The narcissist’s confidence is like an eggshell. It’s pretty solid, yet all it takes is a slight bump, and that crack is instant.
Instead of avoiding ways in which you avoid leading them to pain, why don’t you start seeing the truth for what is is:
You are more powerful than you thought.
For that reason, you can destroy the narcissist’s confidence with these 11 things.
Have fun with them all, if you want!
#1 Repeating what they say that’s rude back to them
Let’s be real, narcissists are always being rude! Isn’t it about time they got a taste of their own medicine?
The second you are rude to them, all hell will break loose, but it will be through sheer shock of your audacity that will cause it
If you want to see their confidence blow away in a gust of wind, you need to invent the breeze.
Repeating what they say that’s rude back to them allows for a window of opportunity to hold them accountable for what they said.
Narcissists aren’t good at accepting that, but it’s made so difficult when you literally repeat back what they say to you.
#2 Pause and watch them intently for a few seconds before you answer them
You’d be surprised at quite how impactful a few seconds of silence can be, especially when the narcissist is desperate to get you to react, or at least say something.
By pausing and watching them intently, you’re showing them that you’re studying them.
You’re looking at their faces, and with that inevitably comes thoughts you have that you aren’t sharing.
Narcissists are so paranoid that they will be racking their tiny brains to try to predict what you are thinking, and that will put a huge and immediate dent in their confidence.
They rely so much on your instant reaction that the silence will be even louder than they can manage.
#3 Mock them back
You get it almost every day, and up until now, you’ve tolerated this petulant, childish tactic.
Now is the day you get to do it back to the narcissist, and it changes everything.
You suddenly see the smirk wiped off their faces as you cut through their ego and reach their innermost insecurities.
The mocking feels good, but you know it’s detrimental even to you to do it frequently.
However, times call for every now and then, and sometimes, there’s no harm in giving a little back of what you get a lot of.
When you mock them, they take it personally. They feel it because they already think whatever you’re saying about themselves.
#4 Criticize them back
The same goes for anything critical that you want to serve cold!
Why do you always forget that I hate onions in my pasta sauce! You’re so useless!
It never hurts to come back with:
Why do you never cook? That way you can take out the onions and stop acting like a baby.
I am telling you now, a narcissist will not hang around this kind of person for long.
They cannot bear to be gotten at, or to meet somebody who gives as good as they get.
They thrive on the power they have over you, but hate those who are already empowered.
Criticize them back and you will watch their confidence crumble into a heap before you.
#5 Speak about their weaknesses
If a narcissist is on your back and you want to destroy their confidence, raise their own weaknesses.
You talk about my weaknesses a lot. Do you ever want to talk about the fact that you can’t seem to hold down a job?
Sometimes, that’s all it takes for the smile to literally crumble from their face and fall to the ground.
Oh dear, did you say something wrong?
Narcissists will hate you bringing up their weak traits, and that’s exactly why doing so will be an instant destructive method to ruin their confidence.
#6 Asking them how old their joke book is
I love a little sarcasm, and as narcissists love to resort to their usual, boring joke book, why don’t you raise that as an issue?
My God. Don’t you ever get tired of your boring, same old joke book?
Is there no way you can try to write a more up to date version that dinosaurs can’t relate to?
You’ve got them right where you want them, and that’s a good, strong place for anybody who wants to destroy the confidence of a narcissist.
#7 Question their charm
I know you think you’re trying to be nice, but all I see is smarmy charm.
You aren’t as charming as you are trying to be.
Do people really buy this fake charm?
I see right through it.
You should try harder, your game is obviously lacking in any real originality.
I mean, if I could give myself points for creating those phrases, I would.
They would cut into a narcissist’s confidence so well, and trust me, they would work every single time.
Question their charm, but in a way that leaves no room for them to maneuver within.
The last thing you want is for them to bite back with a comment that is equally as witty.
#8 Confront them
Why are you doing this?
What are you gaining from these games?
Have you ever just considered how pleasant it’d be to not be a narcissist?
Suddenly and without warning, you will have shattered not just the narcissist’s plans, but their confidence, too.
I think all narcissists are scared of this day, but if you serve it up cold, you will destroy them in an instant.
Any kind of confrontation like this always has slight consequences, but personally, it has to be better than tolerating more and more abuse from them, watching them feign confidence that really doesn’t exist at all.
#9 Not biting the bait
Ignorance can be bliss, and in this case, it really is worth its weight in gold.
The bait that is constantly dangled from the narcissist to you is always tempting to bite.
You want to react, and let them know how you feel. Screaming, crying, begging; whatever that bait looks like, I urge you to rethink and give them the silent treatment instead.
Better yet, carry on like they aren’t even in the room, and you will see the confidence wash away with each passing second.
That’s because they aren’t as powerful as they’d like to be, and the only way you will find that out is if you give them your best self.
#10 Doing what you want to do – unapologetically
Be you, and never let the narcissist stop you. If you want to try out that new hobby, try it out.
Don’t let them stop you, even when they come at you with the worst forms of criticism they can muster from their predictable, small minds.
Don’t be sorry for who you are. I’d rather see you all shine brightly than be dimmed by the moods and misery of a narcissist who doesn’t know the first thing about fun.
What a way to diminish their confidence at the lick of your fabulous fingers!
