Dating is complicated when you don’t know where you stand with the person you like. Although men do the chasing, they’re not going to go all out unless they know that the girl feels the same way.
The girl doesn’t want to give anything away to compound the problem because she’s not sure either. So now we’ve got a situation, the question is, what’s the solution?
The solution is to pay attention because he will speak and act to let you know that he wants to be more than friends. When a guy has a crush on you, he says these words:
22 Words a Guy Always Says When He Has a Crush on You
When a guy is interested in a girl romantically, he might not say it directly, but a lot of the stuff he does say will have a hidden meaning behind it. Here are 22 things guys say when they have a crush on a woman:
1. That Looks Good on You
Men are notorious for not paying attention to the finer details. However, if he notices what you’re wearing, it means that he’s consciously thinking about how to impress you and make you feel good.
2. Do You Like Going to That Restaurant Often?
Let’s say you’re having a casual chat about the dinner you went to with your girlfriends. He will pick up on the excitement in your voice and want to know whether the restaurant is somewhere you enjoy going to.
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What he’s really doing is storing up a list of places he knows you like so that you won’t be disappointed when he does finally take you out on a date.
3. What Are Your Hobbies?
Okay, so he finds you attractive, and your personality is appealing to him, so now he wants to dig a little deeper and learn more about you.
A person’s hobbies say a lot about them and what they’re passionate about. So he wants to know how he can relate to you in other areas of your life.
4. What’s Your Family Time Like?
With a question like this, he’s started thinking about what the future will be like with you. Everyone knows when you get into a relationship with someone; you are also getting into a relationship with their family.
So getting the heads up in advance will help a guy determine whether it’s worth taking things any further.
5. There’s Something Different About You
A man of stature wants the cream of the crop; they want to be with a woman they can admire and cherish.
When they know they’ve found someone special, he might not be able to put his finger on it immediately, but he’s feeling something he’s never felt before. The only way he can articulate it is by saying, “there’s something different about you.”
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6. We Should do This More Often
“We should do this more often” means he enjoys your company, you match his energy, and you make him feel good when you’re together. A statement like this is his way of saying, “I want to spend more time with you.”
7. You Really Make me Laugh
Laughter is medicine to the soul, we all enjoy a roar belly laugh because it makes us feel good. A man appreciates a woman who doesn’t take herself too seriously and can make him laugh in the process.
8. I Haven’t Spoke About This Before
When a man is crushing on you and feels he can trust you, he’ll start opening up to you. By letting you know that what he’s about to tell you is highly confidential, what he’s saying is, “I trust you enough to give you a piece of my heart.”
9. If You Need me, I’m Here For You
He wants to show you that he’s someone you can rely on, that you can count on him and depend on him if you’re going through a rough patch.
You may not be going through anything when he says it, but he’s giving you something you can draw on if you need to.
10. You Get on my Last Nerve
I know this doesn’t sound like much of a compliment, but he’s not being serious, he’s teasing you. He’ll probably say it with a big smile on his face.
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Guys don’t grow out of the teasing girl’s stage, they still indulge in playground name-calling right until their adult years. So don’t take it the wrong way, him teasing you is actually a compliment.
11. I Love Your Smile
Not only does he think your smile lights up an entire room, but he’s also spent a lot of time looking at your lips fantasizing about kissing them. So there’s much more behind the compliment, “I love your smile.”
12. Do You Have a Boyfriend?
This is a straightforward and loaded question. He’s asking right off the bat if you are taken because the guy likes you.
13. Tell me More About Yourself
When a guy wants to know more about you, instead of asking you a bunch of intrusive questions, he’ll put the ball in your court and ask you to tell him about yourself.
14. You’re Really Pretty
We all know that guys are visual creatures and they like looking at beautiful women. They may see 20 beautiful women as they go about their day, they’ll look, but that’s as far as it will go.
Then, however, they’ll tell the woman they’re crushing on that they’re beautiful because he wants her to know that he’s noticed her.
15. If You Were my Girlfriend
Let’s say you were given flowers from work for your outstanding performance. He’ll congratulate you and then in a teasing tone say something like, “you deserve it, and if we were dating, I’d buy you flowers all the time.” This is a strategy lovesick guys use when they want to let you know they’re considering getting into a relationship with you.
16. Wear my Sweater
When you left the house to meet up with your guy friend, the weather was mild enough to wear a t-shirt, but a few hours later it started getting chilly.
