Narcissists love phones as much as they love their toxic and damaging habits.
When you put the two together, it’s no surprise that there will be trouble – and a lot of it.
If you want to spot those red flags, I urge you to look at the person in your life who has habits that align with what I am about to expose.
Only then will you be able to steer clear, stay safe, and keep your sanity!
Narcissists Love Their Phones
Narcissists and phones … who hears me here?! They’re completely obsessed with them.
If they aren’t calling or texting, they’re scrolling or posting. This goes beyond being addicted to phones for distraction purposes, or because you majored in procrastination – this is a real hit needed.
The reason narcissists love their phones so much is because it’s like a constant friend telling them how fantastic they are, or feeding them information that will prove useful to them.
Hey, look how many likes you got on your latest photo!
Wow, see how many followers you have, you must be a really great person!
Beep! Oooh, you have a text! Who wants to talk to you?
Ring, ring! Someone’s calling – you must be an important, in demand person!
It’s the same old thing with narcissists – but more than that – their phones are also used as a powerful weapon (more about that later!) Trust me when I say you don’t want to be on the receiving end!
You Think You Know Them So Well
Well, we all think we know the people we are closest to so well, don’t we? We assume that because we live with somebody, or see them every day, that we know all there is to know.
In truth – you don’t really know any narcissist, because they keep so much of their true selves – to themselves!
With pretty much all of us now owning some kind of smartphone that we are for whatever reason intermittently picking up and putting down, it’s hard to tell a narcissist using one.
Lucky for you – I’ve got all the deadly signs you need to look out for!
Habit: Their Phones Become Limbs
Did anybody ask for a third arm? If you didn’t, then I applaud you. That means you don’t view your phone as an extension of you, and instead use it as wisely as you can.
Sure, they can be addictive, but they don’t need to constantly be in your hand – I don’t care what kind of job or social life you have. There’s always time to look up.
When phones become limbs, you have to ask yourself why the person is treating their device that way. What do they need? What are they in search of? What kick are they getting from it?
Narcissists are always in search of their next temporary high, that’s why they bounce so much from person to person, situation to situation, looking for somebody to mess with or play mind games with.
Phones do all the hard work for narcissists, while they can just sit and press a screen to get what they want.
Habit: Password? None of Your Business!
Ah yes, the first wonderful phone habit that points to a narcissist is when they keep their passwords or codes to themselves.
How dare you even ask? Do you know how rude that is?
But hey, can they have your password, and if not, why not?
Passwords are how narcissists keep their seedy little internet history, apps and converses to themselves.
It’s seen as none of your business, and it protects the narcissist from admitting they lead double, even triple lives!
Habit: Why Don’t You Leave it Near Me?
Narcissists are infamous for keeping their phone as close to them as possible.
They don’t want to leave it lying around so you can potentially pick it up and try to snoop.
They don’t want calls coming through that you will see. They just want to be left alone with their device, and they will make that happen by taking it with them wherever they go…
…Even to the bathroom!
It’s not that they overvalue their privacy – they just feel their phones are like these little secret tools where they can live their double lives – usually texting people they shouldn’t, or spying on their exes.
Habit: LISTEN TO ME, EVERYBODY!
Will you just for once ….
Shut up!
Stop assuming we want to hear your conversation!
Stop assuming that you’re interesting or important enough to sway our attention to you!
You want to yell it to them too, right? I know I do sometimes when I hear people talking way too loudly on their phones.
The loud volume chiming from certain people as they speak is a habit that cries out, look at me!
There will always be people who will fall into that trap – but make sure you aren’t one of them!
Habit: SAY CHEESE!
Oh, please. Stop taking photos of yourselves for just one hot minute, will you?
I know we live in the age of the selfie. Everybody takes photos of themselves, and it’s easier to do than ever. Phones have amazing cameras now, and it’s fun to be silly, or take photos if you’re out somewhere special.
This is a whole other level, with narcissists reaching out to take photos at every opportunity, from every angle, in every light, using all the filters they can.
What you have to appreciate is that narcissists need the attention. They want to carve out this untouchable image for people to see, and selfies are a great way to do that.
Habit: Social Media Obsessed
And where do those selfies go, I hear you ask…
Social media!
Narcissists love to have all the apps you can think of.
And they will use them all.
From Snapchat to Facebook, nothing is out of bounds. It means they can gain as many followers as they can, and if a friend or acquaintance doesn’t have one app, they’re bound to have another.
Narcissists cover all social media grounds so they can show off to the masses – using these creations to spy, compare, brag and act their butts off to strangers.
Habit: I Use to Get To You
If you are the friend or lover of a narcissist, then may I first apologize that you’re in that situation.
No seriously…
Victims of narcissists are usually aware of their phone time. They value time spent together too, and appreciate when too much time on phones is indeed too much.
The little peering over their phones at you, to check to see if you’re annoyed is a habit of the narcissist.
They want to know that they’re getting under your skin, and constantly neglecting you to favor their phones is a way of showing you how non-important they think you are.
And it works! Low self-esteem levels derive from watching the narcissist spend all their time attached to their screens.
If this sounds like something you tolerate – then it’s time to start asking yourself some big questions.
