Narcissists love to talk.

About themselves.

About what they want.

What they expect.

What they love.

“Me, me, me!”

One thing is for sure though – a narcissist will never talk about certain things. Certainly not the honest version, anyway!

They would rather die and go to their grave with these things than tell you, or anybody else.

Want to know what those things are?

The Secrets of a Narcissist

Every narcissist has a huge secret they are desperate to keep from you. They don’t want you finding out, they can’t be at risk of it being exposed, and they fear the day it may happen.

So they do everything they can to keep it under lock and key. 

What if I told you then, that there was more than one secret they were keeping? More than one thing they will never tell you about?

It gets interesting, doesn’t it?

The secrets of a narcissist belong to them, and them only. 

What’s in it For You?

There’s never anything in it for you. 

I know that can sound so disappointing, because you want to know everything there is to know about the person in your life.

Whether you’ve fallen for them, made friends with them, work with them, or are related to them – they’re all the same.

You will view the narcissist as somebody who is perfect, and who never steps a foot out of place. They will tell you what they want you to hear, when they feel it necessary to say it. 

Never underestimate any of them – they have a reason for keeping what they do from you – and it’s mostly to preserve a part of themselves that can be vulnerable.

They also hate you knowing anything that may look like they were at fault.

They want to present an illusion to you, so they must use every trick up their sleeve…

Narcissists Are Never Going to Tell You About These Things!

Get ready to learn exactly what a narcissist keeps from you – and why!

How Their Past Relationships Really Ended

The only version of the narcissist’s past you’re going to get, is the one they tell you. Your only choice is therefore, to believe it. 

If you meet somebody who seems so genuine, you’d have no reason not to believe it. As time goes on, the narcissist teaches us that there’s probably a mountain of stuff we don’t know about them. 

Including how their last relationship ended. 

Now, you may get the version that puts the narcissist firmly in the victim seat.

You’ll hear how sad they were, and how mistreated they had become toward the end. It’ll be a huge surprise if they didn’t say how much they loved their ex, and thought they’d found The One. 

And you? There you are. The real happy ending. The rainbow. The gift from above. Thank God they found you, right?

That’s the painted picture, and that will be how they want you to see them see you. 

All that pretense and fluff is just a cover for what really happened. The abuse ran its course, and the other person had a lucky escape.

And now it’s your turn.

How Insecure They Really Are

The world’s best-kept secret is how intensely insecure the narcissist really is. When I tell people how deep-rooted this is, they can’t believe it.

But, they seem so sure of themselves.

No. They can’t be insecure. They are always the center of attention.

And my response?

Well, yes, they certainly are. That’s because they can’t stand to be in any other place. Any other place would reek of inferiority – and they aren’t going to stand it there for a second. 

Narcissists will never tell you how insecure they are, for it also doubles up as an admission of weakness.

We all know that insecurities can rise up in the best of us, but it’s how we accept them, work with them, and eventually overcome them that makes all the difference.

You or I wouldn’t have an issue with that, because we aren’t afraid to make mistakes.

The narcissist?

It would never happen. 

 How Sorry They Are

An apology will genuinely come out of a narcissist’s mouth. None at all. You will only hear them say they’re sorry when they want something, or want you to feel bad. 

To be truly sorry? Remorseful?

It won’t happen.

Narcissists don’t know how to be remorseful—hey, it involves having a conscience! Admitting they’re sorry means admitting they are less than perfect.

And perfect is what narcissists work hard day and night to prove to everybody that they are. 

It’s common for people to ask a narcissist for an apology, even just to see that they can reflect honestly and care enough to make it right.

That’s the problem a lot of the time, isn’t it? When our values aren’t aligned with the narcissist’s actions. When the covert acts of the toxic person in our lives disrupt all we do to be good people.

Sorry?

They know how to say it, but not be it.

 How Wonderful You Really Are

Classically in any narcissistic relationship, your worth is going to be stamped all over.

Increasingly, I am seeing people suffer post narc relationships because they were never appreciated. They were never really loved. They were never valued. 

The narcissist didn’t know how to love, so no love was conveyed. 

If you think narcissists are going to change for you, you’re wrong. None of them can tell you exactly how much they think of you, and how wonderful you really are. The worst part of that? Well, that’s easy…

You spend all of that relationship treating yourself with the same value as they do. 

It’s a twisted cycle invented by them and produced by them, and every single time, you will suffer. 

 How Wrong They Are

The world would be much better if everybody could be accountable for their mistakes, but no.

Narcissists refuse to admit how wrong they were about anything. They won’t do it. They can’t do it. 

If they’re wrong, they will cover it up by blaming you or ignoring the fact that they were wrong.

Uninterested in looking like fools, they would sooner keep quiet and let the show go on rather than halt services. 

When you think about it, a narcissist isn’t going to give you the news that they were wrong because they know you will look at them differently. You’ll immediately see how vulnerable they can be. 

…The narcissist’s worst nightmare!

What Eventually Happens To Narcissists?

