{"id":18228,"date":"2023-07-17T11:18:55","date_gmt":"2023-07-17T10:18:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/?p=18228"},"modified":"2023-08-17T11:01:51","modified_gmt":"2023-08-17T10:01:51","slug":"11-signs-you-are-narcissistic-supply","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/11-signs-you-are-narcissistic-supply\/","title":{"rendered":"11 Signs You Are Narcissistic Supply"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div class=\"wp-block-ultimate-post-table-of-content ultp-block-f47dd0\"><div class=\"ultp-block-wrapper\"><div class=\"ultp-block-toc\"><div class=\"ultp-toc-header\"><div class=\"ultp-toc-heading\">Table of Contents<\/div><div class=\"ultp-collapsible-toggle ultp-toggle-collapsed ultp-collapsible-right\"><a class=\"ultp-collapsible-text ultp-collapsible-open\" href=\"javascript:;\">[Open]<\/a><a class=\"ultp-collapsible-text ultp-collapsible-hide\" href=\"javascript:;\">[Close]<\/a><\/div><\/div><div class=\"ultp-block-toc-style1 ultp-block-toc-body\" style=\"display:none;\"><ul class=\"ultp-toc-lists\"><li><a href=\"#_Signs_You_Are_Narcissistic_Supply\">11 Signs You Are Narcissistic Supply<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#FAQ\">FAQ<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group alignwide has-background\" style=\"background-color:#e5f5ff\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<p>Signs you are narcissistic supply include:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li>Constantly seeking validation from others<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Feeling a sense of entitlement<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>manipulating and exploiting others for personal gain<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>lacking empathy<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>and having an excessive need for admiration. <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Additionally, you may struggle with forming genuine and healthy relationships and tend to prioritize your needs and desires above others.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Narcissists rely on a steady stream of supply for validation and ego satisfaction. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They can use anyone or anything to source their supply, but they often turn to relationships to attempt to fulfill this overwhelming need.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>People in the narcissistic supply role often feel anxious, frustrated, and insecure. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They want to make the narcissist happy, but they&#8217;re constantly second-guessing themselves. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You may feel that nothing you do is good enough if this is you. You might also worry that, at any given moment, you&#8217;re about to be replaced.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/11-Signs-You-Are-Narcissistic-Supply.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/11-Signs-You-Are-Narcissistic-Supply-1024x1024.jpg\" alt=\"11 Signs You Are Narcissistic Supply\" class=\"wp-image-18240\" srcset=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/11-Signs-You-Are-Narcissistic-Supply-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/11-Signs-You-Are-Narcissistic-Supply-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/11-Signs-You-Are-Narcissistic-Supply-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/11-Signs-You-Are-Narcissistic-Supply-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/11-Signs-You-Are-Narcissistic-Supply-600x600.jpg 600w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/11-Signs-You-Are-Narcissistic-Supply.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group has-base-3-color has-accent-background-color has-text-color has-background has-medium-font-size\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<p>In this article, I will talk about the signs YOU are the Narcissistic Supply. I will also try to explain how it feels to be the Narcissistic supply and answer a few more questions you might have.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group alignwide has-background\" style=\"background-color:#fbfade;font-size:18px\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"_Signs_You_Are_Narcissistic_Supply\">11 Signs You Are Narcissistic Supply<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Not everyone realizes they are a source of narcissistic supply. If you don&#8217;t know you&#8217;re in a <a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/narcissist-in-relationships\/\">relationship with a narcissist<\/a>, you might dismiss certain behaviors as simply being &#8220;weird&#8221; or &#8220;unhealthy.&#8221; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And if you do recognize that you love a narcissist, you may blame yourself for causing them to act in specific ways.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here are some telltale signs you&#8217;re a source of narcissistic supply:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"They_Love-Bombed_You_Hard\">#1 They Love-Bombed You Hard<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/They-Love-Bombed-You-Hard.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"768\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/They-Love-Bombed-You-Hard-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"They Love-Bombed You Hard\" class=\"wp-image-18263\" srcset=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/They-Love-Bombed-You-Hard-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/They-Love-Bombed-You-Hard-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/They-Love-Bombed-You-Hard-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/They-Love-Bombed-You-Hard.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Of all the signs of narcissistic supply,&nbsp;<a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/how-long-does-love-bombing-last-with-a-narcissist\/\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">love bombing<\/a>&nbsp;is one of the most obvious. This stage can last for weeks, months, or even years, but it always has an expiration date (and when it happens, it hits victims&nbsp;<em>hard).