Last Updated on November 12, 2022 by Alexander Burgemeester
What does it mean when a guy calls you hot? When a guy uses the word “cute” or “hot” to describe you, it could be because he enjoys labeling girls. Guys are picky about how they label women.
Cute, sexy, hag, hot, and thoroughbred are all categories in which guys place girls.
So are fat, shorty, beanpole, high-maintenance, or bitchy. They use all these labels with different connotations. So it’s hard to determine when it’s a compliment and when he means more.
What Does “Hot” Mean to a Guy?
Few guys can express their real emotions. So when he says you’re hot, you may think he’s calling you something that means sexy.
Or you may conclude that he’s only thinking about one thing, but that might not be true. It can be hard trying to understand what the term can signify.
You may also wonder what the person calling you “hot” is trying to say to you. The titles have different meanings, so it’s easy to get confused.
Is Hot a Compliment?
Yes. A guy calls a girl “hot” in a positive way to convey that a person has sex appeal. It doesn’t always mean that he finds you beautiful.
If a guy thinks you’re a hot girl, he likely focuses on your physical attributes, not your facial features. In this case, he’s using the term as a substitute for the word “sexy.”
Guys also use “hot” to describe things that enhance your physical attraction. For example, they’ll use it for revealing clothing or certain types of shoes.
Compliment or … Is He Only Looking for a One Night Stand?
Although guys use “hot” as a compliment, women don’t always feel flattered by the term. The sexual innuendo behind it can make a woman feel objectified.
Hot girls are the ones he wants for a one-night stand. He’d like to be more than just friends, but he may not be seeking a girlfriend.
In long-term relationships, hot girls go stale fast. Some people think it’s degrading to be called hot.
Is the Word Cute a Synonym for Hot?
A guy who likes you will describe you as a pretty girl or a cute person. In the same way, if he wants to sleep with you, he will call you hot or sexy.
The cute girl is the one with whom he engages in light-hearted conversation. The hot one is the object of his desire.
Thus, we can conclude that “cute” and “hot” are not synonyms. So if you’re looking for someone to build a life with, the guy whose best adjective for you is “hot” may not be the best choice.
Just a Compliment? Use These Words Instead
Most women prefer to be called “beautiful” than “hot” or “sexy.” So when your guy calls you hot, feel free to give him a crash course. If he wants you to continue having a positive opinion of him, he’ll be happy to comply.
We’re not saying there’s something wrong with being called hot. It’s just that “hot” implies flirtatious behavior and dressing and acting sexy. Not all women fit that profile (or want to, for that matter).
What Does it Mean When Someone Calls You Hot?
According to Collins Dictionary, “if you describe someone as hot, you mean that they are sexually attractive or sexually desirable.”
Fun fact: the word “hot” has British origins. Many people now see it as a modern, American way of expressing lustfulness.
Its first written use in this context was in Chaucer’s Canterbury Tales. Chaucer described one male character as: “hot he was and lecherous as a sparrow.”
Another early example was in 1926 in the magazine The New Republic. The publication described the goddess Aphrodite as a hot mama in one article. And for a good reason. The ancient Greeks used the goddess in their mythology to represent love and lust. Aphrodite’s Roman counterpart was Venus.
Fast forward to the present, where you may still wonder what it means when a guy calls you hot. Here are some possible meanings:
#1 He Finds You Sexy
When a guy finds you sexy, he sometimes yells things like, “You’re so hot!” It’s a sign that he’d like to go on a few dates to get laid. It can also mean that he doesn’t know you very well, so he can’t compliment you on anything else.
You might assume he calls you hot because he wants to compliment you. He’s noticed your attractive facial features and sexy body. Sexy means you’re on fleek, so you take it as a verbal confirmation.
But that’s not always the case. When a guy calls you “sexy” or “hot,” it means more than only looking good. A woman can be hot not only because of how she looks but also because of how she is. You make his pupils dilate just by the way you present yourself.
#2 He Wants to Make You Smile
Calling you hot is a fun way to get a smile out of you. These guys may even include acquaintances and coworkers. They may think you have self-esteem issues or you need cheering up. Or, it might be a case where they genuinely see you as cute. Take context clues from the guy, yourself, and the situation.
#3 He’s Trying to Get You to Relax
If it’s your first date with a guy who calls you hot, he may be trying to relax you. He may have also sensed your uncertainty and reservations. So, before you bolt, he locks you in by making you smile with his compliment.
#4 He Likes Everything About You
Although the general meaning of “hot” is a sexy body, it can signify other things. You could make your guy feel warm and fuzzy inside, and he would love that. He likes your personality, figure, and smile.