How Does it End For Narcissists?

Narcissists are like a really painful, long book that you have to read to understand. They don’t come with an index or bullet points. If they did, half their toxicity would fall through the cracks.

Sadly, people like you or I must experience them fully before we know each trick.

If I can offer you one fragment of light at the end of this treacherous tunnel – it’s this:

What happens to narcissists is an ending that you’re going to want to hang on for.

Let’s get into it.

“Look At Them!”

It’s enough to make you sick, isn’t it?

They live their merry little lives, seemingly getting away with anything and everything, making you want to scream from the rooftops.

Yes – it’s unfair. 

You wish they would just crumble and fall down, so you could finally see them suffer as much as they made you suffer. 

You want what happens to them to be detrimental to everything they pretend to be. 

Does The Tide Ever Turn?

What do you think? I mean, I want to be able to tell you that they do indeed turn honestly.

I also know and appreciate how it really doesn’t feel that way at the time. Constantly waiting for them to taste their own medicine can feel like waiting for rain in a drought.

But I am here to say that, yes, eventually, that rain will come.

And it will feel amazing.

The Beauty of Karma

I don’t like to meddle with Karma. Instead, I trust that everything will work exactly how it should.

Sometimes we win, sometimes we lose. The circle of life appreciates both good and bad happenings, and I am certain that includes narcissists and how they treat others. 

Karma doesn’t need you stepping in and taking over, so if you ever try to gain justice from a situation involving a narcissist, you’re likely to lose. 

Rather than that – it’s nothing but a waiting game. 

But a game you’ll definitely not want to quit.

How Does It End For Them?

No narcissist has a really happy ending. 

Ultimately, they go home alone every day, even if they go home to somebody. 

Narcissists always want to be part of something, yet never feel part of anything. It’s all empty. It’s all meaningless. They don’t have layers to them or an ounce of appreciation for their family or friends. 

That alone should tell you how it ends for every narcissist. 

They’re nothing but lonely people craving some kind of something. 

That is something they never end up getting.

#1 The Slipping of the Mask

You may have to wait a while, but the mask of a narcissist will always, I repeat, always slip off.

I know you think it can’t happen soon enough, and many of you will be screaming for it to be today—but it doesn’t work that way.

In fact, the more you try to rush the mask’s slipping, the crazier you will look.

If you want to allow their true selves to unfold naturally, you’ll have to wait for the day.

#2 Inability to Keep Up With Their Lies

We all know that lying can lead to serious trouble. Not only do you have to remember this, but you may also have to build potential lies around it so they make sense. 

Narcissists are great at lying, but they can do it so frequently that they fail to recall them all.

When you see a narcissist caught in a lie trap, they will fluff and fumble their way out as best they can with the charm they were born with. 

I want to remind you, though – the lies do catch up with them eventually.

Lies catch up with everybody. 

#3 One Small Mistake

This is all it takes, believe me. One tiny little slip up to get people talking is all it takes. 

I once knew a narcissist professionally who never took any accountability for his mistakes.

He used to cover up all his mistakes, blaming others or deleting evidence that he was responsible. 

One day, he was caught in the act. He had no defense, and even though he got really angry and tried to blame somebody else, it was clear he was to blame. 

His mistake was leaving his work pass in the room where he shredded all the information he wanted to discard. 

It’s all it took for the dominos to all fall down, and for the past to come together like a jigsaw puzzle. People saw what he was like, and nobody trusted him again. 

#4 Time Will Tell

You’re all familiar with the saying, ‘Time will heal.’ It helps if you are going through hard times or have lost somebody close to you. 

Time also heals your own heart as it allows narcissists to be revealed for who they really are.

As much as it will cause chaos, it will be healing to be validated by the entire event. 

It’s how so many victims breathe a sigh of relief and say, “Thank goodness everybody can now see them for who they truly are.”

Time will give you that. You just have to wait for it. 

#5 They Won’t Hesitate To Move!

Narcissists are renowned for moving. 

To start again, if things get too heated where they live,

Looking for work in a new city or town for a ‘fresh start.’

Usually, when they run everybody else down or play them all in their games, they run out of people.

They run out of supply.

So what do they do?

They run away.

It won’t end there, though. Moving anywhere new only restarts the whole process.

Narcissists, for that reason, never really admit to having somewhere to call home.

#6 New Friends

Of course, moving anywhere means starting up a new friendship circle. People will mingle and meet with everybody, as all new people are considered to be fresh pawns in their game. 

Friends end up being enemies before long…

In The End

You can wait and wait, but eventually, the narcissist will get their comeuppance.

In one way or another, whether being found out, having their mask slip, or having to keep bouncing from town to city to stay relevant or liked.

Please allow that to be the justice you need, because it is.

Narcissists will always be miserable. They hate being stuck or figured out, so they must constantly work out their plan to keep their true selves a secret.

Isn’t that the end you want to hear about?

I know it is for me.

What Narcissists Really Think About You?

