We live in a world where people are waking up – and that can look like different things – depending on who you are and what you’re waking up to.

Narcissists are some of the most dangerous woke people on the planet – and it’s about time somebody talked about it.

That somebody is me. And today, I am doing this for all the people out there currently suffering under any kind of woke narcissist.

The Dawn of The Woke

Hearing that somebody is woke can mean that they’re far more politically and/or socially aware than others.

It’s a phrase used to almost insult people these days, and as opinions seem to get more divisive in society, it’s thrown around frequently.

If somebody is strong-minded, as well as carrying narcissistic traits, then that’s a pretty opinionated person, don’t you think?

Don’t Mistake This

I’m all for equality. I sometimes can’t believe that we live in 2024, and so much corruption is still out there.

I like to stand up for what I believe in; for what’s right.

Woke is a word that’s become attached to people who use their opinions to get incredibly strong messages across, that can sometimes be unhelpful.

Now imagine that kind of person also being a narcissist.

What a combination!

Joking aside, it really is a combination you’re not going to want to be around.

Narcissism and Wokery: The Perfect Marriage

Being woke means you like to get to the root of problems. You want to talk about them, and actively seek to address issues that nobody else is raising awareness of.

Woke people always lean toward wanting to be right, and thinking their opinions are facts.

Other parts of society can question this behavior, but it only makes the issue bigger in general.

It’s not uncommon for woke people to also label people, and use those labels as a fixed opinion of them.

Now – marry that with the character of a narcissist.

I know, right? You want to run and hide, too.

The Danger Coming to Life

It’s a complete double red flag situation you’ll have going on.

I’m not narrow-minded enough to think that all people with an opinion are woke, but this is a different level completely.

The danger comes when you’re faced with somebody with such negative force that they intend to make everything about them, what they believe in, and what should ‘be.’

Wokery and narcissism truly collide to bring out the worst in a person who is already toxic, and I don’t want any of you to sweep how dangerous that is under the carpet.

#1 Extreme Views Just Got More Extreme

The reason narcissists have extreme views is that they love to divide people, causing fallout, fights, and complete chaos.

They love to voice their opinions in the hope the people around them will find a way to submerge in the following debates and arguments.

You want to add in the factor now that to awaken to certain aspects of life, narcissist’s opinions will be even more extreme, and cause even more division. It’s

#2 Offended? They Will Be!

Narcissists love to be offended. When they feel that way, they sink deep into victim mode, where you’ll find them loving life the most.

We all find things offensive, don’t get me wrong here. This is another level though, and one that I’m sure you won’t want to witness.

#3 Divisive? You Bet!

Speaking a little on division already has shown you that narcissists love to create conflict where there is none – just for the sake of it.

If that sounds like somebody you know, it’s probably because they’ve got a special connection between being a narcissist and being a little more woke than your average person.

Polarizing issues make for polarizing comments – so if you know somebody who fits this description, you’ll probably want to steer clear of them.

Their minds will work in more dangerous ways than you can think of!

#4 “I Will Not Rest!”

“….Until my opinion is written down, stamped and sealed as fact!”

That’s how most woke narcissists love to act, and that’s what you’ll find yourself facing a lot if you meet one.

It’s such a dangerous game to play, isn’t it? To put your opinion out there so much that you will not back down until people agree with you, or see things your way.

I could never imagine compromising somebody else’s views just so I could see my own come to light.

This is a different level of stubbornness that excels all healthy levels! And it’s a really dangerous game to witness.

#5 “Oh Look, That Fire Needs Fuel”

Yes, some situations need no fuel thrown on the fire, and woke narcissists, if they were honest with themselves, could write a long list of examples.

Do you think it’s good to make matters worse wherever you can?

I don’t see life as a way to keep churning out scenarios that are meant to be more problematic, but narcissists dance to a different beat altogether.

They love to dive in when the water is warm and boil it with their induced drama.

It’s dangerous to enter those kinds of waters. You can quickly become swept up in unnecessary dramas that you may have otherwise sidestepped.

#6 Fear, Fear, Fear

Woke narcissists love to instill fear wherever they go. It’s funny how your average narcissist loves the same, but when woke, that fear enlarges a lot.

Fear of saying the wrong thing to them.

Fear of being misunderstood.

Fear of offending.

Fear of upsetting.

Fear of stealing their thunder.

Fear of succeeding more than the woke narcissist.

Fear of mispronunciation.

Fear of getting it wrong.

Fear of getting it right.

My goodness; what a crazy collaboration of worries to have – and it’s all because the woke narcissist wants you to feel all of those emotions.

How Do Narcissists Manipulate Their Partners?

Narcissists are happiest when they have a partner they can twist, manipulate and control.

They love to be part of something where everybody else is smaller and less powerful than they are. Their lives then have meaning, just as they feel they should every day.

There are specific ways a narcissist will manipulate their partners, though. As troubling as it may sound, these are textbook ways – and that’s where you need to pay close attention.

