What Does It Mean When A Guy Calls You Sexy?

You probably know a guy is flirting with you if he compliments your appearance. But a guy can call a girl anything- cute, sexy, or beautiful, to name a few.

So, if he calls you sexy, it must mean he really finds you drop-dead gorgeous, right? You aren’t just hot. You’re downright irresistible to him.

Or, does it mean he’s objectifying you? Is he just treating you the same way he treats most beautiful women?

Sexy can mean a lot of different things. It depends on what the guy thinks, the type of conversation you’re having, and the context of your relationship.

But mostly, sexy means that he definitely finds you attractive and he’s interested in being with you.

One thing is for sure- being called sexy is completely different from being called cute! Let’s get to it.

Is Sexy a Compliment?

In most cases, yes! When a guy calls you sexy, he’s directly commenting on your sex appeal and acknowledging an undeniable physical attraction to you. If that isn’t a sign that you radiate beauty, what is?

Is Sexy a Compliment

If you’re in a relationship with this man, he’s conveying that he finds you hot and gorgeous.

Sometimes being called sexy can feel objectifying or demeaning. This, of course, depends on the context.

For example, if a random guy is cat-calling you and commenting on your body directly, it’s probably clear he’s only focused on one thing.

What Does It Mean When a Guy Calls You Sexy?

In a short answer? He finds you desirable, and he’s sexually attracted to you. Simply using the term sexy means that sex is on his mind.

What Does It Mean When a Guy Calls You Sexy

Most people won’t use this term if they aren’t thinking about sex.

In a longer answer? He has the confidence to tell you how he’s feeling. He has a sense that you’ll be receptive to this compliment. Here are some other reasons for using the word sexy:

#1 He’s in the Mood

If he calls you sexy while you two are spending time together, it often means he’s feeling turned on.

Picture this obvious scene. Maybe you two are kissing, and things are heating up. Everything in his life feels just right, and he’s loving it all.

He's in the Mood

At the moment, he can’t help himself. You’re irresistible to him. He wants more- he’s just so attracted to you, and you’re the most important thing in the world right now.

But now picture that you two are just lying on the couch watching a show together. There’s nothing inherently “sexual” about the situation. You’re just hanging out like boy and girl.

And yet, he feels so connected and attracted to you. Even though nothing is particularly happening, he may find you incredibly sexy.

#2 He Loves What You’re Wearing or How You Look

It’s no secret that most men are visual creatures. Sexual imagery- or even just the sight of a beautiful woman- can drive them wild.

This same rule applies to their own partners. Novelty can cause you to drip sex appeal in a way that’s different from your everyday appearance.

He Loves What You're Wearing or How You Look

So, if you put on a new dress or style your hair differently- it doesn’t have to be anything significant- he might notice and acknowledge his approval by calling you sexy. This compliment affirms that he loves the change.

If he uses the word cute? He may still like the change, but it might not turn him on as much as you hoped.

#3 He Admires Your Confidence

Sex appeal isn’t always about how you look. Some men find ambition or humor or boldness extremely hot. Just hearing a woman talk passionately about something can turn him on.

He Admires Your Confidence

This explains why many men often love a woman smarter or braver than them. They love the confident body language and self-assuredness.

They especially admire her when she doesn’t have the self-esteem issues plaguing most women.

So even though the term sexy may sound related to physical appearance, it could mean that he’s turned on by one of your personality traits instead. The moment you walk into the room, he notices your presence!

#4 He Thinks You’re Amazing in Bed

If he calls you cute, he might be commenting on an adorable child-like trait. If he uses the word gorgeous, he’s probably referring to your body or a specific part of your appearance.

He Thinks You're Amazing in Bed

Both these compliments can be flattering, and they can reveal a lot about him finding you attractive.

But when a guy calls you sexy, he’s more than likely talking about sex.

So, if he calls you sexy just after having sex, it probably means that he’s blown away by your performance. He may even recover from all that pleasure when he uses that word.

#5 He’s Acknowledging His Gratitude for You

It may seem strange, but if he calls you sexy, he might be saying that he’s so appreciative to have all this rare beauty in his life.

He’s Acknowledging His Gratitude for You

This may be the case if a guy shakes his head when he sees you and says, ” You are just so sexy. How did I get so lucky?

