Have you ever wished a narcissist could suffer eternally? You want them to feel an ounce of pain the same as you, and you want them to know what it feels like to be hurt.
Although they won’t admit it, they do suffer. In fact, they suffer quite a bit underneath that narcissistic layer of toxicity.
You’ll be pleased to know there are actually several ways they forever suffer…
…But what are they?
Let’s get started!
You Wouldn’t Think The Suffering Exists
As far as you can see, narcissists don’t appear outwardly to suffer at all. That’s because they’re good at hiding all the terrible things, including their own personalities.
So suffering, while it exists, you’ll only see the perfect version of everything.
Ways The Narcissist Buries Their Suffering
Narcissists will pile your drama and supply on top of their suffering, as well as those of everybody else they know.
The more things are going on, the deeper they are able to bury their suffering so nobody suspects a thing.
How You Are Affected
We become affected by the narcissist’s suffering because we get drawn into their toxic webs, and many of us give up before we find a way to escape.
We become like who we spend the most time with, and if that is a narcissistic partner or parent, they will eventually make us feel worthless too, just the same as they think about themselves.
The Narcissist Eternally Suffers From These 6 Things
1. Never Truly Knowing Happiness
When I think about this reason for too long, it truly blows my mind.
I love spending time with my family, being out in nature, eating good food, and making memories with people who are important to me.
I find happiness in changing seasons, or a nice, warm sunny day. I love that first taste of my morning coffee. I’m happy when I see people being kind to each other. I love a good movie.
I can pluck out so much from life that makes me genuinely happy.
Nothing makes a narcissist happy. Even your own misery makes them feel temporarily better about themselves but true happiness – well it just doesn’t exist.
It’s a real moment to think about, isn’t it? Imagine going through your whole life not knowing what the small things can do for your soul.
Think about all the tiny details narcissists miss because they’re so toxic that they are unable to tune in.
To live in that kind of world must be terribly bleak.
2. Not Experiencing Love
Love is everywhere. It’s in music, it’s in film, it’s in friends and family, communities and food, jobs and hobbies, relationships and beliefs – you can’t escape it.
Narcissists also see love as pathetic. They tend to roll their eyes at the mere mention of it.
God, you’re so weak.
Really? Come on, let’s not go overboard here.
Love? Pass me the sick bucket!
Alright, enough of this ridiculous display!
Love is banned in their worlds, and they easily repel it (unless they want something from you). You might ask yourself, “Gosh, what exactly is it about love you hate so much?”
I’ll tell you.
It’s actually the inability to feel it. Narcissists are unable to experience any kind of love, because love is such a deep emotion.
If you’re expecting a narcissist to get that deep -you can forget it!
A world without love is an incredibly dark, lonely and cold place right… Ah, Suddenly it all makes sense!
3. Constant Jealousy
I’m sure no narcissist will ever admit to being as extremely jealous as they are, but that doesn’t mean they don’t feel it!
Jealousy is their middle name. If someone has a new car, new promotion, nice house, or the time to spend working out – whatever it is – the narcissist will find a way to complain about them.
Look at them! They think they have it all!
If you had been more willing, we could have double what they’ve got by now!
You will never hear them say, “I’m so jealous!” That would be an outright admission that would mean they’re admitting to not being perfect.
Instead, they suffer silently with this raging green-eyed monster that is eternal envy.
And it’s usually the victim who suffers from it the most, as the narcissist’s anger projects into them.
4. Deep Self-Loathing
This is where I think of Jim Carrey in the Grinch, full of self-loathing and up and away on the hill by himself and his dog, Max.
Woe is me!
But you know what? At least he was open about it all.
At least he whined audibly at the fact that he hates himself and is a bitter fool.
The Grinch came around after lessons learned, but narcissists won’t.
Instead, their suffering is inward, and it’s eternal.
They can’t and won’t shed that part of themselves because doing so would mean beginning to love themselves or valuing who they could be if they stopped being narcissistic.
5. Having To Remember Lies and Stories
What a thing to have to do – all because being kind and honest is such a challenge to narcissists!
Remembering lies and stories you fabricate so that you can look good, manipulate, control, spread gossip or pretend to be innocent is how narcissists roll.
Every time they open their mouths, they’re forming a belief in somebody else. That belief will be stored and remembered – but does the narcissist store and remember?
Well – in short – they try to. Ultimately it’s impossible to do though, and that’s part of the reason they suffer so much from it.
Lies at the time act as a way in, or a way out.
If they make the narcissist look good, then even better!
But I will tell you one thing:
Narcissists aren’t as clever as you think; sometimes, they slip up.
Alarm sound: Activate!
All it takes is one slip-up for people to double-take and say, “Did he just say that? I thought last week he said the complete opposite!”
Suddenly, the narcissist isn’t trusted – and that is where the suffering for them really lies (excuse the pun).
6. Addictions
It doesn’t matter what the addiction is, but it matters that the narcissist turns to things that aren’t good for them to cope or get by.
Alcohol.
Gambling.
Smoking.
Drugs.
Even too much exercise.
They are all familiar obsessions the narcissist can have in their life to keep their addictive behavior up and running.
Addictions run on cycles, right? It’s the same with toxic relationships and how addictive the ups and downs are.