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Guys take great pride in protecting their women, so the moment you start shivering, or you say you’re cold, he’ll offer you his sweater even if he’s wearing a t-shirt underneath.
17. You Understand me
Whether through social stereotypes or cultural conditioning, guys are often misunderstood, especially by women. When they meet a girl they click with and can be themselves around without judgment, they appreciate it.
He’ll want to spend a lot more time with the woman who understands him.
18. Let me Sit Next to You
Men are territorial, and when they decide they want a woman, they want every other guy to know, so they back off. So maybe you’re on a group night out to a restaurant or a theatre to mark his territory; he’ll let you know that he wants to sit next to you.
19. What’s Your Favorite Meal?
Everyone loves a good meal, so whether you’re going out to a restaurant, or he’s planning on cooking for you, he’ll want to know what you like to eat so he can provide it for you.
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20. Can I Get Anything For You?
If he’s on his way over to yours, he will offer to stop by at the store and buy you something. It’s a kind gesture that says, I don’t just want to see you, I want to make sure you’re comfortable.
21. He Has a Nickname For You
Sex expert and author Ian Kerner states that romantic partners call each other pet names as a term of endearment. Nicknames are the way humans express their love interest for each other.
You will notice that many parents have nicknames for their children, and siblings have nicknames for each other.
He says that some couples know when there’s a problem in the relationship when their partner calls them by their first name. So if your crush has given you a nickname, it’s because he has a soft spot for you.
22. I Appreciate You
Gratitude is a powerful emotion that involves acknowledging the good things in your life. It is a thankful appreciation for something an individual receives.
Research suggests that gratitude is linked to more profound happiness; people who express gratitude tend to be more satisfied with life. So if your crush says that he appreciates you, don’t take it lightly, he’s telling you that you enrich his life, and he’s happy that you’re a part of it.
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He will have a long list of things that he appreciates you for, such as you listening to him, you encouraging him to believe in himself, you making him laugh, or he loves the cheese toasties you make when he comes over.
If he’s grateful for you and appreciates you, he’s thinking about being in a relationship with you.
How do Guys Act Around Their Crush?
Dating would be a lot easier if we didn’t have to play guessing games and everyone just laid their cards out on the table and made it clear what they wanted.
But life doesn’t work like that, and men, in particular, like to play it cool when they find a female attractive because they don’t want to run ahead of themselves and end up disappointed.
Nevertheless, there are some tell-tale signs that will let you know a guy is crushing hard on you.
#1 He Pays Attention When You Speak
He’s going to hang on to your every word not just because he likes the sound of your voice, but because he finds you fascinating.
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He will let you know that he’s paying attention by repeating what you say. He may even call you later to discuss what you were talking about in more detail.
#2 He Leans Towards You
When a man is interested in a woman, he’ll face her directly during the conversation. In a group of people, he’ll attempt to close you off by turning his torso towards you so that no one else has access to you.
Whether you’re alone or in a group, this is his way of saying he’s got the hots for you. You’ll pick up on a lot if you pay attention to male body language.
Even in a situation where a guy is speaking to a group of girls. It’s the girl his torso is facing that he’s got his eye on even if he’s not having a direct talk with her.
#3 He Preens Himself
When a man is in the company of a woman he caught feelings with, he’ll preen himself to ensure he’s looking as good as possible. He’ll do things like rearranging his clothes by fixing his tie, undoing the top button of his shirt, fluffing his suit, or pulling up his socks.
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He might run his fingers through his hair a few times to ensure it’s in place. Or you’ll notice him checking himself out in the mirror.
#4 He’ll Fiddle With His Drink
Fiddling with his drink is one of the subtle signs that he wants to touch you. You may notice him running circles around the top of the glass, if it’s a wine glass, he’ll run his fingers along the stem.
#5 He Wants Your Approval
A man can get validation from women all day about his looks, his dress sense, etc. But it means nothing to him unless the approval comes from the lady he wants to date.
Your approval is a good sign that you’re pleased with him, men don’t like fishing for compliments, he’s not going to ask you directly whether you think he looks good, but he’ll say something like, “I need to get in the shower, I just got a new haircut today”, to see how you respond.
#6 He Mirrors You
Mirroring is when someone imitates your body language, tone of voice, or speech patterns. When we like people, we mirror their behavior on a subconscious level.
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For example, if you’re sitting opposite each other at a table and you both have a cup of coffee, every time you take a sip of your drink, he’ll take a sip of his. If you rub your face, he’ll stroke his; if you raise the tone of your voice, he’ll raise his.