You should never sit in the seat of certainty when it comes to any narcissist.

You will never be there for long, because you were instead destined for confusion.

Narcissists think and act differently, depending on their mood that day. If they feel like it, they will be nice.

If they’re nice, it’ll be because they want something from you.

If they’re not nice, it’s because they need your supply. They like to see you suffer.

Knowing what they really think about you will give you an idea of their true character…

…And it’s not good.

You Think You Know Them?

Nobody ever really knows the narcissist. The only person who knows them is them. 

I don’t think it’s ever really wise to assume you know everything there is to know about somebody so toxic.

After all, they love to change the goalposts so much that as soon as you feel you have them pegged, they change and shift the tides to suit themselves.

The same can be said for what they really think about you.

Living Your Best Life, Until…

They come along!

It’s the same with all narcissists. You’re happy until you realize what you’ve gotten yourself into. 

Isn’t it a shame to think that the narcissist, somebody who claims to have your best interests at heart, treats you the way they do?

How can somebody who says such loving things never ever prove that love in any healthy way at all?

Underneath Their Act Lies Jealousy

It’s okay to be a little envious in life. It’s a natural response to somebody having what you would love to have.

For example, your friend could have bought themselves a new holiday cabin with a view.

Darn. I would love that. I am so envious you get to go there!

That’s where it ends, though, right?

I mean – you have a choice. You can work hard to earn the money for one. You can ask to stay there if you paid your way for the week.

Narcissists don’t get envious – they rage with jealousy.

They detest all the good in the lives of others and will resent you for what you have.

Is that normal?

Nope!

Is that right?

Absolutely not!

“Look At You, All Happy. That’ll Have To Stop…”

They hate your happiness. It acts like a plague on them. They want to cut it off as quickly as they can, so they’ll do what it takes to ensure any joy is fleeting.

How dare they smile and have things go their way?!

The confusing part for you is that you think they love you. You automatically think they’ll be happy when you receive good news, but it couldn’t be further from the truth. 

Any happiness is bound to come from something or somebody other than them. That’s a major threat. How could you allow that?!

Derailing your happiness can take various forms: mocking you until you stop, criticizing you until you no longer believe in yourself, or shaming you until guilt about your own happiness eats you up. 

I could go on forever. 

Imagine being around somebody who loathes seeing you content that much.

“I Can Get Away With Anything!”

Forgiveness is an act undertaken by people who can see the bigger picture. They want peace and understand that people make mistakes. 

Asking for forgiveness can alter how you view your mistakes if that forgiveness is going to be abused later on. 

Those who are genuine in being sorry know they will not repeat what they did to hurt the other person. That’s how it generally goes, right?

Narcissists don’t care. They truly don’t. They will repeatedly offend, time and time again. 

They know they’ve got several love-bombing tricks up their sleeves that have proven very efficient so far. 

There’s no reason why those things won’t work all over again.

And you know what? All the while you continue to forgive, they will continue to offend. 

They Don’t Love You

I know it’s a tough pill to swallow. Knowing you aren’t loved takes a lot of hard work because, for the most part, you feel in complete denial. 

Of course, they love me. They tell me they do.

I know they love me. They wouldn’t have taken me on that expensive trip if they didn’t. 

You learn the value of love to only be at the currency the narcissist sets.

Love isn’t a currency. It doesn’t ebb or flow. It remains. 

I know it’s hard to admit to be true. All that emotional work you put into the relationship. All the ways you were vulnerable and shared your life with them. 

I speak truthfully when I tell you it was all a ploy to get you to play their game. 

Threatened By Your Success…

If a narcissist sees your success, they’re going to want and need to put a stop to it immediately. 

Your success can be compared to a competition you don’t even realize you’re in.

You’re exceeding, and the judges have their eye on you. Only the narcissist is also taking part, and the judges aren’t even looking their way at all. 

The anger. The resentment. The envy. It will all spill over the surface.

So, what does the narcissist do? When nobody is watching, they will sabotage what you are making or creating so that you fall down in the competition rankings.

They may even steal what you have and use it for themselves.

That’ll get them noticed!

They can’t stand to see you getting the attention. To them, you don’t deserve happiness because it isn’t something they’re personally gaining for themselves. 

What a dangerous and toxic trait to have, right?

Well… welcome to the world of narcissists.

…Pleased When You Fail!

The party poppers would be popping constantly if the narcissist had their way. When you fail, it’s not something they necessarily or overtly laugh about (although that can happen).

Instead, they will quietly smirk in the corner of a darkened room. They don’t want others to see their joy, but that won’t stop them from feeling it.

You’d think somebody who claimed to care about you would be falling over themselves with concern if you are down, sad, failing, or having a terrible day.

Nope.

Narcissists love it. They love seeing you fall because when you do, you land at the bottom of the heap, exactly where the narcissist resides. 

Knowing they have company makes them feel better, and seeing your misery or disappointment will ensure a huge grin is plastered all over their faces—difficult to wipe off.