Narcissists love to talk.

About themselves.

About what they want.

What they expect.

What they love.

“Me, me, me!”

One thing is for sure though – a narcissist will never talk about certain things. Certainly not the honest version, anyway!

They would rather die and go to their grave with these things than tell you, or anybody else.

Want to know what those things are?

The Secrets of a Narcissist

Every narcissist has a huge secret they are desperate to keep from you. They don’t want you finding out, they can’t be at risk of it being exposed, and they fear the day it may happen.

So they do everything they can to keep it under lock and key. 

What if I told you then, that there was more than one secret they were keeping? More than one thing they will never tell you about?

It gets interesting, doesn’t it?

The secrets of a narcissist belong to them, and them only. 

What’s in it For You?

There’s never anything in it for you. 

I know that can sound so disappointing, because you want to know everything there is to know about the person in your life. Whether you’ve fallen for them, made friends with them, work with them, or are related to them – they’re all the same.

You will view the narcissist as somebody who is perfect, and who never steps a foot out of place. They will tell you what they want you to hear, when they feel it necessary to say it. 

Never underestimate any of them – they have a reason as to why they keep what they do from you – and it’s mostly to preserve a part of themselves that can be vulnerable.

They also hate you knowing anything that may look like they were at fault.

They want to present an illusion to you, so they must use every trick up their sleeve…

Narcissists Are Never Going to Tell You About These Things!

Get ready to learn exactly what a narcissist keeps from you – and why!

How Their Past Relationships Really Ended

The only version of the narcissist’s past you’re going to get, is the one they tell you. Your only choice is therefore, to believe it. 

If you meet somebody who seems so genuine, you’d have no reason not to believe it. As time goes on, the narcissist teaches us that there’s probably a mountain of stuff we don’t know about them. 

Including how their last relationship ended. 

Now, you may get the version that puts the narcissist firmly in the victim seat. You’ll hear how sad they were, and how mistreated they had become toward the end. It’ll be a huge surprise if they didn’t say how much they loved their ex, and thought they’d found The One. 

And you? There you are. The real happy ending. The rainbow. The gift from above. Thank God they found you, right?

That’s the painted picture, and that will be how they want you to see them see you. 

All that pretense and fluff is just a cover for what really happened. The abuse ran its course, and the other person had a lucky escape.

And now it’s your turn.

How Insecure They Really Are

The world’s best kept secret is how intensely insecure the narcissist really is. When I tell people how deep rooted this is, they can’t believe it.

But, they seem so sure of themselves.

No. They can’t be insecure. They are always the center of attention.

And my response?

Well, yes, they certainly are. That’s because they can’t stand to be in any other place. Any other place would reek of inferiority – and they aren’t going to stand it there for a second. 

Narcissists will never tell you how insecure they are, for it also doubles up as an admission of weakness.

We all know that insecurities can rise up in the best of us, but it’s how we accept them, work with them, and eventually overcome them that makes all the difference.

You or I wouldn’t have an issue with that, because we aren’t afraid to make mistakes.

The narcissist?

It would never happen. 

 How Sorry They Are

An apology will genuinely come out of a narcissist’s mouth. None at all. You will only hear them say they’re sorry when they want something, or want you to feel bad. 

To be truly sorry? Remorseful?

It won’t happen.

Narcissists don’t know how to be remorseful – hey – it involves having a conscience! To be able to admit they’re sorry means admitting they are less than perfect.

And perfect is what narcissists work hard day and night to prove to everybody that they are. 

It’s common for people to ask a narcissist for an apology, even just to see that they can reflect honestly and care enough to make it right.

That’s the problem a lot of the time, isn’t it? When our values aren’t aligned with the narcissist’s actions. When all we do to be good people is disrupted by the covert acts of the toxic person in our lives.

Sorry?

They know how to say it, but not be it.

 How Wonderful You Really Are

Classically in any narcissistic relationship, your worth is going to be stamped all over. Increasingly, I am seeing people suffer post narc relationships because they were never appreciated. They were never really loved. They were never valued. 

The narcissist didn’t know how to love, so no love was conveyed. 

If you think narcissists are going to change for you, you’re wrong. None of them are able to tell you exactly how much they think of you, and how wonderful you really are. The worst part of that? Well, that’s easy…

You spend all of that relationship treating yourself with the same value as they do. 

It’s a twisted cycle invented by them, and produced by them, and every single time it will be you who suffers. 

 How Wrong They Are

The world would be much better if everybody could be accountable for their mistakes, but no.

Narcissists refuse to admit how wrong they were about anything. They won’t do it. They can’t do it. 

If they’re wrong, they will cover it up by blaming you or ignoring the fact that they were wrong. Uninterested in looking like fools, they would sooner keep quiet and let the show go on rather than halt services. 

When you think about it, a narcissist isn’t going to give you the news that they were wrong because they know you will look at them differently. You’ll immediately see how vulnerable they can be. 

…The narcissist’s worst nightmare!