When it comes to dysregulated dynamics, the narcissist and the empath fit together perfectly.
On one hand, you have a person who gives all they can give, and on the other, you have somebody who does nothing but take, take, take.
It is a recipe for disaster.
But there is a slight glitch in this scenario, and that is how badly the narcissist falls apart when they meet a super empath.
Today is all about that.
#1 The narcissist
Enter the narcissist! The person who exudes charm, confidence, and thinks they know it all.
Enter the narcissist! The person who will pretend they know you better than you know yourself.
Enter the narcissist! The person who will fake their way into your heart until you have fallen head over heels in love with them.
These kinds of people are a danger to the world, and yet they are everywhere.
They are deeply overrun by insecurities and self-loathing to a point where they will literally paint on the image of somebody they’ve made up and pretend it’s who they really are.
They love a people pleaser, because they know any person who lives to please will do anything and everything they ask.
They love to dish out love like it’s breadcrumbs on a dirty plate, and they know the empath will eat them up because that is all that’s on offer.
#2 The empath
Enter the empath. A person mistakenly described as weak or too sensitive, when in fact, they are simply highly attuned to whatever is going on around them.
Enter the empath. Somebody who values connections, searches for people they can support, and who can read a room as if it were the latest gripping, best-selling novel.
Empaths are drawn to people they feel need help, because they find their worth in lending a hand and making a difference. They will push aside character faults, replacing them with the benefit of the doubt on all occasions.
They don’t want conflict. They want a peaceful life, and will do anything to de-escalate problems that arise in life before they become too big to manage.
They are highly intuitive, and will look for signs that often are not even there, not because they are seeing things, but because they are overly linked to so much that goes on in their aura.
Empaths are kind, but not so kind to themselves. These kinds of people are a narcissist’s dream.
If they can find that one person who will always put them first at the detriment of everything else, then they’ve found a keeper, or as they like to refer to them as:
The greatest source of supply.
#3 Wait… Superempath?!
So now, we talk about the super empath.
The person who, if you can believe it, exceeds the description of a normal empath and lives and breathes on a whole new plain of enlightenment and existence.
Often escaping into solitude just to feel as though they are recharging their batteries is common, just like feeling physical pain in their body as a result of other people’s pain.
Super empaths love to engage in creative projects because they themselves are highly tuned into the arts and being creative.
They use a filter of intuition, and will practice living through that lens each day. Empaths like this always give, and never expect anything in return.
They are brilliant listeners, and go above and beyond what is asked or expected of them.
#4 The collision creates consequences
It’s a collision like no other, and I am sure you will agree feeds the toxic magnetism that attracts these two types of people even more.
The meeting of a super empath and a narcissist is like watching a supermoon rise in the evening sky.
It is overpowering, more overpowering than the character of a narcissist.
But you know, with every collision, there has to be consequences.
#5 The narcissist falling apart
What comes to mind when you think about a narcissist falling apart?
Let’s look at it two ways:
The narcissist losing their mind
The narcissist finally meets their match. They can’t compete with a super empath. Super empaths are:
- Trusted
- Engaging
- Compassionate
- Highly intuitive
- Caring
- Thoughtful
- Supportive
A narcissist has to pretend to be all of those things, and when I say pretend, I mean it takes so much effort and energy to even come close to appearing this authentic.
It’s draining, to say the least, but even more draining for a person who carries these traits naturally around with them day in and day out.
And the other way?
The narcissist’s ego falling apart.
They can’t compete with you, yet they expect to not have to compete with anybody.
They truly believe they’re the best, and not a single person – even you – comes close.
Yet time and time again, they are proven wrong. The family gush and say how lovely they are.
Friends always call the super empath. The super empath always seems to trump the narcissist when it comes gift giving, thoughtfulness and kindness.
The narcissist’s thunder is stolen, not just once, but constantly.
#6. But why?
Because narcissists are fake, and they can’t stand the idea that a super empath is in their life, with all their realness.
When a narcissist has to fake being brilliant, and caring about the feelings of others, the same traits come so naturally to the super empath.
Can you imagine how damaging that is to the narcissist’s ego?
They thought they were meeting a person they could charm and manipulate, but there is so much they’re in fact, unable to do.
#7 The two characters are toxic when together
Not just a little, but a lot.
You’ve got one person, who on one hand feels everything so intensely.
Then you’ve got the narcissist, who lives to make the lives of everybody they know so miserable.
They care about nothing and nobody, just their own image and reputation.
One will chase for love and affection, the other will hand it out so intermittently that it may as well not exist at all.
There are no empaths on the planet who are in a relationship with a narcissist that works.
You aren’t going to change that.
You are not the exception.
If anything, the narcissist falling apart will be what makes you too, eventually fall apart.
#8 Save yourself!
If you have yourself down as being an empath of any kind, but lean quite honestly toward the idea of being a super empath, I would highly recommend saving yourself.
I know it may not come easy. It isn’t natural to just put yourself first and walk away from people whom you’re convinced need saving, but I urge you to think of it this way:
If you keep giving yourself to somebody who abuses your love, support and joy, you will find yourself rinsed and diminished of all hope for a future worth fighting for.
Saving yourself means the narcissist doesn’t fall apart, but the part I want you to understand is that neither do you.
That’s got to mean something, right?