If this sounds like your situation, that’s because it likely is.

“My Reality is Fact!”

The reality is that you’re being manipulated by someone who has had much practice. They’ve been exactly where they are now, except with different victims.

“You’re Nothing!”

Being told how worthless you are does a few things.

For the narcissist, it brings them to a new level of control and manipulation. If you hear something enough times, you will start to believe it.

You believe it even more when you’re treated that way alongside those words.

It’s all a tactic, created to destroy your hopes and dreams, your identity, and how you carry yourself each day.

Where you once stood tall, you now slouch and try to be invisible.

That’s exactly how the narcissist wants you.

“It’s Your Fault, Not Mine!”

Narcissists project to get whatever they’ve done wrong out of the light. They don’t want their faults or inappropriate actions to be spotted, and so they throw you out there instead.

So everybody looks at you. The narcissist looks at you as if they feel let down by you.

And you feel that shame, because you take it on. And you take it on because they’ve pushed it so far into you that you have no choice.

This design is set up to get them off the hook.

Thank God you are there for them to treat you this way – without you – they just might look like the bad guy.

Phew for them!

“…”

That’s right, the good old silent treatment. The way narcissists do this is by completely shutting down and ignoring you.

If you’ve experienced it, I don’t need to tell you how uncomfortable it is. It induces panic, fear and worry, and like all things narcissists do, it is unnecessary.

The silent treatment acts to give you nothing at all, so it’s easy for the narcissist to say, “Well, I didn’t say anything horrible. I wasn’t mean,” Then make excuses for them being quiet.

When you’ve been given the silent treatment, you are left to your own insecure devices.

What did I do wrong?

How can I fix this?

What can I do to make them happy?

I must be a terrible person.

What’s going to happen next?

Do you need this?

No.

Yet they make it so prevalent in your world.

It isn’t fair.

“I Must Cause Fallout”

What is life without a little drama? Actually, it’s quite nice. But then again, I’m speaking as an emotionally healthy person, and not a narcissist.

The idea that drama is of such greedy interest to the narcissist is one that never fails to shock me. Why would anybody want to be in the middle of so much negativity?

Narcissists do. As people and emotions explode around them, they can act and do what they like and not be seen to be doing anything wrong at all.

Be careful here – narcissists want to pull strings to see a certain dynamic.

If you’re a part of that, you will suffer.

“Poor Me…”

The victim mentality of a narcissist can stop the most believing people in their tracks.

It’s all been too much for me.

I try my best.

I don’t know what I do wrong to upset people.

I wish people would understand me.

These phrases tug at the heartstrings of those who want to give them the benefit of the doubt, and sadly – yes – it works.

Narcissists always want to look as though they’re being wronged.

This injects:

Guilt
Shame
Self-blame
Self-loathing
Insecurity
Worry
Anxiety
Depression

In their partners, and they know this.

They just don’t care.

“Bringing You Back, Get Ready!”

Let’s take you back to a time where we were so in love, and everything was perfect!

We are so great, you and me. It was us against the world!

Think about all that passion we had. You’re never going to be able to find that anywhere else.

Oh, the manipulation game is strong with these kinds of phrases. They love getting you at your most vulnerable, reflecting on the distorted nostalgia between you.

It’s enough to make you paint over all the cracks in between, isn’t it? And there were a lot of those.

What’s manipulative about this is the narcissist’s attempt to invite you to ignore their abuse, and only focus on the good (which was likely to have felt magical!)

Don’t get sucked into this black hole.

“I Will Tell Everybody!”

Uh-oh. What’s that supposed to mean?

I think you and I both know this is not going to end well with you,

Narcissists will tell whoever listens what a horrible person you are and how you wronged them. They may stretch as far as saying that you are the cheater, you hurt them, you spread lies about them and you’re the manipulative one.

It’s frustrating for victims, but beyond that, it’s absolutely destructive.

Suddenly, your reputation is in tatters. It’s all based on the false word of the narcissist, who, by the way, is likely loving seeing your house of bricks fall down while their house of cards remains.

“Nice, But Not!”

You go out, they act like the perfect partner.

You get home, and they ignore you.

You did this wrong, you did that wrong, you didn’t pay them enough attention, you flirted with that person.

Whatever it is, the charm will switch off. The mask will inevitably slip.

This is where the narcissist has learned not just to manipulate you but also to manipulate everybody else, too. They all think, “What a nice person. They’re such a good couple.”

Also the best one,

“You’re so lucky to have them as your partner!”

Oh boy, if only they knew the truth, right?

The truth is, you aren’t lucky. The narcissist is just very clever. They know buttons to press, when to press them, who to press them with, and they are always ready for it.

You on the other hand then find it even more difficult to convince people of the truth.

This is the sole reason why narcissists manipulate – to make you look like the crazy one eventually, and for them to be the victim.

Why Woke Narcissists Are More Dangerous Than You Think