&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>During the love bombing phase, narcissists shower their supply with excessive praise and adoration. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They will make it seem like you&#8217;re perfect and that you&#8217;re perfect together. Even if the victim&nbsp;<em>senses&nbsp;<\/em>something might be off, there&#8217;s also a sense of excitement and desire. They ignore that gut feeling and tell themselves they&#8217;re overreacting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Love bombing also consists of high levels of attention. It&#8217;s not uncommon to receive messages or calls throughout the day. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The narcissist wants to know everything about you, and they want to maintain continuous contact.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"The_Narcissist_Threats_You_When_You_Try_to_Leave_or_Set_Boundaries\">#2 The Narcissist Threats You When You Try to Leave or Set Boundaries<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/The-Narcissist-Threats-You-When-You-Try-to-Leave-or-Set-Boundaries.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"768\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/The-Narcissist-Threats-You-When-You-Try-to-Leave-or-Set-Boundaries-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"The Narcissist Threats You When You Try to Leave or Set Boundaries\" class=\"wp-image-18261\" srcset=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/The-Narcissist-Threats-You-When-You-Try-to-Leave-or-Set-Boundaries-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/The-Narcissist-Threats-You-When-You-Try-to-Leave-or-Set-Boundaries-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/The-Narcissist-Threats-You-When-You-Try-to-Leave-or-Set-Boundaries-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/The-Narcissist-Threats-You-When-You-Try-to-Leave-or-Set-Boundaries.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>You may be the supply if the narcissist reacts poorly when you create limits within the relationship. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This can sound like, &#8220;Why would you treat me this way? All I&#8217;ve done is love you!&#8221; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Other times, narcissists may become outwardly <a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/what-is-narcissistic-rage\/\">hostile or aggressive<\/a>. They will likely challenge your rules or make it seem like you&#8217;re punishing them.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sometimes, more covert narcissists punish their partners for boundaries. They might, on the surface, accept your limits openly. But their actions always tell a different story.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They might become <a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/the-passive-aggressive-narcissist\/\">passive-aggressive<\/a> or tell you you&#8217;re overreacting or accuse you of being harsh or overly critical. They will also find ways to test your boundaries while making it seem like you&#8217;re the punitive one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"You_Sense_Or_Know_They_Mirrored_You\">#3 You Sense (Or Know) They Mirrored You<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/You-Sense-Or-Know-They-Mirrored-You.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"768\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/You-Sense-Or-Know-They-Mirrored-You-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"You Sense (Or Know) They Mirrored You\" class=\"wp-image-18268\" srcset=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/You-Sense-Or-Know-They-Mirrored-You-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/You-Sense-Or-Know-They-Mirrored-You-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/You-Sense-Or-Know-They-Mirrored-You-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/You-Sense-Or-Know-They-Mirrored-You.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>All humans mirror other people to some extent- it&#8217;s a way we connect and build relationships with others. But&nbsp;<a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/narcissistic-mirroring\/\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">narcissistic mirroring<\/a>&nbsp;is far more insidious and manipulative.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When this happens, it feels like the narcissist&nbsp;<em>totally&nbsp;<\/em>gets you and has known you your entire life. You may feel amazed by how much you two have in common.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This results in people feeling truly seen, even though it&#8217;s unreal. Getting to know someone takes time, even in trusting relationships, and mirroring aggressively and quickly is just a way to accelerate a false sense of closeness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Narcissists use mirroring as a weapon. For example, if you confide that you struggle with depression, the narcissist might openly share their own experiences with depression and validate your vulnerable feelings. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But later, in an argument, they might say, &#8220;This sounds like you&#8217;re in a depressed episode. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You&#8217;re clearly not acting like yourself.&#8221; As you can see, mirroring becomes the perfect fuel for gaslighting.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"You_Feel_Guilty_for_Having_a_Life\">#4 You Feel Guilty for Having a Life<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/You-Feel-Guilty-for-Having-a-Life.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"768\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/You-Feel-Guilty-for-Having-a-Life-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"You Feel Guilty for Having a Life\" class=\"wp-image-18265\" srcset=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/You-Feel-Guilty-for-Having-a-Life-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/You-Feel-Guilty-for-Having-a-Life-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/You-Feel-Guilty-for-Having-a-Life-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/You-Feel-Guilty-for-Having-a-Life.