I like to think of narcissists as ticking time bombs. It’s only a matter of time before the truth is unveiled, and their real, toxic personality draws up into the world.
In the end, what you see may fully surprise you, but I hope it gives you some comfort that eventually, these people learn their fate in the most painful way. Is it the least they deserve? I’d say so.
Prepare to be shocked!
At first…
They’re everything you’ve ever dreamed of. You’ve wished for somebody to come along and answer all your prayers, and the universe gave you what you wanted. But all wasn’t what it seemed.
You see, narcissists always come from somewhere, and that somewhere was probably exactly the same situation they’re leading you, just with somebody else.
If you have a narcissistic parent, it will be the same pattern of treatment you get, that others before you were born got.
The abuse doesn’t start with you, and it won’t end with you, either.
And so yes, at first, you put your trust into them. Parent, friend, coworker or partner; you assume you’re in their life because they wanted you to be there.
But the more time goes by, the more you realize they are not the person they were supposed to be.
That can hurt, and boy does it for so many people.
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Attitudes that stink…and hurt
You can’t do anything right. One day, you’re their best friend, and the next they can barely look at you.
Some days they spend yelling, others they mock you, and some they treat you like you were the biggest mistake of their life.
I’d be lying if I said this kind of treatment over any period of time doesn’t hurt, and that’s why so many of you suffer as a result.
The damaging way you are treated by a narcissist after that ideal yet fake beginning will leave you feeling different.
You want to be the person you used to be, but there’s no way of accessing what has been fundamentally chipped away.
A narcissist’s attitude can be awful, and I truly mean that. Victims naturally take it personally because they’re the ones targeted, but in the blink of an eye, a target can change to suit.
There comes a point in a victim’s life where they just want a little Karma to swing by the narcissist.
They want them to know how it feels to be put through so much misery, but in truth, it’s already how the narcissist secretly feels about themselves.
It’s the only reason why a narcissist would possibly put so much hate out into the world – it has to derive from a place of equal loathing, and this time, it’s self-loathing.
Narcissists: a lifetime of misery
That’s right. Narcissists live a life of misery blanketed by fake happiness, material goods, ego and entitlement.
They love to show people a version of themselves that seeks to only impress and win people over, but none of it is authentic.
The reality of that hits hard when they’re given more than five minutes alone, which is why you will always find a narcissist busy and never bored.
Imagine for a second how dark it must be for anybody to look in the mirror and not like what they see to such a deep extent.
Don’t feel pity for them for too long, because they have the power to change, but they’re too proud.
It goes beyond that, though. They have a personality disorder, so everything is distorted in their mind.
You want Karma, you will get it
I know Karma isn’t the kind of thing we all want to wish on anybody, but for abusers, even their time will come.
From being center stage, to being demoted to the corner of the room.
From being all over social media on vacations, to dwindling likes and friend requests.
From being able to keep their abuse under the radar, to being outed by more and more people.
The dots soon connect, and dynamics shift in ways that really unnerve the narcissist, who is just wanting everything to stay as normal as possible.
Watching the downfall
Listen, the downfall can occur either through age, or through people just waking up and seeing them for who they really are.
The narcissist will always be caught out.
And for you, perhaps this whole thing has been a long time coming, but for them, it’s their worst nightmare.
In the end, narcissists can be outed by:
- Friends
- Family
- Their spouse
- Their coworkers
- Their neighbors
All it takes is one person, and usually that paves the way for others to stand up and say, “You know what? I see what you mean!”
The downfall then begins.
The rumors spread.
The dots get joined.
The puzzle pieces slide together.
Everything makes sense, as it should.
And the narcissist? How do they react? Whether it’s the end of your relationship with them, or the fact that they’re now old and lonely, they can and will:
- Unleash lies about you
- Become even more angry and resentful
- Be bitter about the time in their life they wasted
- Hate even more who they are becoming (in secret)
- Blame you or whoever outed them
- Feel like their entire world is crumbling and falling apart at the seams
Don’t expect to get away without a smear
You were always hard work, even when you were little.
You never did like me telling the truth.
You always tried to speak louder than everybody else.
Then there might be:
You were the abuser.
You made my life hell.
I did everything I could for you.
Nothing was ever good enough.
You were trouble from the start.
I regret ever loving you.
Some of these phrases will be familiar to you if you are coming to the end of your time knowing a narcissist. They will cut like a knife, and I know you will find them hard to read.
But this is what they do. The smears are insane, and the sole purpose of these words are to hurt you and make you ever regret crossing the narcissist.
Everything will feel like it’s your fault unless you choose not to believe what they’re telling you or other people about you.
Waiting for that end
It’s pretty shocking to know that the narcissist will fight their fight until the last minute possible, isn’t it?
When you’ve spent your entire life trying hard to please them and support them, only to have it turned around and pushed back onto you as abuse is the worst kind of realization.
In the end, you only have your own opinions to believe, and those opinions should at least be accurate.
Narcissists hurt. They lie and cheat and steal, sometimes things that money can’t buy. But it’s only in the end you see the power you really have inside of you.
While they leave your life kicking and screaming, shouting what a terrible person you were, you know the truth.
They’re only doing it because they are bitter, but they were bitter before they even met you.
