How many times have you seen a jealous narcissist live in action?
Let me tell you – it’s not pretty. It’s pretty pathetic.
They act like petulant children, pulling any trick out of their narcissistic hat to get back at you for being a threat to them.
In fact, there are a lot of weird things narcissists do when they’re jealous. If you’re sitting comfortably, let’s start from the beginning.
You will never unsee these from now on!
Jealousy – Not Your Burden To Carry
Whenever a narcissist acts a certain way, you have to understand that this has nothing to do with you. There are times they convince others wholly that they’re the problem.
All drama is caused by you.
Conflict has your name all over it.
The reason they’re pissed at you is because you acted up, or asked too many questions.
You didn’t support them, so they’re mad.
Jealousy is no different. The jealousy that derives from any narcissist is irrational and unhealthy, and yet they still refuse to carry it, so they pass it to you as soon as they can.
They will do this in various ways, and that’s why we are here today.
Before we do, please understand this:
The jealousy of the narcissist should in no way convert to your own burden.
Not ever.
#1 Silent Treatment
The silent treatment is a punishment.
In this instance, your punishment is that you (unknowingly) targeted the narcissist, and threatened them in some way.
Let’s cut to the chase here, because nobody should be so jealous that they actually stop talking to you.
Again – this isn’t a you problem. This is how the narcissist cannot rationalize what’s going on in their minds, so they resort to the easiest thing possible – stopping talking.
All well and good to them, right? But what about you? You’re left wondering what the heck is going on.
How did it come to this? Why are they being quiet with you? Why has their refusal to talk become today’s priority for them?
Because whatever you’ve achieved, they want to squash.
#2 Cutting Comments
You only got the job because barely anybody else applied.
I’m sure you were promoted because they felt sorry for you.
You don’t deserve a pay rise. You don’t even like your job.
I’m sure it’s fun to paint, but I don’t see a permanent income from what you do. You’re just not good enough.
Comments such as these are designed to hurt you. Just when you’re having a good day and something amazing happens, along comes the narcissist to convert your color to black and white.
#3 Start Talking About a “Friend” Suddenly
Hey, if you can have friends or good things going on, so can the narcissist!
Anything you can do, I can do better!
It’s going to be a game of who can win. The narcissist will turn blue in the face in order to beat you at this.
What they won’t do is tell you it’s because they’re jealous.
#4 Sign Up To a Dating App
If you’re not giving them what they want, they will look for it elsewhere.
Narcissists, in their jealous rage, will ensure they feel like they’re getting revenge on you by hitting up total strangers.
It’s a very irrational way to deal with emotions they simply cannot regulate – but that’s narcissists all over for you.
#5 Sabotage Your Success
If you’re successful, they are going to have a problem.
Don’t you understand that the narcissist is the only person who is allowed to have good things happen to them?
If that person becomes you, then how are they to impress anybody? Where will the attention land?
Prepare for your success to be ruined by them.
Failing to help you.
Not turning up at your event.
Telling you that you’re useless.
These are all ways that potentially sabotage your success.
#6 Be Late Or Refuse To Turn Up To Celebrations
If you’re about to celebrate some big news, you’re going to be buzzing for a get together like no other.
Finally, you passed that exam.
You got the keys to the house of your dreams.
You hit your target weight.
You did something worth remembering – and something worth partying for.
And so, you arrange a time and place. Everybody shows up…
Everybody except the narcissist.
They text to say they can’t make it, if you’re lucky. Jealousy is usually more hurtful than this, and they will simply ghost you.
This leaves you abandoning your good news and trying to call them all night.
Everybody asks why you’re distracted.
In truth – it’s them.
Every single time.
#7 Remind You That You’re Not All That
You’d better check yourself!
Don’t get too big for your boots!
Comments like this will come when one thing finally happens to you that is good.
How dare you take a day off from your usual low moods and confidence?!
#8 Push Out Your Insecurities – Back To Earth With a Thud
If you have something good going on, the narcissist will fight for your insecure self to return by dropping them at your feet.
Your smile is so gappy when you’re happy.
You really should work on looking better in your graduation photos.
I’m surprised you passed your test, seeing as you’re dyslexic.
Isn’t it disgusting the kinds of lengths narcissists will go to, to see the smile fade fast from your face?
#9 Out Rolls The Bad Advice
Narcissists want to see you fail.
As a result, they would love to throw bad advice your way when things are going so well for you.
This is so whatever good you’ve got going on will be ruined much faster.
#10 Tracking Apps Painted As Concern
I just want to make sure you’re okay!
No… you want to spy on me.
You want to know that I am where I say I am.
You want to ask me why I took a detour on the way home, even though I only wanted to post a letter.
Narcissists are jealous when you do things without them. If you dare do this, the request for tracking apps is a strong possibility.
You have been warned!
#11 Rage
If I rage and shout and scream, the feeling of positivity and pride you currently have is going to disappear fast!
Narcissists will do that. Shout. Hollar. Whatever they need to do to prove to you that whatever you’re achieving, they can make more noise.
#12 Cry
I am happy for you, don’t get me wrong. I just need a moment.
This reminds me of a time I tried hard to do the same, and I failed.
I’ll be okay. No honestly, you celebrate.
Don’t feel bad about being happy.
As I write these phrases, I feel anger inside for all the genuine people who succeed authentically.
This is why jealousy can rip away your happiness.
#13 “I Feel So Unwell”
Distract from you by pulling a sickie – classic!
And what can you do, blame them? The sick card is designed for maximum sympathy and omitting you from any celebrations due to you.
Now that is sick!
