You think you know the narcissist? You only know a certain side of them, and that’s the side they want you to know.
You see this image that appears unbreakable, but that’s far from the truth.
I don’t suppose you’ve been offered the truth much since knowing them, so here’s an opportunity for you now.
I’ve got proof that the narcissist’s whole life is a lie, and I think it’s going to be exactly what you need to read.
Getting to know the narcissist
Enter the minefield that is getting to know the narcissist:
- Step one. Fireworks! Wow. What an absolute catch this person is. And they’re paying attention to you. You must be special for their focus to go there.
- And now they make it so easy for you to spill your life stories to them. Every weakness you have just flows right out of you, with no barrier to guard you from the fact that as charming as they are, they’re still a stranger.
- They promise you the world and more, and boy do they mean it. They’re perfect. Good looking, confident, financially secure, they’ve got the perfect job, and they want to get to know you better.
- And let’s not even talk about intimacy, because it is mindblowing!
It all seems fantastic, doesn’t it? Sheer perfection, right at your doorstep.
You see a person who isn’t real
And that’s where it all ends, because I am afraid to tell you that the person you’ve been introduced to isn’t real. They wish they were, and they try so hard to be, but they’re fake as anything.
What you’ve seen is an act, and I know, I grant you, it’s a great act. It’s been executed well, like all the times before you.
You see, you’re nothing new, nor are you anything special. You’ve been made to feel it because it’s so convincing, I get it.
It’s probably already too late for this because I bet you feel as though you’ve fallen in love already.
They aren’t perfect.
They aren’t loyal.
They aren’t attentive.
They aren’t confident.
They don’t love themselves.
They don’t have your best interests at heart.
The only way you will realize this is after a period of time, when the honeymoon period settles, and when their mask starts to really slip.
Realizing their life is a lie
Realizing the life of a narcissist is nothing but a lie involves a significant bundle of proof. I want to offer that up to you right now, so you are aware of exactly how much they pretend on a daily basis.
#1 They hate being alone
When a narcissist is alone, they’re not just alone with themselves, they’re alone with the reality that everything they say and do is a lie.
Suddenly, their fears start to rise. They’re alone with their conscience.
They sit with the misery that they will never measure up unless they constantly offer the pretend versions of themselves to others.
Being alone doesn’t offer solace, it offers a truth they will never truly be able to sit well with.
#2 They end up alone
The worst nightmare comes true; narcissists don’t like being alone, yet that’s exactly how they all end up.
Nobody wants to visit them, no friends have stuck around, and no family trusts them or feels good around them.
Ending up alone is probably the least they deserve after putting you through what you went through.
#3 The mask hides their fears
The good old mask serves such a purpose for the narcissist, doesn’t it? To think all it takes is to slip it on, and you can pretend to be anybody you wish to be.
What a dangerous game to play, but yet they do it so frequently, and so well.
It’s all a lie though, and their mask will hide all manner of emotional sins that manipulate and control victims to the point of severe damage.
#4 Everything they do is a lie
From the friends they keep, to the success they claim is theirs.
Narcissists constantly feel like they have to impress in order to be liked, because they want to be better than everybody else. But it’s hard, right? To keep up that kind of image.
And let’s not even go there with how they treat you. Telling you you’re not good enough, criticizing anything you do.
They always wind up alone
As it stands, the vast majority of narcissists can and do end up alone.
Even if they’re still married, they somehow manage to wind up isolating themselves through worsening abuse and tricks.
In fact, the older they get, the less wise they seem to be, making their abusive side slip up into public more often.
They seem to care less as they age, and that’s what makes them stand out for all the wrong reasons.
So if you have known that narcissist your whole life or certainly for a long enough time, you will remember them once as a “I know everything and love myself so much.”
What a contrast to the person standing in front of you, proving all along their bravado was nothing but a mediocre act to fool people.
Great at pretending
I bet you’re thinking back to when you first met the narcissist now, right? You’re seeing their charming smile and how captivating they were to even listen to.
They had an air about them that screamed “I come from a very important place,” and you got swept in.
If they are a relation of yours, you probably remember that authoritative figure bounding into the room and making grandiose announcements or orders toward you.
At the time, you probably thought wow, this person really is somebody I need to listen to. I really need to know my place around them.
No you don’t. You never did, but that was the impression they’d have given you. It was only ever always about them, never you.
The reason they had so much front is because it was all a lie. Nobody can withstand that kind of character for their entire lives, eventually the cracks have to show.
When the mask does eventually slip, and the older they get, the more you will see the useless person behind the charm, and how they think as little of themselves as they do of you.
You are much better knowing the truth
It’s time you knew the truth, because it’s that truth which will set your mind free.
Narcissists lie. Those lies aren’t built on truth, they’re built on wishes the narcissist has about themselves.
I wish I could love others.
I wish I could let people in.
I wish I had friends.
I wish I could be like everybody else.
They will never admit these wishes to themselves, let alone you! But that’s why they build this persona up and convince themselves they are who they’re really not – important.
The belief that they’re better than you comes from the fear that they will never measure up.
You see? Everything is a lie, and the sooner you see it, the sooner you will have that proof in your hands.
