Repeat after me:
Narcissists are obsessed with money.
There has never been a more correct and accurate phrase, but what’s more disturbing is that a narcissist wants your $10 more than their own $100. I know why, and today, I want to share it with you.
Narcissists have messed with us once too many times, and now?
This is about non-financial payback. Knowledge is strength, and strength comes from fighting back.
#1 The money and the narcissist
If a narcissist could marry money, they would. They see a dollar bill as an opportunity to grow it, and tell the world how much more they’ve earned from it.
For them, money is loyal. It’s always there, and it’s the biggest sign of success in their eyes.
If they can flaunt it, they will, because they think having lots of it means you’re a better person.
The more money I have, the more seriously people will take me.
We all know this is absolute rubbish, but we are not the minds of a narcissist.
#2 Power, not profit
The biggest thing a lot of money can do for the narcissist is power their ego and status.
It’s never about profit, or looking after other people with what they earn.
It isn;t about sharing wealth, or giving others opportunities off the back of what they have.
It’s about nothing but power.
I have all this money, so I am untouchable.
Look at how well I am doing in life.
See what impressive things I am buying with the money I have.
It’s beyond sad, and I know of not many people who would genuinely be excited or thrilled by this kind of attitude, yet narcissists still like to brag.
They brag because they cherish money, more than they will ever cherish you.
#3 Taking from you is better than earning for themselves
When you’ve got money in your pocket and the narcissist knows it, they would rather take what you have than earn it for themselves.
If you had $5 to your name, the narcissist wants it.
For them, your $5 is better than their own lump sum of money, because that way, they get to spend yours without any changes to their own balance.
Does that not strike you as alarming? That any person would rather take the last dollars you have to your name and spend them, than take a fraction of what they own and use it instead?
The most worrying part in all of this is the victim’s response.
They want to please the narcissist! Anything in order to actually try to put a smile on their face, get into their good books, or show them how loyal they really can be.
And none of it really sticks with the narcissist. I mean, they just want to take from you.
There’s no interest in what you’re doing for them. They see money that they haven’t earned and doesn’t belong to them, and they want it.
This is purely based on greed, and always will be.
#4 Proof they can take what’s yours
Think about your $5 for a moment and what else it might mean. Sure, it starts with a little bank note, but it ends up that the narcissist takes much more from you for themselves.
Your spirit, your joy, your confidence, your self-esteem, your identity, your hobbies, your friends and family; it all falls away.
That $5 is a sign that the narcissist can take what is rightfully yours, and starting as small as that, they will build to take everything from you until there’s nothing left.
So my question to you now, and one that I want you to re-read as many times as it takes to sink in is this:
If a narcissist can take $5 from you, knowing they have far more cash than you that they aren’t willing to part with, what else can they take from you?
It’s a question that blows the minds of so many, because it’s so open-ended.
Where does it end?
I can answer that part for you.
It never ends.
Not unless you put a stop to it.
#5 The real currency? Control!
While the narcissist loves all currencies that circle around actual money, the real currency is control!
It’s the kind of currency to them that never loses value, and is always sought after.
In order to keep control of everything, a narcissist will beg, borrow and steal.
They want your $5 because it means nothing to them, despite being potentially all the money you own for now.
Will they care?
Not at all.
As long as their $100 is safe, that’s all they are worried about. For you, that means handing over the last of what’s yours, knowing you’ll never get it back.
Meanwhile they have no worries because they’ve got everything and more.
#6 Your struggle feeds their ego
When you struggle, the narcissist views it as just another feed to their ego.
They want everybody they know to be worse off than them, even you, the person they claim to love.
It’s no secret to them that you are a person who wants to just people-please. You love to know that you’re making them happy, and will drop everything.
This is a test of loyalty the narcissist won’t forget. Not because they see the good in you for your loan, but because they know who to go to the next time they want to take what is rightfully and truthfully yours.
So all the while you struggle, they love it.
#7 Wanting what you have
Ultimately, the narcissist wants what you have. Partially that has something to do with being jealous that you have it, but it’s also a lot to do with them not thinking you’ve earned the right to own it.
Even an amount as small as $5 will raise an eyebrow.
Oh yeah? Where did you get that?
Sharing is caring!
In eager willingness to please, you’ll answer, and hand it over.
But that’s where I ask you to rethink that move the next time it comes about.
#8 Every dollar counts
For you, every dollar does count. The narcissist has no right to take what’s yours and gloat that they have their $100 as well as your $5.
When you have nothing, you have nothing for yourself. You should start to value your own character a little bit more if you want to grow stronger.
#9 Looking after your finances
I also would love to add how important it is to look after your finances in general.
Don’t give the narcissist any access to your statements or accounts, and that includes both debit and credit.
If they want to earn and spend their own money, then they should do so without gripping on you for the leftovers.
They may love wanting your money, but you shouldn’t love giving it away, especially to those who will never appreciate it, or you, in the way you want them to.
A narcissist wants your money rather than their own because they want full control and entitlement over you.
Don’t let them.