If you’re sitting with your legs crossed, he’ll cross his, and if you’re standing with your arms crossed, he’ll cross his. I think you get my point
#7 He is Always Helping You
Men don’t express their feelings through words, they express them through their actions. A strong sign that a guy has a crush on you is if he’s constantly helping you out with stuff.
You won’t even need to ask, if you mention in passing that your light bulb needs changing, he’ll say he’s coming over to do it. If he notices that your car is dirty, he’ll offer to wash it.
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If you bump into each other while you’re out shopping, he’ll offer to carry your bags. Basically, the more he does for you, the more he likes you.
#8 He Will Sound Excited
Men who are psychologically aroused and excited will change the tone of their voice more throughout the talk. He’ll sound more expressive than he usually does.
You might not notice it at first because he seems to speak like this all the time, but pay attention when he’s having conversations with other people, if his tone drops, it’s because they don’t have the same effect on him.
If you notice that he deepens his voice suddenly when he’s talking to you, it’s probably because he caught himself sounding overly excited, and now he’s trying to play it cool.
#9 He Licks His Lips
A study conducted by the University of Chicago found that heterosexual men experience significant changes in their saliva when they’re speaking to attractive women.
These changes are referred to as ‘the courtship response.’ The presence of a beautiful woman boosts testosterone production, which makes the mouth water. His natural response is to start licking his lips.
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#10 He Calls You Drunk
Excess alcohol gives you boldness and confidence that you wouldn’t have on a typical day. For example, when a guy is crushing on a girl, there are a lot of things he’ll want to say to her but doesn’t dare to do so.
But when he’s drunk, he suddenly turns into superman and starts pouring his heart out to you. The wonderful thing about alcohol is that not only can you blame your behavior on it, you can also act as if you don’t remember saying any of the stuff the person you spoke to is reminding you of.
So, if he’s not sure about how you feel about him, he’ll drunk call you and confess his undying love for you in hopes that you’ll respond the way he wants you to. If you don’t he’ll play dumb when you ask him about it.
#11 He Doesn’t Mention Other Women
If a serious guy wants to improve his chances of getting with you, he will want to make you feel as secure as possible. He’ll do this by leaving women out of the conversation.
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If he was a player, he’d have no shame in ogling attractive females in front of you or talking about the women he’s slept with because that’s his way of letting you know not to expect anything more than a one-night stand or two.
But a man who is only interested in dating one woman will let the woman he’s interested in know he’s only interested in dating one woman by keeping other girls out of the conversation.
If you’re watching a film and there’s a hot female on the screen, and you say, “she’s really pretty.” He might respond, “not as pretty as you.” In general, what he’s really trying to say is that he only has eyes for you.
#12 He Complains That He Can’t Find the Right One
He says that he’s not dating because he can’t find the right woman. He won’t get disrespectful and insult the females he’s had interactions with, but he’ll express his dissatisfaction.
He might take it as far as saying something like, “I doubt I’ll ever get married at this rate.” Which is just him hinting to you that he’s looking for a wife and not just a playmate.
He will then go on to describe you as his ideal woman, even though he won’t say so directly.
He’ll describe your personality, your looks, and your ambition, he’s complimenting you in the hopes that you’ll pick up on what he’s trying to say.
#13 He Remembers Random Things About You
He remembers random things about you because he thinks about you all the time. You literally consume his thoughts, he could be at the gym and the fact that you hate leg day will pop into his mind.
After his workout, he’ll text you a little joke saying something like, “I had a great leg workout today, sorry you can’t say the same (laughing emoji).
How Do You Tell if a Guy is Trying to Hide That He Likes You?
There are many reasons why a man will try to hide that he likes you. He may be worried about rejection, he could be insecure and just assume that you don’t like him, or he wants to be certain that you’re into him before he makes a move.
If you suspect that your guy friend has positive feelings for you, pay a bit more attention to him, and if you notice some of these subtle signs, he’s definitely trying to hide that he likes you.
#1 You Catch Him Staring at You
Research suggests that when a man stares, it’s because he has an underlying sexual motivation. Their pupils dilate when men are exposed to sexual images that they find arousing. Sometimes it’s the tiny details that can tell us a lot.
And when they find a woman attractive, they spend time looking at her. Additionally, their eyes are drawn to the breast and hip area because it gives a man an indication of the woman’s ability to bear children.
