Q: I need help being hooked up with professionals. I am leaving a relationship with a cop .He is so good at making me look crazy. I am literally losing my mind and everything in my mind. I am feeling so hopeless knowing 3 times I have went to police department with proof of his strategies to set me up and am now appearing to be crazy . Now he has went as far as forcing himself on me to have sex after reporting him, within a week I was served with a stalking order from him. Please help me my story needs to be heard.
A: Unfortunately, narcissists can be found in all walks of life. Even in a police department where they are trained to help people. He has done a good job of ‘gaslighting’ you and making everyone around him, including yourself, think you are losing your mind. If you have a stalking order- then you should be having no contact with him and he should be nowhere near you. Follow that order–remain away from him no matter what. No Matter What. Get far away from this man and stay away. There is no reason to continue to see him or let him in to your house. He can’t force himself on you if he isn’t in your house. If he has a key, change the locks.You say you “are leaving”. Don’t make it a process- leave and don’t look back. While it may feel like you would have closure, or even revenge, by reporting him– just leave and let that be your closure. Find a therapist or support group to help you regain a sense of hope for the future and to help you stay away from this man (and help you continue to have no contact with him). If you are having trouble finding mental health professionals, call your local crisis hotline and they can assist you.
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