I know so many of you are dying to know how to trigger a narcissist.
It’s not about getting your own back, it’s about reclaiming your power, and I am always in full support of that!
So, where does that leave you? It leaves you with an understanding that the fastest way to trigger a narcissist is to treat them exactly how they treat you.
It’s that easy, and trust me, this is a fail safe way to beat them at their own game.
I hope you came prepared!
#1 Fed up with the narcissist?
I get it. You’re so completely tired from the narcissist’s abuse that your soul feels ripped in half and depleted.
You’re tired of explaining yourself, tired of bending your life to suit them without anything in return coming back to you.
They don’t appreciate you, and you’ve tried to be patient with them.
You’ve hoped day and night for the past God knows how long, and yet nothing changes.
They still interrupt you, still dismiss your feelings, and still insist on controlling the relationship.
It’s been hard, and now you are seeing just how frequently they trigger you.
It’s time to start protecting yourself, instead of constantly trying to do it for the narcissist.
Where do you begin?
#2 What triggering the narcissist looks like
First up, you have to think about what their triggering has done to you.
All that time of keeping you on edge, pushing you to your limit and making you feel like you’re losing your mind.
You were triggered on so many occasions, and now? Now it’s time to unpack what that’s really looked like.
Triggering is never really yelling. It’s not direct, but it is calm. It;s how your boundaries have been quietly washed away.
It’s in the short answers the narcissist offers you, and the neutral energy you wish would just manifest into something meaningful.
You chase their approval because they corner you into thinking that approval has to be externally sourced.
You find that you explain yourself, and the narcissist makes you react with their thought out silence and damningly covert aggression.
Triggering the narcissist looks like all of these things in reverse. You’re showing them a mirror with a reflection of themselves in it, and they have no choice but to enter a triggered time, started and manipulated by you this time.
The fastest way to do that?
Treat them exactly how they treat you!
#3 How they treat you
Think about all those times you’ve been interrupted by the narcissist just so they can dominate the moment.
To feel superior, they totally dismiss you and criticize anything about you that they can. It’s all about gaining power, and stealing it from you.
Ignoring your needs comes at a price to you, who has spent so long chasing an ideal outcome between you both. You hope and want and desire.
The narcissist does nothing but twist your words and now you want to trigger them because you have seen the patterns and noticed just how toxic it all is.
There’s nothing wrong with playing them at their own game, in fact, there are fast ways you can make this happen, and treating them how they treat you is the one that works the best.
So what exactly does it mean to treat them how they treat you?
It’s time to find a mirror!
#4 Mirroring that treatment back
For starters, you have to stop over-explaining. They never feel the need to do that with you ,so why should you?
Stop giving them every detail of why, where, when and how. Immediately, the narcissist will hate that.
Next up, you stop rushing and dropping everything just to respond to them.
They are not the center of your universe, nor are they always a priority.
You keep your answers short, you keep a neutral tone. You don’t have to lace your words with sarcasm or even aggression, but you’re just reflecting back the same energy they’ve thrown your way all this time.
If they dare interrupt you, you don’t need to fight to be heard, just let them. That way, you’re not giving them any kind of reaction they’re hoping for.
Remember, the key is to align your behavior with how the narcissist acts, without offering any kind of meanness. It’s about you living your life without caring what they think.
This is exactly how they live, and how they treat you every single day.
#5 Let the triggering commence
The real shift begins when the triggering commences. The narcissist will notice the change and feel the distance, and the sense of their influence will dwindle.
Prepare at this point for them to push your buttons even harder, to provoke and test you.
What they’re doing is looking for the old version of you, the one who would apologize and provoke you.
It’s not a war you’re starting, you’re simply ending a toxic pattern that the narcissist pushed you into.
It feels freeing, and as you trigger the narcissist more and more, you become a person you start to recognize.
Soon enough, you will start to see why this is the only way you can truly – and quickly – ruffle their feathers.
#6 Taking care of you
Remember, all the while you’re triggering the narcissist, you aren’t trying to change them.
This is more about choosing you, reclaiming your space and being able to rest and breathe easy.
Triggering them by treating them exactly how they treat you will allow you to stop measuring your worth based on how they treat you or their reactions.
This is a person who drained you, made you feel small, and whose moods you have feared all this time. Now you triggerthem, and gain some control over the dynamic back again.
Mirroring isn’t just a tactic, it’s a boundary for you to keep and protect your space, your peace, and your future.
I think that’s definitely something well worth fighting for.
#7 Accountability from treatment
If the narcissist doesn’t mind treating you the way they have, then there should be no guilt in you in mirroring that back to them.
You aren’t here to teach them a lesson, or punish them. You are doing this to protect yourself.
Accountability doesn’t always come through conversation, and we all know how much the narcissist will deny accountability if you try to engage with them.
When you stop accepting less, it will pain the narcissist. It will finally show them and give them a reason to view your mirroring as the trigger that it is.
There’s no better way to respect yourself, and you can leave your anger at the door.
We all know these kinds of strong emotions really offer nothing else to the situation aside from more trouble, and more hurt.
When you’ve reached your limits, triggering them will make their toxic house of cards fall down.
When you treat them how they treat you, you will reveal to them exactly the type of person they are.
This is thek ind of energy I want for all of you.