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So ladies, if you want to know whether a guy has a crush on you, take a look at their pupils. If they’re dilated, you’ve got your answer.
#2 He Talks Too Much
According to retired FBI agent Robin Dreeke, a clear sign that someone isn’t being truthful is that they talk too much, and what they’re saying has very little substance.
This is because the person is trying to hide what they really want to say. What he most likely wants to say is that he thinks you’re smoking hot, but because he doesn’t want to get rejected, he keeps it to himself and waffles on about random stuff that probably doesn’t mean much to you.
#3 He Sends Mixed Messages
Many guys send mixed messages when they’re not sure about a woman or when they really like her.
Assuming that he has a crush on you, these mixed messages are because he’s slightly emotionally immature, he can’t entirely control his feelings around you, so every so often, he’ll let it slip that he wants to be more than friends. But when he catches himself, he pulls back and overdoes the friend zone act.
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The reason why he’s doing this is that he’s not sure if you like him as much as he likes you, and he wants to be sure before he goes ahead and makes a fool of himself.
#4 He Gets Jealous
As I’ve just mentioned, some guys are emotionally immature and find it difficult to hide their feelings. For example, you may catch him getting jealous if you’re hanging out and you get a call from one of your male friends.
After you get off the phone, he might start asking you questions about your friend and acting weird. He’s jealous because he wants a deeper connection with you, and he feels threatened by the other men you have in your life.
#5 He Tries to be More Masculine
Men assume that all women want hyper-masculine men; have you ever noticed how a group of men start behaving when there’s an attractive woman around.
They go overboard with their masculinity because they think it will impress her. Your guy might deepen the tone of his voice, take up more space by spreading out his legs and arms if he’s sitting down, or talk about his accomplishments. Even though he’s trying to keep his feelings for you a secret, a lot of his behavior is subconscious, and he can’t help it.
#6 He Puts His Phone Away
Whether we want to admit it or not, most of us are addicted to our phones. Whether we’re in a meeting or having a conversation with someone, we’re checking it as soon as it pings.
Checking your phone every two seconds might not be a destructive addiction, but it isn’t nice. It says that what’s going on behind this screen is more important than you.
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To avoid doing this, you’ve got to make a conscious decision not to do so. If you notice that his phone is out of sight when he’s with you, trust me, it’s not because he’s got something to hide. It’s his way of letting you know that you’re important to him, and he wants to give you his undivided attention.
#7 He Gives You Longer Hugs
Hugging can be as innocent as a greeting, or it can signify love, acceptance, and support. Everyone loves a hug because it feels good, but his hugs mean more than the average hug when a guy likes a girl.
If he gives you a strong hug and pulls you close and squeezes you tight, you might feel as if you’re suffocating. But to him, he’s savoring every moment of having you in his arms.
He’ll probably close his eyes as his mind wanders about what it would be like to embrace you like this forever. He uses his body language to tell you that he wants to be your protector and comforter.
#8 He Fidgets
Men who are not very confident will fidget when they’re in the company of a woman they’re attracted to. He will literally have a meltdown right in front of you as he does everything he can not to make it evident that he’s into you.
He might take his hands in and out of his pockets, bite his nails, twiddle his fingers, keep moving around when he doesn’t need to, or pick imaginary objects off his clothes.
#9 Touching Him Makes Him Flinch
You might innocently brush past him, or touch his arm during conversation, and he’ll be so happy about it, that he’ll flinch.
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He’s flinching because he wasn’t expecting you ever to touch him, and he’s very excited about it. His facial expression might change, and he’ll probably go bright red.
#10 He Smiles a Lot
Smiling can mean many things, but it’s also one of the many things a man does when he’s attracted to a woman. Whether it’s a large smile or a shy smile, he’s smiling because you make him feel good.
So if you catch him looking at you and he smiles and then diverts his gaze, that’s even more of a sign that he’s interested.
If your guy friend has a crush on you, when you read this article, you probably had several “a-ha” moments as you remembered times when he has said and acted in a certain way.
Now that you’re probably more than confident that he has a crush on you, it’s time to give him some signs that you feel the same way.
For example, you can flirt with him subtly by twirling your hair and tilting your head to the side when you speak to him. Or you can touch him lightly on the arm when you walk past.
He will be more than thrilled that you’re giving him positive feedback, and it won’t be long before he asks you out on an official date.
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Last Updated on May 30, 2022 by Alexander Burgemeester