Narcissistic men and women mostly operate in the same way, but there are some real differences in how they abuse their victims, and I wanted to touch on that today.
There is one thing that narcissistic women can’t handle.
You think they hold it together well, but as soon as you start to pull it away from your relationship dynamic, you will see all narcissistic women lose their minds.
I guess now is a good time to tell you what the one thing narcissistic women can’t handle, so you can be better equipped the next time you interact with one.
#1 It’s all change with men vs. women
I wouldn’t say the ebay way to treat all narcissists is to treat them all the same, whether they’re men or women.
It doesn’t work that way, as men and women both have different needs, goals and desires when it comes to relationships.
And let me tell you, men and women know how to work their own sexuality as an abuser, too.
With women, they are more emotive in terms of their narcissism.
They know the game well, because they’re more in touch with what’s going on in the mind.
Narcissistic women know the best way to a man’s heart is to be physically intimate, affectionate, and controlling.
Men are much more simplistic emotionally, and know that women typically tend to crave love more than they do.
That’s why when you see a narcissistic man breadcrumb their victim, it’s almost always via avenues of romance, rather than sheer physical intimacy.
#2 Drama on another level
Narcissistic women and drama … let me tell you… You have never seen anything quite like it.
Sure, men can be dramatic, and they too, love drama. But narcissistic women thrive getting stuck right in the center of all chaos, even if they deny fully that they had anything to do with it.
They want to watch worlds, relationships, friendships and connections fall apart, and if they can, they will have a hand in making it happen.
Do they then hold their hands up and say it was anything to do with them? Absolutely not!
The drama is where you will find all narcissistic women, and they will love anybody who is involved in that.
The key to really being somebody they can’t handle, is to reject the idea that drama must occur at all.
If you can take away the idea that you need drama in your life, then you are officially making it real that you can live a life of peace, which is totally boring to the narcissistic woman.
In fact, they look at you as if you are a huge problem just because you like the quiet life and aren’t interested in gossip, yelling or fallouts.
This tells you far more about the narcissistic woman than it ever does you, because it shows you are happy and content without any toxicity entering your environment.
Narcissistic women could learn a lot from you!
#3 They think they’re one step ahead
Narcissistic women do think they’re always a step ahead, because they strive to learn the ways of a toxic dynamic more than narcissistic men.
They act smarter a lot of the time, trying to paint a smile on so nobody will suspect them of being who they are behind the mask.
They wear feminine clothes, spray on gorgeous perfume, and pop to yoga class. They are the perfect display of femininity, and it can attract the attention of men in strong ways.
With this type of image, the idea that they are a narcissist is far from the minds of anybody captivated by the narcissistic woman’s allure.
So what choice do you have with the information you’ve been given?
#4 Refuse to play their game
Stepping away from these pathetic, ego-driven games will give you the upper hand, and if that’s what interests you, then it can be easily available to you.
Ways you can do this include:
- Not giving your thoughts on people, situations, or anything the narcissistic woman is trying to extract from you. There’s nothing worse than trying to get water from a dry spring.
- Decline invitations out with them wherever possible. These invites are only opportunities to get information from you, or to get you on side where they can. If you go, you leave yourself wide open to be thrown to the fire.
- When replying to them via text, keep them short and factual. Think before you press send, and make sure you aren’t sending a message loaded with information they can use against you, or too much emotion that they can twist.
- Don’t be there at the drop of a hat. Don’t leave whatever you are doing to be there for them, and continue to prioritize yourself. That way they won’t get any kind of special treatment, and will see you as somebody who isn’t easily manipulated or swayed.
It might take a while to get fully on track with these pieces of advice, but let me tell you; your life will be so much better and clearer when you take heed.
The narcissistic woman in question won’t be able to handle how calm and collected you are, and that no matter what they try to dish out as a game, you won’t bite the bait.
#5 Seeing you confident riles the narcissistic woman
It’s a whole big game of confidence, isn’t it?
If you can master the art of stepping away from all drama, you are proving both to yourself and the narcissist that you don’t need to be involved and have a slice of toxic pie in order to be validated by them.
It is possible to just be you, without needing or obsessing over rising to the occasion.
You know what makes this impossible for any narcissistic woman to handle?
It’s that you are living the life you want to. You don’t need them. You don’t get FOMO, and you can handle just being at peace.
You’re nice to people, and you respect them. That’s worth more than pure gold, let me tell you.
You’ll be looked at as though you’re totally odd, but that’s because a narcissistic woman can’t put themselves in your shoes.
They don’t get you, but that’s okay. You weren’t put put on this earth to justify yourself to any toxic person.
#6 Stop falling for their allure
The allure of a narcissistic woman can be tempting to chase, like it’s one big game.
And it is to the narcissist. They love you wanting to be a part of their life, wanting to know what’s going on and how to be a character in their game of lies.
They love to draw people close to them, but you know better.
You know that in order for them to not handle the dynamic, you live life dancing to the beat of your own drum.
It’s more powerful than any other approach, and it works every single time.
So, I hand the baton of power to you. How are you going to use it to improve your life today?