It’s almost as if he’s in disbelief that he could have someone like you. Your body truly amazes him!

#6 He Wants More

Let’s say you just met a new guy, and you two are talking back and forth. He drops the word sexy, and you might be asking yourself what it means in terms of attraction.

He Wants More

Sometimes, it means that he wants more. For instance, he’s hoping that you might send him a picture or come over. He’s hoping the situation will escalate.

In that regard, the word ‘sexy’ becomes an invitation. He’s feeling you out and seeing if things will go to the next level.

#7 He Wants to Make You Feel Uncomfortable

Unfortunately, this isn’t the best outcome, but it can happen. Some guys will call a woman cute, sexy, or beautiful to assert their power or control over a person.

He Wants to Make You Feel Uncomfortable

If a creepy guy suddenly seems interested, be careful of his motives. He may be preying on girls to take advantage of them.

Pay attention to how you feel. Words matter, but your gut can reveal a lot about whether or not a person is safe or not.

What Is the Difference Between Sexy and Baby?

Sexy usually means that he’s directly focused on your sex appeal and physical appearance. There isn’t much ambiguity surrounding the compliment.

Baby, on the other hand, could mean many different things. Hey baby, for example, may just mean that he’s greeting you in his own way.

What Is the Difference Between Sexy and Baby

Some relationship experts speculate that people call each other baby because we subconsciously mimic attachment to the first people who cared for us.

Baby is often used as a term of endearment while dating or in more committed relationships. Most men use this term to fondly refer to their girlfriends or wives. But it doesn’t necessarily mean sex is on his mind.

After all, the compliment, Thanks for doing the dishes, baby has a much different feel than Thanks for doing the dishes, sexy, doesn’t it?

What Do You Say Back When a Guy Calls You Sexy?

It depends! There isn’t a right or wrong response when a guy calls you sexy, and different situations call for different things. More than anything, there’s no “perfect” way to act.

What Do You Say Back When a Guy Calls You Sexy

Consider It a Compliment

No matter how it’s packaged, him calling you sexy is probably a positive thing. He wouldn’t use that word randomly! It’s okay to feel desired and excited.

Thank Him

Even if it sounds obvious, many women take compliments for granted. This is especially true once they’re in a committed relationship. But it’s never bad to show appreciation when your man acts kindly or flatters you.

Call Him Sexy Back

Guys love to be complimented just as much as women, but they rarely receive such praise. Don’t overlook an opportunity to boost his ego.

Call Him Sexy Back

Of course, you should only call him sexy if you really mean it. Nobody wants a disingenuous compliment.

Keep Doing What You’re Doing

Whatever you’re wearing or doing is obviously working! He’s speaking with you straight, and it’s clear that he likes what he sees.

Ignore It

Don’t disregard your feelings if you get a creepy vibe from him. We all know there are sketchy and dangerous men out there. You don’t owe any guy anything, particularly if you feel uncomfortable.

Ignore It

Report It

Sometimes getting called beautiful or sexy isn’t appropriate at all. This is especially true in certain settings, like the workplace. If you genuinely feel harassed (and he’s a coworker or boss), consider escalating the issue.

Final Thoughts

It isn’t all that brave to use the word cute or call a woman beautiful. Both these words are easy and relatively safe when it comes to acknowledging your attraction.

But a cute person is different from a sexy woman. When a guy calls a woman sexy, he’s inherently taking things up a notch. The next move is up to you!

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Alexander Burgemeester

Alexander Burgemeester has a Master in Neuropsychology. He studied at the University of Amsterdam and has a bachelor's in Clinical Psychology. Want to know more?

2 thoughts on “What Does It Mean When A Guy Calls You Sexy?”

  1. A guy called me very beautiful, very sexy and very nice (simpática). He also wanted to know what I think of him. I don’t know what he says is positive or he’s trying to get me in his bed. I already told him I’m not into that or for that and he still wants to meet me and teach me fishing.

  2. If you’ve never met him before, only meet him in a public place ie: a restaurant, coffee shop. Don’t meet him and go off some place alone. Let someone know where your meeting him and maybe tell that some one to give you a call during the date-that would give you a way to get away, if he is creepy!


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