Peace and quiet. Beautiful, isn’t it?
Finally, you can sleep at night. You’ve gotten over the sheer hell of being ignored and blocked by the narcissist, and life feels great.
Then, in the middle of the night, you feel a rumble. Was it an earthquake? Are the authorities drilling out the pipes down the road again?
It’s none of those. This rumble is the almighty sensation of the narcissist unblocking you.
What could they possibly and intentionally be doing that for?
Blocking: How Did It Get To This?
Easily done, I guess. While I always teach you to block people who are unhealthy for you, narcissists block out of spite.
Treated like a punishment, they won’t hesitate in cutting you off and going totally silent on you if it means your feelings are slightly hurt in the process. In fact, the more hurt you are to them, the better!
So as for how it got to this – It got to this very easily.
#1 They Want Your Supply
Whatever you used to provide them in the past is now wanted, needed and desired all over again.
They don’t love you, but they do love your supply.
Supply can look like:
- Your tears
- Your sadness
- Your pain
- Your sadness
- Your jealousy
- Your insecurity
- Your self-worth
- Your confidence
When they start stripping your identity to the core, they feel better and are sufficiently fuelled.
Not getting that once you’re blocked will eventually affect them, and they will thirst for it all over again.
This is why you will find yourself suddenly unblocked, with a message from them coming through to you.
It’s enough to make you sick, isn’t it? Just when you thought things were going well, they come along all over again.
#2 They Know You’ll Answer
If you’ve been obedient and available in the past, the narcissist will expect this of you all over again when they unblock you.
And you know what?
All the while you play into that role, they will ask you to perform it.
That’s where your power comes in – the power to change!
#3 They’re Bored
Narcissists get bored quickly, and when they reach pinnacle boredom, they usually want to act fast to eradicate that.
Seeing as they simply can’t stand their own company, they will turn to the other – possibly you – for entertainment.
They will unblock you with ultimate speed if you’re blocked from a previous altercation with them (or the other, more likely reason – no reason at all).
Ask yourself this:
Do you want to be their entertainment?
#4 They Want A Favor
You’ve wanted to forget all the thankless ways you’ve previously been there for the narcissist, but as soon as those memories are buried, they make a return.
The narcissist unblocks you to ask for a favor. It doesn’t sit well with you, nor should it. They want you to fall in line and be the perfect little source of supply you always were.
Tell me, why should you be there for them when all they thought about was cutting you out of their life?
My advice is – block them back!
#5 They’ve ‘Changed’
Don’t ever believe the narcissist has changed, especially if they tell you.
One thing you ought to have learned by now is to trust actions, not words. If a person is showing you they care, then trust that. Don’t trust the promise of caring.
The same applies here!
#6 They ‘Miss You’
Ah, so they want you back. No? They want to see you again? No? They just want a hookup?
Which one is it?
This is the point where you say no to all of the above. The narcissist doesn’t get to pick and choose when they want you and when they don’t.
You definitely shouldn’t be making yourself available just because they ask of you.
#7 They’re ‘Sorry’
Narcissists only ever say they’re sorry when they want a certain thing from you.
Let me make this clear, though:
A narcissist is very capable of saying they’re sorry, but completely incapable of being sorry.
The sooner you come to terms with that, the better.
If you’ve been unblocked, you can bet there is a certain plan by them ahead that is going to involve you in some way, and it will never be one that works for you.
I’d be bold enough to predict:
They want you for something.
They are going to say they need your advice (making you feel worthy of offering it).
They need money.
They want your sensible review or opinion.
….They want to take advantage of you.
The question I have is:
Are you going to let that happen?
Narcissists are never sorry. Their words will act like a golden crown on your head – but that crown is actually made of thorns.
#8 They’re Being Nosey
So, what are you up to? Who are you friends with? What do you look like now?
Who are you dating? Where are you working? Where do you live? What do you do for fun?
On and on and on.
Do they get to know anything about you after the way they treated you?
I’d say a big fat NO.
#9 They’re Spying On You
If a narcissist plans on trying to make a reentry into your life, or use what they know against you, they’re going to need to play catch up.
They will start by checking to see what they have missed in your life since you last spoke. Where you go and who you’ve become friends with.
They can get to know your routine and schedule in the hope they can physically intervene by bumping into you in the street.
They want that initial conversation to be easy, and to look natural.
What they’re doing by spying on you is watching you from afar without a single awareness coming through to you.
It’s creepy, you’ll agree. To know someone wants to watch your life play out from a distance makes it feel like you’ve got some kind of stalker on your hands.
#10 They Want To Lure You
If the narcissist is unblocked, then you also have access to them.
I wonder what your reaction would be to seeing their profile appear on a search result suddenly, or seeing their icon in your text app again.
Maybe you haven’t seen it for weeks, or months, or even longer.
Now it’s back, and your thumb is hovering over their photo, wondering whether or not to press and type a hello.
I want you to know something, though.
That hello you’re tempted to send is just the beginning of another era of misery for you.
It was a purposeful way to get you to initiate a conversation with them, and they know what they’re doing here.
Getting re-involved all over again after what they put you through the first time around is going to be worse the next time.
Ask yourself if that’s really worth it, oro if you need to be the blocker.
