For those with faith, God is always there. He is in everything you do and do, and he walks beside you.
The Almighty that we learn about and are familiar with can sometimes work as a leaning post for narcissists after you leave them.
As a narcissist finds themselves alone, they reach out to something much bigger than you, than life itself.
But why? What is it about God that attracts the narcissistic personality?
I’ll tell you!
It’s over?
Firstly, I’m glad it’s over. It means you’re now free of them and their abusive ways.
The narcissist over in their little corner isn’t having so much of a great time.
Sure, they are also free, but they may not necessarily want to be. You did an awful lot for them, and you were a great source of supply.
It’s well within the narcissist’s habits to try to find peace within themselves, and they can draw in God for that.
Now, some of you may believe, and others may not. As subjective as religion is treated these days, what’s important is why the narcissist looks to God all of a sudden, and why now in the midst of you leaving them?
Let me start by saying this is more common than you think, and it proves all along the kind of person you were once dealing with.
Which also leads me to the strong words of how pleased I am that you chose to leave.
After all, imagine being with somebody so intent on making a religion an excuse for their poor, toxic behavior.
The divine rebrand
You know them as one type of person; a person who hurts people for a living.
When you witness all that attitude, do you ever picture leaving them and watching them float toward the eternal light of God?
What a rebrand! This isn’t the person you know! Why have they taken this path? It’s perfect when you think about it.
To walk toward God without any solid or authentic reason is really to hide some kind of underlying guilt they’re carrying. Instead of admitting to that, they hide under the guise of Him.
When a rebrand presents itself, a narcissist will snap up that opportunity and go with it.
What have they got to lose? They blissfully package their image up in God’s glory and become one step closer to being fully holier than thou.
Once they’ve rebranded themselves, there’s really no stopping them.
They get to start again, with brand new values and morals that will attract new people, inspire passers by, and hopefully for them, bring in a vast amount of brand new supply.
After all, you left them and they don’t have any, so they need some fast.
I totally get how this can make you feel nauseous over it all. You’re used to this version of them that you wanted to step away from, and now you’re seeing a total sickly stranger rise from the ashes of your past relationship.
The new stage
When you leave a narcissist, the first thing they want (or rather, need) to do, is build a new stage.
The one they had with you is no good, and worthless seeing as they can’t stand on it any more and talk about you, or make you control the lighting on it so they always look perfect.
They need another.
So yours comes crashing down, and they build a new one, with the help of God.
Taking away the old and showing the world the new acts as a type of rebirth that aligns well with newfound religious beliefs.
They get to be a brand new person under a brand new spotlight away from you, and this time, they’re the ones controlling the lighting!
This new stage attracts people the narcissist didn’t even know before. Finding a church to go to will always draw crowds as the concept of welcoming and embracing new members is top of their list.
Perfect for the narcissist, who can now claim to be anything they like for the people who unknowingly have tickets to the show.
Eternal forgiveness
That’s what God is best known for! But those who genuinely follow Him will be doing so for reasons other than, “Well I can do what I like because all is forgiven always.”
And for those who believe and follow God in their lives, I know you know this already.
But I highly doubt that leaves you in any position to treat people poorly and use, “Well it’s okay, God forgives” as the excuse to do it.
God may forgive, but He also judges.
Narcissists really are living in their own dream world if they think they can get everything they want from God just because his practice teaches and reaches constant flows of forgiveness.
That doesn’t give anybody the right to belittle, criticize, control or manipulate anybody in life, does it?
Confession with accountability
At night time, when the narcissist lays their head down to sleep, they may say a little prayer first.
They may confess to anything and everything without actually putting any accountability into what they’re talking about.
So that leaves them with an open book.
I am a narcissist and I am going to live by the grace of God and never admit to doing a thing wrong. I can confess, never be judged, and certainly never judged by a visible person who can reply to me and tell me all my faults.
That pretty much sums up every reason why narcissists in particular love God, and find God after you leave them.
“God told me”
God told them to move on and find a new path away from you, right? How convenient, seeing as you left them anyway.
So now, whatever comes next in their world is just one big excuse to say that God told them the way.
A new job in a new city? God told them to do it. Help people more (in secret exchange for a great reputation)? God told them to do it.
God is the new leader, but actually the narrative still comes from the narcissist who is using religion as a reason to do whatever they want.
You owe no second chances
If you believe in God, then you believe in an energy and deity that forgives. He gives second chances, because he judges nobody.
It’s an attractive idea for the narcissist, who is always looking to get away with treating people so unkindly, but let’s think about this for a moment.
You are not God. You don’t owe anybody anything, especially after they treat you so poorly.
It’s not down to you to forgive and forget over and over and over, rinse and repeat.
It’s on you to take care of yourself and ensure you aren’t being treated badly.
It’s on you to say enough is enough.
If they want to rely on God for ultimate forgiveness, that’s on them. It’s not your duty to follow suit and be the one who ensures they can do no wrong in your eyes.
Leave them, and allow no second chances.
