yourself&nbsp;<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Blame-yourself-1.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"768\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Blame-yourself-1-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Blame yourself\" class=\"wp-image-18598\" srcset=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Blame-yourself-1-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Blame-yourself-1-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Blame-yourself-1-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Blame-yourself-1.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>I know blaming yourself usually plays in the narcissist\u2019s hands, but in this scenario, we\u2019re doing it to trigger his automatic need to prove you wrong.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Imagine the following scenario:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You: <\/strong>&#8220;I&#8217;ve been<strong> <\/strong>thinking about what happened between us, and I can&#8217;t help but feel like I might have contributed to the issue. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Maybe I wasn&#8217;t as understanding as I could have been or didn&#8217;t communicate my feelings clearly enough. I&#8217;m really upset with myself for not handling things better.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Narcissist:<\/strong> &#8220;Well, it&#8217;s not all your fault. I think there were things you could have done differently, but it&#8217;s not like you&#8217;re solely responsible.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You: <\/strong>&#8220;You&#8217;re right, I definitely could have done better. But I also noticed moments when I felt hurt by some things that were said. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Maybe I misunderstood, but it did affect me. I guess it&#8217;s just a reminder that we both have our parts to play in these situations.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Narcissist:<\/strong> &#8220;I guess I could have chosen my words more carefully. I didn&#8217;t mean to upset you that much.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In this example, you blame yourself so harshly to open a door for the narcissist, inviting them to disagree with you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When they do, they find themselves in a position where they can admit to their role in the issue without losing face or showing vulnerability. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They also get to prove you wrong, which means they maintain their sense of superiority.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"_Use_Reverse_Psychology\">#3 Use Reverse Psychology<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Use-Reverse-Psychology.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"768\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Use-Reverse-Psychology-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Use Reverse Psychology\" class=\"wp-image-18601\" srcset=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Use-Reverse-Psychology-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Use-Reverse-Psychology-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Use-Reverse-Psychology-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Use-Reverse-Psychology.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>The following scenario illustrates how you might use reverse psychology to make a narcissist feel bad about hurting you:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You:<\/strong> &#8220;I&#8217;ve been thinking a lot about what happened between us. At first, I couldn&#8217;t understand why I felt so hurt by your actions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But then I realized maybe I was wrong to expect better from you. Maybe I should have known that you&#8217;re incapable of being the person I thought you were.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Narcissist:<\/strong> &#8220;Wait, what do you mean?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You:<\/strong> &#8220;I mean, I probably gave you too much credit. I thought you cared about me and our relationship, but I guess I was mistaken. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Maybe I should have realized that I can&#8217;t really expect empathy or consideration from someone like you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Narcissist: <\/strong>&#8220;Hold on a second, that&#8217;s not fair.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You:<\/strong> &#8220;Isn&#8217;t it? I mean, it&#8217;s clear now that I must have misunderstood your intentions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I thought you were someone who could understand and appreciate my feelings, but maybe that was just wishful thinking on my part.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Narcissist:<\/strong> &#8220;No, you&#8217;re twisting this around.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You:<\/strong> &#8220;I&#8217;m just trying to be realistic. I don&#8217;t want to put unfair expectations on you anymore. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I should have known that you operate differently. It&#8217;s actually quite liberating to finally understand that.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Narcissist:<\/strong> &#8220;I didn&#8217;t mean to hurt you that way.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You:<\/strong> &#8220;I appreciate you saying that even if it&#8217;s just now sinking in for me. I guess I need to adjust my expectations moving forward.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In this scenario, you\u2019re telling the narcissist you expected too much of them, which will make them defend themselves.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>By downplaying your own hurt and instead focusing on their limitations, you indirectly prompt the narcissist to question their actions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This might make them feel bad about hurting you or at least make them aware that their comments were upsetting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"_Appeal_to_their_Aspirations\">#4 Appeal to their Aspirations<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Appeal-to-their-Aspirations.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"768\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Appeal-to-their-Aspirations-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Appeal to their Aspirations\" class=\"wp-image-18602\" srcset=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Appeal-to-their-Aspirations-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Appeal-to-their-Aspirations-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Appeal-to-their-Aspirations-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Appeal-to-their-Aspirations.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Pointing out how a narcissist\u2019s hurtful behavior conflicts with their aspirations may shock them into recognizing their flaws and even admitting to hurting you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Picture the following scenario:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You: &#8220;<\/strong>I&#8217;ve always admired your ambition and drive to succeed. You&#8217;ve always talked about wanting to be a better person, to achieve great things, and to have positive relationships.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Narcissist:<\/strong> &#8220;Yeah, that&#8217;s true.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You:<\/strong> &#8220;I think that&#8217;s why I was so surprised and hurt when things went as they did between us. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I thought you were committed to personal growth and building meaningful connections.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Narcissist:<\/strong> &#8220;I am, but sometimes things just happen.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You: &#8220;I get that, but I couldn&#8217;t help but think about how your actions don&#8217;t seem to align with the person you aspire to be. It&#8217;s like your goals are in conflict with how you treated me.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Narcissist:<\/strong> &#8220;I didn&#8217;t mean to hurt you that way.