Narcissists are creepy all the time, but they can take their creepiness to another level the moment they become bored with you.
This is where they can really play you for the fool they think you are, and where the entire dynamics of your relationship can be rocked, simply because they feel like it.
There’s nothing more toxic, and I want to make sure this list of creepy things narcissists do when they’re bored with you hits home.
Don’t be played, starting today.
#1 It’s only a matter of time
If you are madly in love with a narcissist, it might seem insulting to say that they’d possibly ever get bored with you.
You think you’re the best thing that’s happened to them because they tell you so. You think you’re happy together, as that’s the impression the narcissist gives you.
Until they don’t.
Someday, at some point or another, you will find that the narcissist you know will become bored, and when they do, it’s only a matter of time before the creepy things they do start.
This is about having your wits about you, because you can blink and miss some of the creepiest acts.
#2 When boredom strikes, things get creepy
When a narcissist is bored, the atmosphere will shift. It’ll become prickly, because you know something is going on with them.
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They may act uninterested, but that’s while you’re around and can see them.
You think perhaps they just need to get out and do something to keep them occupied, but they already know what they want to do, and it involves you.
I hate to say it, but this is just another way the narcissist will use and abuse you.
It’d be nice if they chose something nice for you both to do, to alleviate that boredom, but nope. We aren’t talking about those kinds of people.
So what does a narcissist do when they’re bored, and why is it so creepy?
#3 Starting a fight for no reason
Just when you think you can chill out and relax, the bored narcissist will have other plans.
The last thing you like is conflict. You just want to live to please, and will do anything to make the narcissist happy.
That being said, you shrivel up a little the moment the mood changes, and as they start a fight, you slump into it.
Every time you go through any drama, you become less and less energetic afterward. It takes you longer to pull yourself out of it, and the narcissist knows this.
To relieve any boredom, they’re well known for saying something that stokes a fire, or gets a reaction from you.
They’re well aware of your triggers, and will use them against you when it suits them because they’ve got nothing better to do.
#4 Ignoring you: the ultimate trigger
This is one that really hurts victims. They know exactly how you feel when they ignore you. They’re aware of the anxiety you feel, and how unsettled it gets you.
You mull over what you may have said or done wrong to upset them, and their entertainment becomes you asking what’s wrong, or in all the ways you try to fix what they know they’ve broken.
You rustle up their favorite meal in an attempt to get them talking, you try to make conversation.
Nothing is good enough, and nothing works.
That’s because you are an experiment to the narcissist.
#5 Spreading rumors
Have you ever been subjected to rumors spread about you by a narcissist? This is classic behavior that they project out when they feel like it.
From your finances being painted across town, to assumptions about you; narcissists will make sure it’s your name and not theirs out there, to take the flack for any wrongdoing.
The problem with rumors is, the narcissist will make them seem so real, and that’s harder for you to talk your way out of.
Being bored shouldn’t mean wanting to stir the pot of trouble, but sadly for you, that’s how narcissists operate.Being bored means they are conjuring up their next game, and it will always be you who suffers.
#6 Threatening to leave
A threat to leave is an invitation to argue. The narcissist wants to see you cry and beg, plead and chase.
Boredom for them is nothing but an excuse to leave you feeling as though you’ve done something wrong.
You haven’t.
I’ve had enough.
This isn’t working.
If you don’t start paying more attention to this relationship, I will have no choice but to leave.
The panic sets in. Why wouldn’t it? You think everything is fine until they just feel like causing problems, and always at the expense of your wellbeing.
Nobody in a loving relationship should be threatening to leave.
#7 Spying on you
Looking for the next reason to yell at you is precisely where the narcissist loves to be. Spying on you will offer them information they can use against you.
Where have you been?
Who were you with?
Why are you late?
Who are these people on your socials?
Why are you following your ex?
The questions will come in thick and fast. Boredom gives the narcissist time to really dig deep and watch your every move, because they want to find fault with it.
Picking at your life gives them great pleasure. And you may not even be doing anything wrong at all, but the chances are you will be looked upon as so the moment they have a spare hour or two to follow you.
#8 Cheating
A big one, and one I am sure far too many of you have experience in.
Cheating and narcissists fit so well in the same sentence, and nowadays with the internet, it’s so easy to get a quick fix if you’re so inclined.
If you are a healthy person in a healthy relationship, those chances are luckily small, but narcissists fit neither of those molds, and will seek to cheat any opportunity they get.
This all boils down to entitlement. They can do what they like, but you can’t even speak to your own sister without it being some kind of problem.
Cheating is never okay, but cheating through boredom shows a person’s real character.
Needless to say, it’s so creepy to even think about somebody turning to another person just because they’re at a loose end and have time to kill.
#9 None of this is a reflection on you
Why would any of it be a true reflection on you? The narcissist will try to make it look that way, but the truth stands:
You are never to blame for the narcissist’s treatment of you.
Toxic people will do toxic things, all because they feel as though the earth revolves around them. It’s always going to be you who suffers, and that makes your own self-esteem tank even lower than it was before.
Just because a narcissist fails to know what to do with their own time, doesn’t mean you should fall victim to their boredom.
