WARNING: 6 Ways Narcissists Use Your Medical Information

Your medical information is your business. You have a history comprising you, your experiences, any health issues or challenges you’ve had.

We all have medical information.

When you release your medical information to a narcissist, they have that information in the palm of their hand.

They will use it in ways you didn’t even think was possible, and the pain from that can hurt.

I’ll warn you: it’s going to get ugly. But everything I tell you, is for you.

What’s Private Should Be Private

It’s disturbing, isn’t it?

Nothing about a narcissist isn’t disturbing. 

It’s quite frightful to think the narcissist is taking pretty hefty, vulnerable, and private information about you and attempting to use it all to their advantage. 

If you meet the right person, you can trust that your medical information stays between you both.

What good would it be to splash it around? I don’t want you to think they just go around telling everybody what information they have on you – but that is, as you will learn shortly – also a strong possibility.

No.

Narcissists are much more insidious than that.

They don’t have to blab to the world about you if they can be more sly, cunning, and covert.

“I Take Care Of You Now”

So, first up we have the heaviest phrase. 

If you fall sick, or you have a history of health challenges, the narcissist will come riding in on their white horse and declare that they are now going to be your main caretaker. 

Don’t worry. Everything will be okay.

I promise I will take care of you.

And yes – the promises are initially perfect. Thank God they’re there for you, and are going to help you.

Your heart melts slightly, as the relief feels palpable. You’re ready to be nurtured.

Except – narcissists and nurture don’t really go together in the same sentence. 

So you have a false promise made (and a big one at that), without any follow through.

It’s a way for narcissists to feel they’re taking control, and if their help dwindles as it inevitably will, they will take offence when you ask for something.

Don’t I do enough for you?

What do you want now?

I did that just last week for you.

I see. I’m obviously not pulling my weight.

How dare you assume I don’t care!

It can get nasty. And then what? You pull back on your requests for help, so you end up suffering more as a result. 

Your health information is of no interest to them, but they will use it against you to reiterate that they’re the real victim in this. 

Now that is sick!

“All I Ever Do Is Take Care Of You”

Like it’s an endless chore, they can’t wriggle their way out – their caring nature is severely limited. They will not go out of their way for you if it means they have to put you before themselves. 

This is where it gets tricky because, on the flip side, they will fall over themselves to help and support you if there is an audience.

In front of those watching, they will want to look like the caring spouse/friend/family member.

But they will watch you laying on the floor and tell you that you’re interrupting your day if it bothers them that much (and I assure you, it will).

“Are You Sure You’re Able?”

Questioning your ability to do anything is not beyond the remit of any narcissist. 

They will gaslight you into oblivion if they could, and they do. 

Let’s clear it up a little.

Your medical notes don’t mean you can’t do anything at all.

And yes, for some, that means needing to cater to a care plan or think of approaches to self-soothe or alleviate pain. Whatever it might be, but…

This is not that.

This is the assumption that because you have a medical history, you can’t do anything.

Not only is that the usual narrative the narcissist runs with, they actually have a solid, tangible excuse for raising this narrative.

Well, you’re unwell. You can’t do it.

I don’t think you’re going to be able to handle it, with your illness and all.

Are you sure you’re willing to do this?

Constantly questioning you in the name of concern while you agree to take a step back from errands or tasks is such a sneaky and bizarre way to act.

“I Don’t Think You’re Well Enough”

Oh yes. Of course. Because you can’t manage a thing…

Similar to my previous point, narcissists will go a step further and tell you that you’re not well enough to do something if they see your medical notes as a reason to pull you away from what you want to do.

You’re tired.

You’ve had a long day.

Your back might start to ache again.

You can’t possibly lift that.

You know how your stress levels can elevate.

Nothing stops you if it’s safe and you’re able. This is not about a protective and caring spouse trying to cut in and help or offer advice.

This is preventing you from doing anything for yourself, and taking away your independence in the process. 

“Do You Need More Medication?”

Don’t tell somebody they need more medication just because they, in some way, have acted in a way that displeases you.

This is so abusive, not to mention dangerous. 

The way the narcissist can cut in and tell you that you’re acting out of line to the point where they question your medication is not for them to decide.

You have a firm relationship with your doctor, and anything like this should be discussed suitable with them.

This is one thing narcissists must never control.

“You Don’t Know What You’re Saying. It’s Your Illness Talking”

Your illness, whatever happened to you, your body or mind – none of these are up for debate.

While you may have good and bad days, no person should be insinuating that you don’t know what you’re talking about.

It’s fair to say that all narcissists love to gaslight, and if that person in your life is trying to do the same with you, I am telling you now that they needn’t bother. 

Your illness doesn’t talk. Again, this points heavily at the narcissist wanting to control you by changing or discussing your medication.

They know that if you took a little more of this or a little less that, you will be much more manageable and easier to push around.

Be careful – you have officially been warned!