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You:<\/strong> &#8220;I believe you, but it made me question whether you&#8217;re truly aware of the impact of your actions on others. I thought someone with such high aspirations would be more considerate and empathetic.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In this scenario, you&#8217;re appealing to the narcissist&#8217;s goals and aspirations by pointing out how their hurtful behavior contradicts their desire to improve and achieve great things.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>By framing their actions as inconsistent with their aspirations, you encourage the narcissist to self-reflect and potentially feel remorse for their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"_Validate_Themnbsp;\">#5 Validate Them&nbsp;<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Validate-Them.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"768\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Validate-Them-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Validate Them\" class=\"wp-image-18603\" srcset=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Validate-Them-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Validate-Them-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Validate-Them-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Validate-Them.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Make a point of telling the narcissist how much they mean to you and how you value their opinions and feelings so much that the things they say have a huge impact on you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Making them feel powerful and important will help to disengage their defense mechanisms, making it easier for them to feel remorse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Narcissist:<\/strong> &#8220;I can&#8217;t believe you&#8217;re making such a big deal out of this. It&#8217;s not that serious.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You:<\/strong> &#8220;I understand that you might see it that way, but I want you to know that your opinion and feelings are important to me. I value our relationship, and when something like this happens, it genuinely affects me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Narcissist:<\/strong> &#8220;Well, I didn&#8217;t think it would matter that much to you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You:<\/strong> &#8220;It matters because you matter to me. I care about how you feel and how your actions impact our connection. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When something hurts me, it&#8217;s not just about the incident itself, but also about how it makes me question our relationship and the bond we share.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Narcissist:<\/strong> &#8220;I didn&#8217;t realize you felt that strongly about it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You:<\/strong> &#8220;I think that&#8217;s why we must communicate openly and honestly. That way, we can avoid misunderstandings and prevent unintentionally hurting each other. I want us to have a relationship where we both feel respected and valued.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In this scenario, you&#8217;re using validation to make the narcissist feel bad for hurting you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>By emphasizing the importance of their opinions and feelings to you, you create a sense of responsibility for their actions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This can lead to the narcissist feeling remorseful and motivated to improve their behavior to maintain a positive and respectful relationship with you.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group alignwide has-background\" style=\"background-color:#ededed\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"Alternative_Strategies_for_Coping_with_a_Malicious_Narcissist\">Alternative Strategies for Coping with a Malicious Narcissist<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Alternative-Strategies-for-Coping-with-a-Malicious-Narcissist-1.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"768\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Alternative-Strategies-for-Coping-with-a-Malicious-Narcissist-1-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Alternative Strategies for Coping with a Malicious Narcissist (1)\" class=\"wp-image-18609\" srcset=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Alternative-Strategies-for-Coping-with-a-Malicious-Narcissist-1-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Alternative-Strategies-for-Coping-with-a-Malicious-Narcissist-1-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Alternative-Strategies-for-Coping-with-a-Malicious-Narcissist-1-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Alternative-Strategies-for-Coping-with-a-Malicious-Narcissist-1.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Thinking about the possible consequences before you attempt to get a narcissist to feel bad for hurting you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Narcissists are very sensitive about criticism and are liable to fly off the handle if they feel attacked.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you don\u2019t feel confident trying any of these methods of making a narcissist feel bad, take a different approach, and create strategies that empower you and help you maintain your emotional well-being.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Consider these alternative approaches:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"Establish_Boundaries\">Establish Boundaries<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Set and communicate clear boundaries that take some of the power away from the narcissist and reduce the risk of them hurting you again in the future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"Prioritize_Self-Care\">Prioritize Self-Care<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Rather than trying to make the narcissist feel bad, focus on making yourself feel good by focusing on your own well-being and emotional healing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"Practice_Detachment\">Practice Detachment<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Limit your emotional investment in the narcissist&#8217;s reactions so you\u2019re less affected by their manipulative tactics.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"Avoid_Reacting\">Avoid Reacting<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Remaining calm and composed can deny the narcissist the satisfaction of getting a reaction from you, limiting their control over you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"Use_Consequences\">Use Consequences<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Instead of trying to make a narcissist feel bad, please focus on the consequences of their actions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For instance, if they hurt you in a certain way, you might limit your interactions with them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"Surround_Yourself_with_Positivity\">Surround Yourself with Positivity<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Cultivate positive relationships and activities that uplift you. The more you focus on positive aspects of your life, the less the narcissist&#8217;s behavior may affect you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"Educate_Yourself\">Educate Yourself<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/narcissistic-behavior\/\">Understanding narcissistic behavior<\/a> can help you navigate their tactics more effectively and empower you to take control of your responses.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Remember, the goal is not to change the narcissist but to empower yourself to handle the situation more healthily. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Making them feel bad is unlikely to result in meaningful change, so focusing on your well-being should be your top priority.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>As a rule, narcissists only care about themselves, so they will never feel bad for hurting you as long as they get what they need from the situation.&nbsp; When a narcissist hurts you, it makes them feel better than you. 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