Q: I have no contact now for 11 weeks. Before I had contact on and off. But that did hurt to much. I was wondering, what does the narcissist feel about this ‘no contact’ ? I think he is so angry about this, that there will be no contact anymore. Maybe I shouldn’t have this question, but it is a kind of revenge when he will feel this way. Thank you
A: No Contact is for the sanity and safety of the narcissist’s victim. It gives the victim time to heal and regain a sense of reality which they lost while under the influence of the narcissist. Different narcissists react differently. Some respond with considerable anger and will use any means they can to seek revenge on the person if they cannot persuade him or her to renew contact with them. Others will try to “win” this battle for a short time but quickly move on to an easier person to get Supply from. Still others will walk away and you will never hear from them again. They simply move on to other prey. With regard to your question about narcissists’ feelings…if you are asking will they feel hurt and betrayed the way you did, no they will not. They will feel frustration, anger at not winning, and anger at not getting Supply. Remember that ANY attention- good or bad- is Supply to them and they will keep coming back even if you give them negative attention. No Contact prevents them from obtaining any Supply.