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Narcissists often use a range of subtle and apparent tactics to keep their supply close to them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They will try to isolate you from others, even if that&#8217;s only emotional distance. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They might also make off-handed comments about you being too busy for them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That said, the experience generally isn&#8217;t reciprocal. Even though a narcissist has no problem guilting you for having other relationships or needs, they have no problem having a full schedule. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They don&#8217;t hesitate to cancel your plans when something better comes up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"They_Only_Treat_You_Well_After_They_Messed_Up\">#5 They Only Treat You Well After They Messed Up<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/They-Only-Treat-You-Well-After-They-Messed-Up.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"768\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/They-Only-Treat-You-Well-After-They-Messed-Up-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"They Only Treat You Well After They Messed Up\" class=\"wp-image-18264\" srcset=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/They-Only-Treat-You-Well-After-They-Messed-Up-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/They-Only-Treat-You-Well-After-They-Messed-Up-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/They-Only-Treat-You-Well-After-They-Messed-Up-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/They-Only-Treat-You-Well-After-They-Messed-Up.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Narcissists generally follow a predictable cycle of&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/narcissistic-abuse\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">emotional abuse<\/a>. First, they tend to love-bomb people by showcasing extreme forms of affection. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Then, once they realize the other person is only human, they start devaluing them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The devaluing phase often feels like a constant hot-and-cold tango. You never know if you&#8217;re going to be on their good side.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>After they inevitably make a mistake, however, they may try to shove it under the rug by showering you with affection or gifts again. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This might feel so good that you actually&nbsp;<em>do&nbsp;<\/em>forget what happened. But the kindness never lasts for long- it&#8217;s all about getting you back into their familiar orbit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"You_No_Longer_Know_Your_Own_Identity\">#6 You No Longer Know Your Own Identity<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/You-No-Longer-Know-Your-Own-Identity.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"768\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/You-No-Longer-Know-Your-Own-Identity-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"You No Longer Know Your Own Identity\" class=\"wp-image-18267\" srcset=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/You-No-Longer-Know-Your-Own-Identity-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/You-No-Longer-Know-Your-Own-Identity-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/You-No-Longer-Know-Your-Own-Identity-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/You-No-Longer-Know-Your-Own-Identity.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Narcissists are skilled in convincing people that their opinions, needs, and values trump everyone else&#8217;s. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In many ways, they will make you question the way you think. Over time, this can lead to a merging of identities. You take on their preferences and sacrifice your own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Many victims of <a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/narcissistic-abuse\/\">narcissistic abuse<\/a> feel like shells of their former selves. They no longer even know who they are. This is a clear sign that you may be a form of narcissistic supply.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"You_Feel_Like_Theyre_Upset_When_Youre_Happy_or_Succeed\">#7 You Feel Like They&#8217;re Upset When You&#8217;re Happy or Succeed<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/You-Feel-Like-Theyre-Upset-When-Youre-Happy-or-Succeed.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"768\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/You-Feel-Like-Theyre-Upset-When-Youre-Happy-or-Succeed-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"You Feel Like They're Upset When You're Happy or Succeed\" class=\"wp-image-18266\" srcset=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/You-Feel-Like-Theyre-Upset-When-Youre-Happy-or-Succeed-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/You-Feel-Like-Theyre-Upset-When-Youre-Happy-or-Succeed-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/You-Feel-Like-Theyre-Upset-When-Youre-Happy-or-Succeed-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/You-Feel-Like-Theyre-Upset-When-Youre-Happy-or-Succeed.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>A narcissist uses relationships as a form of emotional leverage. They source people to fulfill their own needs and desires.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Narcissists also value <a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/narcissist-lies-to-control-you\/\">power and control <\/a>above everything else. Your own achievements, which may have been attractive to them at the onset of your relationship, now become threatening. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You being &#8220;better&#8221; than them feels unsafe. They might no longer feel like they can call all the shots, which puts them in a vulnerable position.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As a result, they will react by putting you down, trying to sabotage your success, or&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/how-to-deal-with-the-narcissists-smear-campaign\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">smearing you to others<\/a>. They will do this all while gushing about how much they love you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Watch out <a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/the-narcissist-out-of-control\/\">when the Narcissist starts to lose control<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"Everything_Feels_One-Sided\">#8 Everything Feels One-Sided<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/Everything-Feels-One-Sided.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"768\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/Everything-Feels-One-Sided-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Everything Feels One-Sided\" class=\"wp-image-18260\" srcset=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/Everything-Feels-One-Sided-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/Everything-Feels-One-Sided-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/Everything-Feels-One-Sided-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/Everything-Feels-One-Sided.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Relationships with narcissists are far from healthy relationships&#8217; balanced, take-and-give nature. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Loved ones often feel like they&#8217;re always rescuing, validating, and caring for the narcissist. It can seem like your own needs are entirely disregarded.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When the attention is on you, it&#8217;s often short-lived, and that effort may be used against you later. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In addition, narcissists often want immense praise for doing the bare minimum in a relationship.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"You_Feel_Like_You_Always_Need_to_Validate_Them\">#9 You Feel Like You Always Need to Validate Them<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Because narcissists depend on external sources for validation, they turn to their relationships for praise and acceptance. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They can&#8217;t give it to themselves. As a result, they&#8217;re constantly sourcing positive feedback from you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And when they don&#8217;t get enough attention, they may lash out or fake a crisis to solicit some emotional response.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"Youre_Always_the_One_Apologizing\">#10 You&#8217;re Always the One Apologizing<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/Youre-Always-the-One-Apologizing.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"768\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/Youre-Always-the-One-Apologizing-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"You're Always the One Apologizing\" class=\"wp-image-18269\" srcset=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/Youre-Always-the-One-Apologizing-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/Youre-Always-the-One-Apologizing-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/Youre-Always-the-One-Apologizing-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/Youre-Always-the-One-Apologizing.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>It&#8217;s healthy to take accountability for your wrongdoings and genuinely apologize when you make a mistake. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But it&#8217;s a red flag if this feels lopsided. Think about it- when was the last time the narcissist authentically told you they were sorry for something? Without any prompting or drama?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And better yet, did they follow up and show you they were willing to make positive changes? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&#8217;s a myth that narcissists don&#8217;t apologize, but many dole out&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/the-narcissist-and-apology\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">fake apologies<\/a>&nbsp;to sidestep personal responsibility and restore your trust in them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"They_Always_Remind_You_How_Nobody_Else_Understands_Them\">#11 They Always Remind You How Nobody Else Understands Them<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/They-Always-Remind-You-How-Nobody-Else-Understands-Them.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"768\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/They-Always-Remind-You-How-Nobody-Else-Understands-Them-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"They Always Remind You How Nobody Else Understands Themey Always Remind You How Nobody Else Understands Them\" class=\"wp-image-18262\" srcset=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/They-Always-Remind-You-How-Nobody-Else-Understands-Them-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/They-Always-Remind-You-How-Nobody-Else-Understands-Them-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/They-Always-Remind-You-How-Nobody-Else-Understands-Them-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/They-Always-Remind-You-How-Nobody-Else-Understands-Them.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>You can tell you&#8217;ve become a source of narcissistic supply when they comment on how disconnected or misunderstood they are from others.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Your relationship is special! You see them for their true self! They will never meet someone who gets them like you do.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>At first, these comments can be flattering, which is why they are often used during the love bombing phase. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But after time passes, you will recognize how manipulative and controlling they are. It&#8217;s as if you are the only source of love and meaning in their life, making it much harder to cut ties.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group alignwide has-background\" style=\"background-color:#f4f4f4\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"FAQ\"><strong>FAQ<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"What_Does_Narcissistic_Supply_Feel_Like?\u00a0\">What Does Narcissistic Supply Feel Like?&nbsp;<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>It generally feels like a whirlwind. The stakes are high, and you don&#8217;t know how to get off the ride. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You may feel responsible for the narcissist&#8217;s behavior and worry about what they will do if you try to end things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Being the narcissistic supply also feels draining. No matter what you do, it never seems to be enough. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The narcissist could tell you&nbsp;<em>exactly&nbsp;<\/em>what they want you to do, and even if you follow their instructions completely, they could still become angry or disappointed.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"How_Does_a_Narcissist_Act_When_They_Lose_Supply?nbsp;\">How Does a Narcissist Act When They Lose Supply?&nbsp;<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Narcissists respond differently when losing their supply, depending on what&#8217;s in their control. For example, if the narcissist voluntarily leaves a relationship, it means&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Other times, losing supply triggers immense depression and anxiety. The narcissist might even go through a state of withdrawal that mimics other forms of addiction. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They often have high cravings for supply, and they may try every trick to&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/narcissist-hoover-examples\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">lure you back in<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Consider reading:<\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/thenarcissisticlife.com\/how-do-narcissists-treat-old-supply\/\">How Do Narcissits Treat Old Supply?<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"How_Does_a_Narcissist_Act_When_They_Have_a_New_Supply?\">How Does a Narcissist Act When They Have a New Supply?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Narcissists are willing to trade one supply for another, mainly when the new supply seems more promising. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But narcissists are always chasing a moving target. No sustained satisfaction exists because they fall in love with projected fantasies of what their supply can provide.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The narcissist will start with idealization and love bombing. This next person or next thing suddenly answers all their problems. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>At this point, they&#8217;ve essentially moved on and start using all their tricks to connect with the new supply.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>However, the cycle continues repeating itself time and time again. Narcissists can rarely- if ever- hold onto one supply source for long. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Even if they stay in a monogamous relationship, they will seek supply through many other sources, such as fame, status, compulsive behavior, or validation from other friends or family.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"How_Do_You_Stop_Being_Narcissistic_Supply?nbsp;\">How Do You Stop Being Narcissistic Supply?&nbsp;<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>If you think you&#8217;re being used as a source of narcissistic supply, you&#8217;re not alone and didn&#8217;t do anything wrong. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Anyone can be a victim of this frustrating dynamic, and it can feel very challenging to change the situation when you&#8217;re in it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Learn more about narcissism:&nbsp;<\/strong>Educate yourself on narcissism and its common traits. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>While knowledge doesn&#8217;t excuse a narcissist&#8217;s behavior or fix how you feel, it can give you a greater context into understanding the situation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Keep building your own self-worth:&nbsp;<\/strong>Prioritize your self-esteem and ensure you keep your identity intact. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If the narcissist can&#8217;t respect this, it&#8217;s time to draw new boundaries.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Stop validating problematic behavior:&nbsp;<\/strong>There&#8217;s a fine line between love and codependency, and you can tell if you&#8217;re too enabling if you keep praising someone&#8217;s toxic decisions or smothering behavior.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Try gray rocking if necessary:&nbsp;<\/strong>Narcissists love validation and will eventually disengage once you stop giving into their emotional drama. Remember that even negative attention can be just as beneficial as positive attention.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Reevaluate your relationship:&nbsp;<\/strong>If you feel used or disrespected, it&#8217;s worth reassessing what this relationship brings to you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You may need to reduce or eliminate contact with this person, especially if they continue making you feel worse about yourself. You deserve to prioritize your wellness.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Signs you are narcissistic supply include: Additionally, you may struggle with forming genuine and healthy relationships and tend to prioritize your needs and desires above others. Narcissists rely on a steady stream of supply for validation and ego satisfaction. 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