If you think the narcissist is running around the house and setting up booby traps for burglars when they’re home alone – you’ve been watching one too many movies!
When alone in their home, narcissists find it eerily uncomfortable. They hate the idea of their own company, and will do anything to get out of the hostile loop that’s going on in their mind.
There are 11 things narcissists do when they are at home alone. If you’re in any doubt that they despise themselves – you’re about to have all those doubts erased.
Out of Sight, Out of Mind
Narcissists need somewhere to live, and their homes are usually where they least like to be…
…Especially if they’re alone!
When alone, there’s nobody to talk to. Nobody to lie to. Nobody to manipulate.
Nobody to control. Nobody to exaggerate to. Nobody to impress. Nobody to flirt with. Nobody to upset.
Before you really start to feel sorry for them, I want you to think about what that means. It means they will do some crazy stuff while they get the chance.
Being out of sight and mind means narcissists have extra work to do in order to be noticed, or get that supply hit they’re after.
…For Them…
It’s a worrying time. Left with their own company, they have to keep busy to prevent the self-hatred from rising up to a high enough point where they can’t control it.
…And For You…
Peace, perfect peace, right? You get a break from them without being under your feet or within your range.
And I bet you are somewhere alone, and loving your own company! (Rightly so!)
So, let’s break down these 11 things.
#1 Stalk You Online
First, if they can’t be with you in person, you can bet they will sit with the online version of you.
It comes from the desperate need to fill the void their insecurities are leaving.
Unable to know what you’re up to, they will look for signs that you’re busy (how dare you make plans without them, or not invite them?!)
They want to know what you did before you met, who you hung out with, what you looked like, and they will sit and scroll back for hours if they have to.
Googling your name and details isn’t past them, either. If any search results can offer up more clues as to who you are, then that’s exactly what they’re going to look for when they are on their own.
#2 Text Anybody
Is anybody there?
Answer me?
I will talk to literally anybody at this point?
Shall I set up a WhatsApp group chat?
What is that person I haven’t spoken to in months doing?
Texts will fly into their phones and to the unsuspecting in a matter of minutes.
The narcissist will sit and await replies. Who will reply first? Will it be engaging enough to give them the supply hit they are so evidently looking for?
Filling time by needlessly chatting to people they don’t care about is a good way to pass that time. They will do it until the sun goes down (and more).
#3 Scroll Social Media
Social media is the rabbit hole we all easily find ourselves from time to time. Admittedly, I’ve been guilty of watching reels or shorts as I commute, or if I am having a bit of a lazy day.
This is different.
This is worse.
#4 Busy, Busy, Busy
If they’re not busy, they’re sinking quickly into the realization of just how much they hate themselves.
I can’t stress this enough.
Narcissists hate who they are when they look in the mirror.
The idea that they aren’t good enough is their most powerful trait that they project back into the world.
Nothing you do is good enough.
You are the one who has to suffer for their lack of self-love.
Any kind of loathing is converted into entitlement. They’re owed a life of luxury to make up for all the reasons they actually don’t deserve an ounce.
Is it starting to make sense yet?
#5 Mirror Time
This mirror is my gateway to charming everybody I meet.
I must smile, and practice, and work on how I appear to others.
This is not a time for joking around. This is me.
Mirrors are good for narcissists to look into and act. A little like a rehearsal stage, they show the narcissist what the outside world sees when they view them. This has to be right, and it has to be perfect.
There’s no better time to do this than being home alone.
#6 Workout
Workouts are healthy – and you don’t have to be a narcissist to want to keep fit and exercise.
Narcissists take it to another level by working out intensely, regularly, and more than anybody else you know.
They hit the gym, and if they can’t hit the gym they will workout at home.
It’s a good opportunity to let all their rage out when alone. Knowing they’re constantly improving their physical image is also suitable for them.
They assume that all we care about is their appearance, but it’s never enough of a distraction from how they act.
#7 Google Everything
If they can find out information about you, or anybody else they know or want to know online, narcissists will find a way.
Googling not just people, but events, shopping, the latest trends, how much cars or houses they love cost, possible vacation ideas – the list is endless.
Google gives them knowledge, and knowledge acts as a different kind of power to them than you or I.
They use it to get one up on people, or to seem more intelligent than anybody else in their environment.
So yes – Google is popular.
#8 Post on Social Media
If a narcissist is caught at a loose end and has a night in, they don’t need to tell the world that.
What would people think?
Oh, you can’t be as popular as you say you are if you’re home alone.
So what do they do?
Posting that they’re out somewhere, for a start.
They share photos taken a while back of a landmark they visited or an impressive meal they had out.
Anything to look busy, in demand, and important.
#9 Flirt With Strangers
The loose end of a narcissist will always reach strangers online. It’s quick, easy, and instant gratification is involved.
Flirting isn’t harmless to the narcissist, who enjoys looking and feeling irresistible to the world around them.
This is one of those occasions.
Stroke my ego!
#10 Message Old Flames
If there is a chance you can gain a little supply while you’re home alone, then what do you have to lose, right, narcissist?
Always hovering one hand over the ex-button, narcissists know they will win in a situation where they’ve always had one – the supply of ghosts past.
For them, it’s a way of extracting what they need when nobody and nothing else is entertaining them.
#11 Watch Adult Content
Last but certainly not least – you got it.
Adult content is popular with narcissists who find the act of love or intimacy within normal society difficult.
For them, viewing an explicit video is enough to satisfy them. No love is needed, no love expressed, and nobody has to feel uncomfortable about it afterward.
Of course – this has to be done alone – an is another seedy secret of the narcissist.