If he knows some of your worst attributes and still insists you’re hot, he’s most likely sincere. He’s interested in more than a little flirting. It’s expected that he’s looking for a serious relationship.
#5 He Wants to Sleep With You
When a guy calls you hot, there is a chance that sleeping with you is the only thing on his mind. He may think you’re hot because you wear sexy, revealing clothing that shows off a tight, toned body.
He’ll give you a ton of indicators if he wants to sleep with you. For example, his eye contact will turn into a smoldering gaze, and he’ll go out of his way to be attentive.
#6 He’s Interested in Being More than Friends
One of the top reasons a guy calls a woman hot is that he wants to be more than just her friend. Is he always paying you compliments like “hot,” “sexy,” and “gorgeous?” Then he’s likely very interested in being more than friends.
This guy likely wants to do more than a little flirting. In fact, he may be looking for something serious. So he inserts himself into your life and becomes your bestie and support system.
#7 Take Note – The Definition is Shifting
We’ve seen that most people call a woman hot if she’s beautiful. But people are expanding the definition to include women who do fantastic things. “Real hot girls major in STEM,” read one graduate’s mortarboard at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas.
According to podcaster Ariana Nathani, “there’s no one thing that defines what hot is. It’s confidence. It’s the way you dress, the way that you present yourself to other people.”
What is the Difference Between Hot and Cute?
When a man calls a woman beautiful, it shows that he appreciates her character and personality.
But when he says she’s cute or hot, it means something different. So, do the words “cute” and “hot” mean the same thing?
Actually, no. In fact, the difference is quite pronounced.
What Does it Mean When a Guy Calls You Cute?
You may have noticed that “cute” implies the wholesome girl next door. A cute person is attractive but conventional and innocent.
To qualify for the compliment, you must have an average to above-average figure. If you’re out of shape, it’s most likely because you’re carrying some extra weight in your bust area or your hips. “Cute” can forgive your flaws when your guy uses the term.
What About the word Hot?
So what does “hot” mean, and what does it mean when a guy describes you as “sexy” or “hot”? Both words are straightforward and similar in meaning. They imply that you take the time to sculpt your body to perfection.
It also says that you lavish care on your hair and skin. Hot people are attractive in a way that screams sexy but high maintenance.
Which is the Better Compliment?
It depends on the situation and your life stage. Younger women may prefer to be called hot. At that stage, they’re only now starting to assert a sexual identity. But, if you’re an older woman, it can seem rude when a guy calls you hot.
Being called hot is a physical rather than a profound compliment. A guy can use much deeper words than “hot” to express his feelings for you.
As such, you must examine your relationship with the person who calls you hot.
If it’s your boyfriend, he might be being playful. Or he may be trying to compliment you during a moment of lustful intensity. It might hint that he wants to take things to the bedroom for a bit.
How to Respond When Someone Says You’re Hot?
You can say a simple “thank you” when a guy compliments you by calling you hot. But can you also have a little fun with it? For example, if you’re talking to a friend, you can joke around and say, “hotter than your pizza?”
We’ve already seen how “hot” can also be insulting and demeaning. It can reveal an interest in and desire for only one thing: your sexual potential.
Some guys may call you hot inappropriately and hurt your feelings. You can either ignore it or tell them their comment makes you uncomfortable.
Here are some ways in which you can respond:
If you like him
You can show him you like him through your body language (flip your hair, give him a cute smile, ignore your cell phone). You can also respond to his compliments in a witty manner, such as:
“Does that mean you want to take me on a date?”
“I’m sorry … I didn’t quite hear you. Can we start this conversation again?”
“Thanks. And you’re the living definition of the word sexy.”
“Can’t resist my charming personality, huh?”
If you’re not interested
Your responses do not need to be rude, even if he’s not your type. But, if he’s an a-hole, it’s justification for telling him almost anything.
Remember that not everyone who compliments you is looking for a relationship. So say something like:
“Are you hitting on me?”
“Careful, my friend. You might get burned.”
“To tell you the truth, I was an ugly bulldog in my past life.”
How to decide which tone to use
Q. What does it mean when a guy you don’t know very well tells you you’re hot?
A. Sometimes, it can be hard to know what it can mean when a guy who’s almost a stranger calls you sexy or hot. It can mean any of the things we described earlier.
How well do you know the person who complimented you? If you don’t know them very well, it will be difficult to tell how they will respond to a joke or sarcasm.
To be safe, you can pay him a few neutral compliments such as, “Thanks. You’re not so bad yourself.”
Trying to decipher the internal workings of the male brain is not an easy thing to do.
Still, we hope you’re now in a better position to tell what a guy means when he calls you “hot,” “sexy,” or “beautiful.”
Even better, you’ll now have the perfect response for him, whether he means it as a compliment or not.