What a beautiful day it is, you think to yourself.

Maybe I can go out and enjoy the weather with my loved one, or with my friend. 

Off you go, in your favorite outfit, with your coffee to go.

You’re strolling the park, and PING.

You check your phone, and you are completely baffled.

What a random text! And guess who it’s from…

Ah, yes. The narcissist in your life. 

Who else would send this?!

Narcissists are big fans of random texts. But why? Why now? Why this?

I’ve got all the answers right here.

The Narcissist and the Phone

Narcissists love a phone. They see them as further ways to encroach on people’s boundaries, and love that everything is available at the touch of a button – including you. 

If you can have everything in the palm of your hand – it almost feels synonymous with how a narcissist loves to have you eating out of the palm of theirs. Believe me, phones are perfect for the narcissistic character.

In one device, you’ve got a way to reach people any time of the day. You also have a camera, and access to social media, where you can show your life off to the world and await all the compliments and attention in return.

But most of all – phones are a way for the narcissist to connect with you. 

In any way possible.

And believe me, they abuse that.

You’re Just Going About Your Day When…

So there you are, living your best life, when all of a sudden, your phone pings. 

It’s a text message.

You open it, and there is the narcissist, saying the most random things to you. 

What do you feel at that moment? Are you somebody who sees it as a nice thing, or do you feel that slight nervous energy around the message?

Well, I wouldn’t be here writing this if everybody loved getting random texts from narcissists. 

The Random Texts From a Narcissist: Why?!

Let’s look into their world for a little while, shall we?

“Hey! I’m Still Here!”

Just when you start to forget to remember the narcissist, their random text will come flying through the stratosphere, directly to your phone.

It won’t matter what you’re doing, when you’re doing it, or with whom.

The point is – you are going to hear from them, and stop everything in the process. 

Isn’t it strange how they do that?They don’t need anything from you, they just want to make your day that little bit worse and more uncomfortable by popping up to tell you something random. 

It’s to assert a little power, and to give you the indirect message that no amount of time that passes will be enough to escape their useless presence.

“I Fancy a Bit of a Reaction…”

Those random texts are never random to the narcissist. There’s always some crazy reason as to why you’re receiving it at exactly the time you are. 

Is it that you are expecting the message? 

Highly unlikely. 

The randomness is what catches you off guard, and the content is what they hope stirs a reaction inside of you. 

They’re not there to witness that reaction, but they feel happy knowing that you could be in line at the grocery store, feeling that inner boiling over of emotions. 

That’s what keeps their fuel burning.

So, what kinds of reactions could we be looking at, here?

Well, how long have you got?

There’s jealousy. They want you to know they’re on a day trip out to that city you love without them. All they will send is a selfie outside that hotspot you love the most – and that’ll do it. 

Then there’s anger. They are doing something without you and ‘assumed’ you wouldn’t want to go because you’re ‘too busy.’

Let’s not forget annoyance. They want to know what time you’re seeing them next week. You didn’t reply right away, so now you have another text – a random meme or memory they had of you. These are prompts, sent to annoy you further. 

Reactions are a common reason for random texts – but remember – you get to decide how you feel, not the narcissist. 

“Stop What You’re Doing!”

Hold the phone! (Literally…)

Wherever you are, whatever you’re doing, the narcissist has an announcement!

Yes, of course it’s random. It may be something you care very little about. For the narcissist, they want the world to stop so they can speak up and let you know what’s going on in their life.

It’s all about them. They come first, and they feel they have the right to let you know you need to halt your life to listen to theirs. 

You don’t, by the way. 

Important Day? Oh Well. Still Stop!

Popular ways for narcissists to get to you include how they randomly text you out of the blue – even if you are doing something important.

Making the mistake of telling a narcissist that you have something big planned won’t stop them from getting under your skin.

In fact – it will only encourage them more!

“Oh my God, you’ll never believe who I just saw!…”

“It’s been so long since I’ve seen you – how have you been?”

“Do you still have that jacket I loaned you?”

Not only are the random texts ramping up, they’re also all expectant of some kind of reply from you. 

So that important day just turned into you juggling your communication with them, too. 

Pure Control

Text messages from the narcissist are included in this, and they will have just as much dominance over you. You won’t want to know this – but narcissists know their texts are designed to control you. 

They can plot the most random texts all hours of the day, just when you think you’re free from them in person. 

Without control – the narcissist is a worthless currency. 

“If You Don’t Reply, I’ll Keep Text-Bombing You!”

Pay me attention! 

It’s all about me!

I messaged you, so you have to listen!

No. You don’t. You reply if or when you want to, or can. The narcissist isn’t in control of when you reply, so they can send a whole bunch of texts your way to ensure you get a steady stream of them throughout the day. 

Sounds like hard work?

Well, it is. 

But the narcissist isn’t going to stop just because you are getting bombarded.

They will stop when it suits them, and when you reply.